I'll try to keep this post short. My Gf of a year and a half have been rocky for the past few months. We both love each other, and I want to make it work with this girl again, but we just keep missing each other for some reason. What happened last night was preceded by a fight we had had the night before, so from the get-go was hypersensitive to everything. My gf was at a dinner/house party with her friends, and afterwards they decided to go to a strip club where I met them. I get there and my girlfriend is already plastered and in a bad mood. She keeps egging me on for a fight, so i decide to go outside for some air. When I come back i see her and all her friends are in the washroom of the club, so i decide to go back outside again. Now THIS is where all hell breaks loose. When I came back in she's livid confronts me saying i walked into the washroom with a girl and then when i saw her ran out, supposedly the stripper said ''oh is that your boyfriend?'' Later on she said I was holding her hand and just kept adding lies. As we're arguing she slaps me across the face a few times, says she hates me, at which point I leave. Stupidly because im weak i come back and we're at it again. Next she's all lovey again, and I decide we're going home. At this point shes so drunk she can barely walk. As we're making our way to the car, shes telling me how much she hates me, telling me how low i am, how poor i am, how i bring my family down (?), on top of all this shes hitting me, spitting, running away, even threw a cone at me (shes 28 btw). Finally we get to the car and she starts fucking with me while driving, changing the gears pulling the e-break. After all this we get home, i put her in bed and call it a night. Next morning she wakes up apologizing saying she loves me, i tell her i'd never disrespect anyone like that and that i need a break and time to re-evaluate everything. That Im on the brink of breaking up. I know this is going to sound dumb to alot of people but i do still care about this girl and would want to work it out, but only in a way where I'll be happy. So now that its come to this point, wtf do i do? Shes never done anything even remotely close to this, and for me its the final straw. What do I do now? I NEED my manhood and respect from her. I will only stay in this relationship if i can get what i want, ive been a doormat for too long. What do I do?

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When people are drunk that's when they are usually at their most honest. Her behavior was unacceptable and you need to walk away.

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You need to be willing to lose her and begin asserting your masculinity here. Either she complies or she loses you, and you should let her feel that. For instance, walking back into the strip club after she slapped you was the exact opposite of that.

And personally, if a girl had pulled such a temper tantrum on me in the car, I seriously would have stopped and given her a piece of my mind (this being telling her to shut up and stop her childish crap, because the only reason she is here in the car is because you are too responsible to let her get raped but would really really gladly kick her out right now because she is being a ridiculous drunk, and you are not even going to bother discussing anything with her in her current state). You can always sort things out the day after, when she's calmer, more rational and probably aware of how ridiculous she was being.

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Of course this is a good time to talk, but has no bearing on when she gets drunk again. Women stay with abusive men because their rationale is that they only act that way when they're drunk. Those same men will apologize because they use the excuse that they were drunk. Women can be the same way. Since society doesn't frown on abusive women the say way they do abusive men, we tend to allow them to get away with it because we are man enough to take it. Men need to walk away from violent situations with women.

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To quote GKS on one of your OTHER threads on this girl, a year ago:
You're 22, she's 28. If she doesn't respect you, it's because you don't respect yourself. And you don't. The girl knows this a fucked up relationship so the mere fact you're there shows her you don't respect yourself. You can't stay with her and get respect. You can't. You can tell her to respect you, set boundaries do all that stuff...but at the end of the day you're still there so how much can you really respect yourself? That's like lying in a pool of shit for a year and then telling passerbys to say good morning to you. You're lying in shit. As Jackzero said, this is abusive. You can't walk away and then take her back. Cause once you go back, you'll be showing her you STILL don't respect yourself. Either eventually she'll dump you or you too will continue being like this. Real advice: leave and figure your shit out. Gain confidence and self respect instead of trying to make a shit girl respect you when you don't respect you.

Fisherman from one of your threads

You ain't walking. You'll threaten to break up or break up and take her back and continue. You're not here for advice because many guys have told you to walk. Some part of you likes this so stay.

Today she called apologizing and crying, an i told her its over. I cant have someone like that who disrespects me so much in my life. I'll see how the next little while goes, im hoping to work things out but only under my terms. Ill never stoop so low again

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Well done dude but you should cut all contact delete her off every source of contact possible. Then let her keep chasing and chasing and bring her down to the lowest she can go. Then you have the power and credentials to build her up.

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Stick with it. Don't let her get in touch with you. Stay busy, meet other girls. Trust me, when you're mind is telling you "I really love this chick even though she acts like a bitch" it's out of fear that you won't find a better girl. And quality girls are all over the place.

When a girl wrongly calls you out for cheating, it usually means she is cheating herself and trying to deflect attention away from herself.

idk about this hunter, if a girl has been cheated on before she'll be insecure perhaps paranoid. i think that happens a lot. i got cheated on years ago and as for the next girl i dated (poor chick), i constantly assumed was cheating on me and was paranoid about it to the point where i had to break up with her to get my shit straight. i never once thought about cheating on her. i think this scenario is probably more common.

that being said, it's still a red flag and if combined with other behavior then yes, your girl is probably cheating on you. but that on it's own isn't enough in my book.

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god how far the men of the world have fallen when op gets pimp-slapped by his blackout drunk gf and then takes her home and tucks her in and comes to the pua forum asking how he can work things out because he still has feelings for her.

op you're a young guy and i understand you were raised in a hyper-feminized society that has basically lied to you from the get-go about what women need in relationships and how to be a good boyfriend. and i understand you're dating an older woman whom you most likely revere somewhat because older people "have shit figured out."

i'm guessing you don't have much relationship experience or experience with women to begin with. and that's fine. but you need to understand that you have the power to go out and find a much, much, much better mate than this abusive drunk.

so leave. do not be friendly to her whatsoever. do not explain a god damn thing to her. just leave. cut all contact. delete her number, delete her from all of her social media networks, get all of your shit out of her place and all of her shit out of your place. she is physically abusing you. it's unacceptable and you're going to have serious issues if you don't get out now.

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