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In last 3 weeks, I talked to 3 girls who all seemed very positive in my approach, happily punched their digits and typed up their names in my cellphone. Usually I send a witty text the same night depending on the info I gathered from them during approach and they reply too. This also helps me give them my no. I don't reply after that unless their text requires me to.
Then after 2-3 days of gap I ask them for an innocent coffee in the evening 24 hrs in advance. Either I get no response or girl flaking out last moment saying she has stuff to do.
My questions are-
is a 2 min conversation and then couple of texts enough for a girl to agree to get coffee with you?
When is the right time to ask for coffee after you get the number?
Should I be texting more to build a rapport before asking her for a meetup?
1. When you get her number, tell her that you are going to meet her for coffee. It reduces flakes. You can even ask like this "We should meet up for coffee, give me your number and we'll set up a time.". That way nothing is weird later on, and it makes her feel like she already actually agreed to meet up for coffee if she gave the number, so it's rude to flake later on, although if you didn't build report it's still very possible to get flakes.
2. Quick. If I had a really good interaction with a girl, I don't mess around afterwards. If I got her number super quick because she was on the go or something, then I might try to chat over text a bit but even then I'll only wait a few days. It's just coffee. If I message a girl "hey I'm free Sunday morning, lets grab a coffee" and she texts back "we don't really know each other that well" or anything even resembling that (anything that indicates that she thinks that meeting up for coffee is a bit fast or forward) I'll reply with "It's just coffee, I'm not gonna get on my knee and propose. I figured it would be a good time to meet up, since I stay pretty busy. So let me know if you're up for it."
Its a no bullshit response. If there's any attraction at all, meeting up for coffee shouldn't be a big deal. And you should let her know that you have high standards and that you aren't the kinda guy that's gonna be her phone buddy for weeks on end just to try to earn a coffee date with her. Guide her with confidence, and if she's attracted to you then it shouldn't be a problem.
3. Try to build plenty of report when you get her number because no texting game in the world makes up for making a good impression in person.
Some of my tricks to build report if I'm just grabbing a number.
- I'll send her a text right then and there, so she has my name. And it will usually be a funny comment or something like that. So when you text her later on she knows who it is.
- If we meet at a club, a party, a bar, or anything fun, as in the kind of place where you will be taking pictures, after I grab the number I'll tell her to put my number in her phone, then I'll hug her in and get her friend or get her to take a selfie of us. It makes you appear like a couple, and it's a picture of you two having fun. Then I grab her phone and set it as my contact picture. So every time I text her or call her, she gets a photo that reminds her of the fun we were having last time we met. If there's a really good connection I'll tell her to kiss my cheek for the photo or I'll kiss hers. Anything to show that I'm interested and confident.