I was out in a club talking to this Spanish girl where the conversation was going well. There had already been a good IOI in the strong eye contact she gave me (which is why I went up to her), and during the conversation there was heavy kino from me which was being accepted well. We were both standing up on the dance floor and the kino included holding her hips, holding her hand whilst talking and also spinning her around at another point later on.

After around 5-10 minutes with me thinking I'm definitely in there and not to waste time (as not making a move and being a pussy used to be my biggest problem for years), I thought "fuck it, I should just go for it". I said something like "you know, I've never kissed a Spanish girl" (that line has worked before for whatever nationality lol!) and looked at her lips and moved in closer. Can't remember exactly what she said but she backed off. Conversation continued well and a bit later after that, she said she was going to go back to her friend who was by himself. I got her number and will contact her to arrange a date etc, but I'm wondering what I could have done at the time to make out with her.

What can one do when there are clear IOI's with a girl but the kiss is just not forthcoming as it's too early etc? Is it just to be patient, keep going and getting to know her better etc, or are there any specific routines that can speed things up in this situation? Though, of course, some girls will make out with a guy within 5 minutes!

Two things..

1) You don't need a line to say before kissing a girl; it puts her on notice and forces to decide whether it is too soon or not. You want to kiss her, you just go for it. Simple. No preparation. Just go.

2) The kiss becomes easier and easier the further it is from what it is you are trying to get from the girl. If your goal is to sleep with her, you will be met with resist the closer you get to your goal. If your goal is to kiss her, you will be met with resistance the closer you get to that. So you want to set your goal so far out of reach and then go for that; while settling for sex, kisses, etc.

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lol I feel it for you... Being a Spaniard myself, I know that Spanish girls can be HARD at times! I agree with the fact that you should not have given her a prior notice before kissing her, this just makes her overthink things way too much...

That being said, don't sweat it. Even if you have the tightest game, Spanish girls can be really entitled and stuck up at times and still reject you for apparently no reason. If you ask me, your best bet with Spanish girls, particularly when partying, is to give up on most of your sophistication and go in with HIGH ENERGY. You just want them to have fun with you. Also, you want to have some SOLID inner game; be secure of yourself. Don't be afraid of seeming too cocky at times. Spanish people are known for being pretty full of themselves.

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You didn't do anything weird or creepy/desperate. Giving a girl a slight notice is a much better idea than "just going for it". Any chick who is going to respond well to you just randomly grabbing her and kissing her, is going to go along with it when giving slight warning. I prefer body language signals(stop speaking, eye contact and moving in slowly) over verbal statements, but it's a pretty minor difference. Not every girl wants to kiss you at every moment.

On the other hand, kissing her when she does not want to be kissed, just about assures she is going to cut you off from that point forward. You always want to push forward, without making her uncomfortable. Kissing her for the first time when she doesn't want to be kissed is going to do a lot of damage.

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Thanks all for the replies. Next time I will use more non verbal cues that I'm about to kiss her and follow the advice in the other posts too. All very useful.