So i've been seeing a girl who i had dated for about 3 months last year and the relationship has rekindled after we met up up at a party about 3 weeks ago. So last friday we met up go out and i end up in her room that friday. She doesn't want to have sex so we just mess around and talk in her bed for about an hour. Then suddenly her neighbor comes in her apartment and opens the door to us barely clothed in her bed. He leaves as soon as he sees whats going on and i ask her wtf is going on. She tells me she's been seeing this guy since the beginning of the semester and has been torn between me and him ever since we met a couple weeks ago. This is when she admits to me that she's never met a guy like me and how amazing i am yadda yadda and then drops a bomb and tells me she thinks i'm like husband material. She says she hasn't slept with this guy yet and starts getting real deep and asks me if everyone happens for a reason and questions like that. Well after shes showed me her hand she continues to play head games (ex. told me earlier in the night shes staying in and then calls me at night saying shes at a party right by my house and that she'll be over, never shows and ignores my call) and I already went through with this shit last year and i'm not doing it again. Do i call her out on this and tell her I'm not gonna play these games and if she wants to continue seeing me shes gotta knock it off? Basically how do i go from here with as less drama and games as possible

Don't let people treat you in a way that you don't want to be treated.

As for her, don't contact her anymore. When she contacts you, you explain to her how you expect to be treated. If she can't accept that you just move onto the next girl.

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you need to find another girl and save yourself a shitload of time and energy and sanity, but since you're not gonna do that, here we go:
maybe she has maybe she hasn't. i'd assume she's slept with him if it's already november and they've been hanging since the beginning of the semester.
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nope. if you actually want this girl then you play the game harder than her and drive her fucking insane until she is begging to be with you and not fucking around by not responding to calls and texts.

but the problem is you haven't stated what you want. do you want her to be your girlfriend? do you want her to be a fuckbuddy? elaborate on your goals and then i can give you better advice.

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You must be overconfident and cocksure, even if you haven't got a god damn thing in the world going for you. And you must fail with women until you do not fear the possibility of failure, whereupon you will succeed wildly.

Well winter coming and its gets pretty cold where i am so i've learned from experience its best to find someone to get locked down for the period of time since meeting quality girls is normally pretty hard and you can get yourself in a lengthy dry spell. So as of now all i want is consistent fuck buddy but i'd consider being in serious relationship with this girl since we do have good chemistry it all depends on if she changes her act or not. hope that helps

ok that's a legit enough reason for me.

but if that's actually the case then yeah you're gonna have to play the game.

now you may be husband material but this chick is definitely not wife material, nor long term girlfriend material. she's fucking around with you by saying she's asleep and then texting you while she's out, then not responding. all that means is she's out playing the field and she probably went and hooked up with the neighbor or some other guy that night. you need to be assuming that that's what is happening. don't assume she isn't telling the neighbor the same shit about being husband material.

don't call her out on anything. make her think you have twenty girls you're seeing at the same time and she's just one of them. don't be available to hang out every time. if she says she's staying home, then go looking for other girls and don't respond to her when she hits you up later saying she's at a party. don't respond to all of her texts. make her chase you.

and no more hanging out and talking for an hour without banging her. pro tip: if a girl says "you're husband material" that means you're the nice guy and there's some other bad boy she's banging. you want to be that bad boy first.

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You must be overconfident and cocksure, even if you haven't got a god damn thing in the world going for you. And you must fail with women until you do not fear the possibility of failure, whereupon you will succeed wildly.

You want someone to shack up with over the winter, go out and make a bunch of approaches over the next couple of weeks. a) it will get this girl more interested in you (which you won't care about as much because her importance level to you will have gone way down seeing as you have met some new girls) and b) you may actually find a girl worthy of chilling with rather than the girl who sits and talks in her bed with you while the neighbor barges in with (possibly) the intent to fuck the shit out of her.