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Summary: We've worked together for over a year. I was tied up and don't usually sarge at work, but she has grown on me. She had come on strong when I first started but didn't sarge at work like said. I recently initiated via email and she bit and started coming by to talk to me flirting hard, hinting she was available, etc.

So I started to reciprocate by going to her desk, taking her for walk. She blew me off one time so I thought she was playing hard to get for a bit, turns out she was. The long/held eye contact and flirting with the "heeey" started again recently after I played it cool and aloof for a bit (so SHE reinitiated after 2 days), culminating with her coming up with a glaringly obviously BS reason to stop by to talk to me again.

I called her on it playfully and told her I shouldn't be talking to her since I don't want her to file a complaint against me. She was like, why would I file one against you? I told her I know about the guy who randomly sent her sexual comments via work email (she's a hb10...). She was like, that was different, and she is not allowed to talk about it. So I asked her if she would file a complaint against me if I asked her for her number, and she perked up with the, why do you want my number bs. I rolled my eyes and smiled at her, and we talked for a few more seconds, at which point she told me her cell is on the emergency contact list. I laughed and was like, really? I handed her a pen and paper and she playfully got up and walked away, saying, it's on the ecl.

This could be because I had told her friend who wanted to transfer a call to me where to get it (ecl) just 2 days before but at the end of the day, she IS still interested and she reinitiated AND she didn't say no. I could call her but, I'm thinking playing it cool and flirting with her more until I get her to give me her number 1) builds up tension in that she is anticipating me calling her now and I won't and that builds more tension 2) she doesn't get what she wants, and the sexual tension builds. She's a HB10, so most guys would trip over themselves to call her now. By playing it cool and getting her to give it to me I maintain control. 3) if I just go and call her off the ecl, she might lose interest. I made a couple mistakes when talking with her before but she is still obviously interested.

Alternatively, I just stop by her desk and invite her out for a drink after work. That could go either way, she has a teenager at home. But she is definitely interested and I do see us connecting at some point. I'm just wondering if my next move is to make her give me her number to keep up the tension and control.

Today was another day of her heavily flirting. She stopped by constantly to talk to me, find out what kind of music I like, etc. Of course I played hard to get and withheld the music I like. That drove her nuts but she took the opportunity to tell me what she likes to listen to while I made her keep guessing.
She was constantly looking at me when she walked by, stopping to chat, asking me about my taste in music, where I’m from, etc. She also stopped by for help for some bs reason too. I had slid the pen and paper toward her in a playful way and she smiled and walked away (she wants me to get her number off the company contact list. She is wary of putting it on paper for me since she could get in trouble). She is def interested since she reinitiated with me and didn’t say no, just telling me where I could find it.

Attraction is high IMO, and she I running game on me, beating me to ending interactions first, etc. I’ve noticed if I disengage she will reengage and keep escalating until I get the hint the game is still on.
I told her I would talk to her soon, with the intent of making her anticipate my call this weekend and building tension, remaining a challenge and being unpredictable since I won’t actually be calling. This is like I said, to turn up the tension and be a challenge instead of being predictable.

I think next week I will take her on another walk and invite her out just as friends, with the caveat that she doesn’t try to get in my pants or take advantage of me. Some ambiguity in this statement to send mixed signals on purpose.