To preface, I do a vast majority of my gaming online and have easily laid over 100 girls from OkCupid, Tinder, etc. I have a pretty routine method of meeting out for coffee/a drink briefly, and then arranging a "watch a movie and bang" date. I've come a long way from a 20 yr old virgin to a 24 yr old who has banged 3-4 different girls in one week at times.
The problem for me seems to be the sluts. The girls who are easy and looking to get laid. I turn them off and repulse them, and I don't know why. I can nab the conservative, traditional girls who never give it away too soon and coax them into taking their clothes off. The relationship minded clingers feel safe around me and open up quickly (figuritively and literally).
I have a disturbing trend where skanky girls don't want to get it on with me, and it worries me that I can't display the alpha qualities and take what's there to be claimed. I rely too much on my routines and process rather than exerting that I want to rip a girl's clothes off and drill her. Skanks don't respond to mind games as much as they do to core physical attractiveness and a true, brute alpha male.
Example: on monday I started talking to an okcupid chick. within 10 minutes of messaging I asked her if she wanted to go out for a drink and she obliged. I picked her up and took her to the bar, using my usual routine of jokes, stories, and wisecracks. Mind you, this girl was no prize. A little chubbier than I thought, and probably a 6 at best. She mentioned she just got a DWI and also was a fiendish chain smoker.
But she immediately gave off signs that she was an easy slut. Within a few minutes of meeting she said things like, "so many girls want a relationship, I'm really just looking to hang out and have fun". And "I'm open person. I love having sex and I'm not ashamed to say it."
My eyes lit up because I smelled the blood in the water. This should have been an easy lay. We got to the bar and ordered our drinks and had a great time. We laughed and built great rapport. After a few drinks I decided I didn't want to spend the night there and it was time to escalate. I offered to take her home and as we were driving back, randomly pulled over and started making out with her to judge her reaction. She was into it and started running her hands through my hair as I continued driving. Once at her place, we made out in my car some more but then she stopped short, saying "let's do this again sometime!" and got out and went inside, not even giving me the slightest opening to follow her in and lay her.
I got an immediate follow up text from her saying she had a great time, and I was disappointed I didn't secure the same day lay but still felt pretty good. Today, I asked her what she was up to and she said she was really busy and had to wake up early. My buddy was over and he has an okcupid too, so my curiosity took over and i asked him to send her a message (she has no idea him and i are friends). here's the conversation:
him: hey whats up? meet anyone on this app yet? any good times or disasters?
her: i actually met a monday night. It was relaly great! we both made fun of everyone at the bar and ourselves. It was spontnaeous and cool.
him: oh thats cool. u gonna see him again?
her: hmm idk. he asked me to hang out tonight and i turned him down
him: oh word. well would u be down to hang out with me and have some fun ?
her: dont get me wrong, i'm all for having sex the first time i meet someone. I just want it to happen naturally and not be pre-planned like that haha. sorry :/
him: oh so did you bang the guy you met yesterday?
her: no i got more of a friend vibe from him
UGHHH! Infuriating. I don't want to befriend girls like this... it makes me so angry at myself that I'm not able to capitalize. This sort of thing happens consistently. Another example was me going to a Tinder girl's house and after I started making out with her she bluntly said, "you're a great guy, but I don't want to **** you. sorry!"
These girls should be easy, quick penetration and they're probably pretty wild and outgoing in the sack. The thrill of boning girls that will want to cuddle and cry after sex gets old after a while.
I think I may need to assert myself more as a sexual being and not an aloof wiseguy. I need to look a girl in the eye and tell her what I'm going to do to her later rather than a passive aggressive neg. Anyone else have this issue? Insight?
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