I have a oneitis that I can't shake off after even trying to go out and find new women. I'm in a small school which means i see this girl more than occasionally. Her and I had a thing and stuff, but this year another guy which became one of my really good friends literally had her down to fuck in less than a month. I see them together all the time now, and it really fucking hurts even though I try to act like i don't give a fuck... but I do. Today is what set me off is when my friend called me over as I was walking by. And he was with this girl. She kept staring at my and finally i said "whats up hoe" because thats what was on my mind, and I continued talking to my friend. I know it was immature, but i get sketchy and my stomach gets in a knot when I see her. And she is in all of my classes and so is he. And i have to see them flirting and shit, and it sucks.

what the fuck do i do and how do i act around them.. I don't want to be nice to her. She hasn't necessarily done anything wrong after she fucked me over relationship wise. And i sound like an afc for saying this but shit...

First off, bros before ho's. If your "friend" went after the girl you had, then he's no longer a friend. Second, if she knew it was one of your friends, then it's her who is at fault, not you. 3rd, try cutting all(and I mean ALL) ties to either of them. The friend because, well, he shouldn't really be your friend anymore, and her because that will accomplish a multitude of things:
1. It shows her that she isn't important in your life, instantly making her seek for your approval(especially since she knew she had you already)
2. Makes it easier for you to go and live your life without her, without caring about the outcome.
Now you might say "but they are in the same class with me, are you stupid?". Well, no, I'm not. I did the exact same thing with a classmate of mine that I used to date. She started dating another guy, but he kept coming into our class, so every schoolbreak I'd see them kissing and flirting. I decided I had enough, and less than a month later I couldn't care less if he fucked her right on my table in the classroom. She saw it, and craved for my approval(she started hugging me, looking to get into conversations with me, even came up with excuses like "am I dirty on my butt" just so I would show emotion towards her). Guess what? After disconnecting myself from her, I didn't really care about what I did, so I could send mixed signals towards her(be nice one moment, ignore her the next). And not only that, I met a lot of cool girls since. So trust me, cut off the ties and it's going to be alright.
P.S: I don't know how close you were to your "friend", so instead of completely removing him you might do something like give him hints that he needs to earn your friendship back?

You need to reassess your friend first of all. That's pretty fucked up that he is doing a girl you are fresh out of a relationship with. He isn't adding value to your life, he is parasitical.

He man, I am also getting over an ex, and guess what, she was a CRUTCH! Watch this video from RSDTyler, he talks about things that poison drip your life. Sounds like your friend and your girl are both poison dripping you.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h0TT4BeiNic

I think about 50% of us got into this PUA stuff by Googling how to get an ex back or something similar, so we all know about oneitis. Here's what I did (twice) with a few added tips:

1. Limited contact with her (same as no contact, but where SOME contact is unavoidable; you might pass eachother in the hall, or be in class together) delete her from Facebook, Twitter, Insta etc... or at least block her activity from showing on your newsfeed, delete her number,

2. Limited contact with him - he's not a friend anymore, as stated above.

3. Improve yourself; join a gym, learn a musical instrument, learn a foreign language, take up new hobbies or get back to old ones, study dating advice from PUA's and other guys like Corey Wayne. Do it for YOU though, not for her or anything like that - keep yourself too busy to worry about that shit, and make improvements that will last forever; the best investment you can ever make, is an investment in yourself.

4. Bang some new girls. Ideally 10, but yeah whatever. It'll show you that she isn't anything special

5. Get a makeover. Change your hair, change your clothes, whiten your teeth, fix your skin, fix your body/facial hair, work out more often, lose some weight... whichever you feel like you need - huge confidence booster

6. Don't ask any friends how shes doing. If MUTUAL friends mention her, just say something like "I'm fine, it is what it is. What you doing tomorrow?"

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How to get over oneitis -- 3 easy steps:

1) Remove her from your life entirely: Block her number. Block her FB, Instagram, Twitter, LinkedIn, etc. Do not search for her.

2) Find a rebound: Get on Tinder, start hitting on anything that moves. Fuck someone as soon as possible.

3) Keep busy with other girls: Have ~10 on the go... texting, calling, dating, flirting, drinking and having fun. If one's busy, you've got 9 more.... If one isn't replying to your texts, who fucking cares, you've got 9 more...

After step 2 you'll feel about 50% better.

After step 3 (or even mid-way though Step 3) you'll be nearly over her.

You shouldn't be dating a chick who never fucks you. It means she's not into you, and never will be. It's just a matter of time before someone comes along that actually arouses her and you're toast. The fact that you think sleeping with her in a month is impressive, tells me you've only dated girls who are not into you.

Imagine you're a nice looking guy dating a "fat girl with a great personality". First thing a cute girl comes along who likes you, what happens? Tubby is getting kicked to the curb. So too is it with an asexual guy. She may like you as a person, but she doesn't think of you in a sexual way. If the girl you're dating isn't turned on by you, she's going to end fucking a guy who does.

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I belched in laughter at the hoe comment. You're such an asshole lol. That was bold though and it probably felt good to actually perform. When something is turning your gut it is a calling for you to take an action of some sort. It starts with breathing; you want to breathe you gut back out. Inhale slowly, exhale slowly. And begin pushing your gut back out to the front so you can come back to center and be the man that you're called to be. Just remember to expand belly wise in these moments.

You have to train yourself to catch yourself with deep breather right before the moment your gut sinks in. As soon as you see them inhale DEEP and hold for a second and then exhale deep. Catch yourself, the gut can only constrict if you allow it to. Strengthen your frame. Breathing is important. We can go 3 weeks without food, 3 days without water, but only 3 minutes without breath. So understand how important it is.

You got this bro. We all go through it.

Much love.

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Rather than focusing on getting over oneitisitis, focus on getting better at pickup. It'll make you productive. Your friend isn't a friend and that girl is a cunt. After you get over it F-close her on a day 1 somehow and fuck your friend over because hey... fair is fair, right?

If you can't just always be seen around women, it will make both the girl and your "friend" jelous.

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Calling her a hoe was so fucking childish dude. You're a bad loser and I bet she's glad she isn't with an immature little shit like you anymore. No wonder you're not together man. Grow the fuck up and ask another girl out instead of being a bitchy, little queen.

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Idk, man. I concur with Danny.

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Read some of Danny's other posts. Pretty much all he does is insult.

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Can we stop advising guys who are still at school on how to fuck girls.

We have no idea how old this guy is. That shit could be illegal.

Exactly this! I think the Hoe comment was genious and put the bitch in her place ! Well done dude respect. I can just picture it in my head aswell ! lol

Really you shouldnt have gotten attached without fucking her. She didnt get attached because you didnt fuck her and then another dude swooped in and plowed her field. Hes not a friend... if he was a friend he would have asked if it was cool with you. Not that he had to but its the nice thing to do.

You should do what Charles said thats the cure fuck other bitches and keep your mind focused on them. Quickest way to get out there is online game.

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Well should there not be some sort of age verification process ? If he is to venture into some of the other threads on this site im sure he'll learn alot that he shouldnt be if hes not of legal age.

Also he says his mate done it whose in his class etc so i presume he is of age.

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