Alright guys,

Last week sometime, I ran into this beautiful girl that I went to high school with at school(we're both a couple years into the same college now). We were decently good friends, not to the point of hanging out outside of school though, but she always knew I was really attracted to her mostly because she was probably the best looking girl in the class and I had most graciously made it clear. Unfortunately, I used to not be as calm and confident as I am now. But we talked for about ten minutes when we ran into each other and just before we parted, she asked for a hug and told me she missed me, then she said we should get lunch sometime soon and I accepted.

Now, relapsing to my old ways, I got overly excited and texted her just a few hours later to ask her what day was best for lunch. Luckily she replied. I waited about a day or two and called her to set up a day for this week and she accepted. So now I have a lunch date tomorrow. I guess my question is, do I treat it as a date? Or just old friends catching up? Or should they be treated the same? Should I see how tomorrow goes before anything else?

Ultimately I could see myself dating this girl, but I wouldn't be devastated if it didn't work out like that.
Any input would be appreciated ASAP!
Thanks

You're the male, it's on you to set the frame. There is an issue here however because she knows you as someone who is not as confident as you are now. You were only friends in highschool. It is very difficult to change the "box" a woman initially has put you in. I'm fairly certain she is seeing the lunch as a friends-only thing.

Don't go in to it in a supplicative manner yet also do not be overt with your intentions. Hug upon meeting. Sit next to her and go with some VERY light kino to guage her initial response i.e. you're laughing about something or teasing her about something and you touch her arm.

If she is kino'ing back and IOIing, you may have something here but I wouldn't really count on her being receptive to all that due to the box she likely has tagged you with in in her mind.

Listen to oceanx - you're in good hands.

I wouldn't call it a date, even if that's what you think it is. No point in labeling it with something that may make her uncomfortable.

The lunch went well, it was very casual.

I feel like she was IOIing, strong eye contact, she was initiating a lot of the conversation without blabbering, there was some very very light kino'ing and we hugged on goodbye and left it open for another get together. She felt comfortable enough to show me her "embarrassing ID picture" which I jumped on for a small playful neg, not enough for her to feel punished.

There was a really strong rapport and she made it obvious with a story of hers that it was possible to make something more with someone she thought she was just meeting as friends. I suppose I'll just let things play out, set up another get together in a week or so. Thanks for the advice oceanx

Are you fucking kidding me bro?

Stop questioning yourself man. A woman is looking to YOU as the man to lead her in social situations. If she sees that you are incapable she will inevitably take the lead and then resent you thus friend zoning you. So if you treat it like a date she will behave like a girl on a date. You treat it like old friends catching up and she will treat it like that as well. A woman is always looking toward the masculine to validate how she will feel about a situation. Granted she views you as capable -- because you are confident and FIRST view yourself as capable.

The guys getting the A-1 chicks ain't posting for help on the forums bro. If you're seeking council, you may want to question whether you're strong enough to deal with the situation at hand. Because we won't be there when its time to meet up with her.

And last but not least.. DON'T YOU EVER ask a chick " Whats best for lunch" - LEAD HER.. Take her to your favorite spot and show her something new. She's on your roller coaster man. Now act like it.

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