Yesterday, I got a message from a girl on Jdate who seemed seriously offended by what I said in my last messaged her.

Originally, before I ever messaged her she viewed my profile without messaging me. So I tried one if the bravo PUA lines, which was "oh boy...." Eventually I got a response from her saying, "Hmm. . .that's one way to get a reply. . Is the 'oh boy' a good thing? (I hope)" so then a few days later I respond back to her with another bravo pua line which was "Oh man, you look like one of the those girls who takes forever to get ready. My sister is like that. Cant deal with it anymore." Finally, that's when she responded back to me yesterday saying "Why would you write to me if all you wanted to do was insult me? And, no, I am not one of those girls."


I didn't mean to insult her, I was just trying to tease her and get her to qualify herself just as the bravo PUA guy suggested. Is this girl just being overly sensitive?

Lol I know this sort of situation and it's something that is way more common for online stuff as they can't go on your body language and tone of voice (which IRL may have conveyed playful teasing than a flat-out insult)

How hot is this girl? if she isn't that attractive or you sense the vibe she has low self esteem be careful with teasing.

She is kinda of cute looking. I'd say she is about a HB6.

I get that because they can't see and hear your body language and tone of voice respectively that they are not able to tell if whether or not you were serious. However, I tried doing exactly one of the lines that that PUA guy Bravo said in the youtube video which Pebble referred me to www.youtube.com/watch?v=65fRrFJnrBg. So, what am I supposed to do?

you used 2 openers in a row!

why didnt you respond to her question, instead of ignoring it?

"Hmm. . .that's one way to get a reply. . Is the 'oh boy' a good thing? (I hope)"

that is her responding to you, in a positive way, and giving you your openen window

you didnt recognize it, and instead did something...odd (to her)

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Oh hey, you're actually the PUA Bravo. I didn't think that you would be on this forum.

In any case, I was trying to copy exactly the way you said it on your video on youtube (from about 50:00 to 50:20 on the video). Also, I thought that I was answering her question in my response to her.


Though, I guess that I shouldn't have just copied off of you.

Here’s my input:

- She messaged you first, she put herself out there and took a risk for you. Why are you trying to bring her value down with negs, she is already implicitly admitting that you have high value (by messaging). You should instead reward her by bringing her value up to meet yours, maybe a compliment about a commonality you share on your profiles.

- If you are going to make jokes or say things that can be misinterpreted, learn to use emojis. Most importantly, the broad smiley. You can get away with saying a lot of stuff as long as you atone with a big smile. That way she will doubt that you are serious and not take things personal.


I’ve developed some cool techniques for Tinder, but they also work for jDate. If you want to learn more, check out my blog: Tinder Advisor.

Cheers!

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Yesterday, I messaged a black girl online on okcupid who is about an HB8. My message to her was "hey! you have a sexy ass!" Today she responded back to me with a one word message that said "rude." One question I have is if she thought it was rude then why didnt she ignore it. Also, is it actually a bad idea to give a girl a sexual compliment online?

It's good to pretend that you are dealing with a curious cat when speaking with women, online or off. Be a bit of a mystery, speak to them in a manner that they will want to solve the mystery of who you are and what you're all about. Your blunt "sexy ass ma" comment would work if women were logical like men. They are led by emotions. They want to FEEL. Give them your infectious positive energy and let her ride that wave.

Exactly How do I convey mystery? Please Enlighten me with an example.

You go up to a girl in the real world with positive energy, a flirty vibe, a good calibrated amount of confidence, strong eye contact, a bit of kino and a good vocal tonality. Completely non-douchey unlike a fair amount of the "PUA" Youtube videos. There you go. That's all you need. It may sound simple, but that's all the mystery a girl will EVER need to want to peel the layers of the onion to try to find out who this charming man is, what's he all about.

How do you obtain this level of confidence? You start opening girls. There's the rub that most guys will never get over: They are too afraid to approach, so the spoils go to the guys who will put themselves in the game.

I don't have advice for conveying mystery from behind a screen, I prefer in-the-flesh approaching and dating.

So, do u think that guys in general have a better chance of getting girls through IRL approaches than through online dating?

Both methods can work great. I was only speaking of my & other guys' experiences. My personal recommendation would be to get out from behind the screen & hit the streets. You need to have a good rap and vibe when you meet up with the online girls anyway. Approaching IRL you see right away if you vibe with the girl. There are no surprises as to what she looks like when you meet the girl for the "date". And many more reasons.

I messaged a girl on OKC saying "you look good from the front, but what about from behind? " I was trying to challenge her with that statement.

However, her response was "Wtf?? Why would you say that to someone you don't even know? Please refrain from using that line on a woman ever again. You're comment was rude, in bad taste, and certainly not solicited. Goodbye."

So what I said back to her, "Hmm. Well, that's too bad for you. I would have liked getting to know you better. Good talking to you. "

I still don't why most girls who I was able to message back and forth with at least a couple of times stop responding to me.

Here is a transcript of one girl form Jdate:

Her: I am looking for my work out partner..think u can keep up?

Me: Oh, I can keep up! The question is can you?

Btw, I see that you study and practice acting. Do you actually have a profession in that field?

I am interested in meeting up with you. Though, you realize that I live in Pasadena. Are you interested in meeting up halfway somehow?

Her: I live in Encino. I act. I am filming movie right now.. i don't get your question I am not like most people who say they are actors and aren't even sag......what do u do for work?

Me: I currently have two part-time jobs. One as a sales associate at a retail store and the other as an assistant draftsman at home for my dad who is an architect. However, I have also been pursuing a career in the healthcare/medical field.

Her: Are u in med school

Me: ---Original Message---
Are u in med school

No, but I have already taken all of my prerequisites for grad school in occupational therapy. So now, I have been applying to OT grad schools.

Btw, the reason I asked if you have a profession within the acting/filming field is because I realize that it is very hard for aspiring actors to get paid roles or like you said don't have a SAG card. I know, having graduated as an art major at UCLA, that it's been very difficult for artists to make a decent living or even get sufficiently recognized for their artwork. But that's great that you've been getting work as an actress and are a member of the SAG!
What are you currently filming?

Her: An indie feature film. What's ur first and last name to add u on fb

Me: Fb? Wait, you mean fuck buddy?!?!? I am not that easy.

I got no response from for four days, so I sent another message to her saying

Hey _____ how was your Halloween?

Btw, I of course knew when you said fb you meant facebook. So, in all seriousness my name is _______.

However, it's now been over 2 weeks since Ive gotten no response from her. i didnt even end up getting a Facebook friend request from her.

Why would she stop responding to me?