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PostPosted: Fri Oct 24, 2014 5:33 am 
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*Day 1: the Approach and number close on college campus.

I would say we chat for like a solid 10mins back and forth convo i did pretty good. i maintain eye contact i didnt look away or anything other than her eyes.

*Same day text game: i need some work bc i suck

Me: Hey this is jon so my phone auto correct ur name to Serena... what u up 2? 6:16 PM
Serena: I'm at paramount theater watching beauty and the beast musical :) it's intermission now.. what about you? 9:03 PM
Me: Ooh interesting I never been to a musical before. But i seen the movie high school musical... It is similar? 9:50 PM
Serena: No way lol it's a live broadway show. You have to watch one soon! :) what kind of movies do u like? 10:19 PM
Me: Idk... does it have magic in it? If so, I'm all over that! I love scary movies bc keeps me awake at nite to study for exams 10:51 PM
Serena: Magic? Can you do magic tricks? I have a friend that's pro at some! Scary movies...haha i'm a whimp when it comes to those.... 11:25 PM
Me: Haha I know a epic magic trick!! I actually created it has successfully mind blown many ppl. I wanna show u bc u seem like u need a mind blown. What's ur schedule like? 11:50 PM
Serena: It depends on the day, but usually wed and friday i'm done at 2:30 :) 12:04 AM
Me: I'm free on friday at 3 ish let's meet at odegaard library. We go grab bubble tea n b mind blown by my magic. 12:22 AM
Serena: This friday I have a school event shopping that i have to do..uwajimaya and a costco run...(~~;) 12:35 AM
Me: Sou desk ne. Big event desu ka? we go get bubble tea n show u my magic b4, bc 20mins is all I need :) 1:04 AM

day 2 text game continues

Serena: What about sometime next week? I still haven't got my voice back anyways :( 9:17 AM
Me: Ah I forgot about your voice. R u messing wid me or u actually sound like that? ;) 11:21 AM
Serena: I sound like that! That raspy voice. Haha i hope not!! 12:06 PM
Me: It's OK to have raspy voice I won't judge ;) so what's ur schedule like this weekend? Or next week? 12:25 PM
Serena: We can plan something next week? I'm sure i'll be okay by then...any halloween plans for ya? 1:13 PM
Me: I'm usually free past 6pm during weekdays. Wbu? I have secret plans for halloween muhahaha ;) 3:22 PM
Serena: Secret plans!? Haha i'm usually done at 5pm 3:52 PM
Me: i cant tell tho... only vip allows to know! im thinking monday or tuesday after we r done? 4:55 PM
Serena: It's a medicine and health food company! 5:07 PM
Serena: Sorry! Wrong person lol 5:09 PM

So my questions are She text me the wrong text after i asked her days free... What should i do in reply? How do i ask her out again without sounding needy? What should i do next? Any suggestion on my game?

Please help a newbie out i'm still learning :wink:

Thank you so much


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PostPosted: Fri Oct 24, 2014 6:59 am 
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I read your initial posting where you mentioned the pickup and you did VERY VERY well with it. It all looked great.
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Serena: No way lol it's a live broadway show. You have to watch one soon! :) what kind of movies do u like?
VERY nice expressions of interest.

And, CONGRATULATIONS on the solid text game, where you quickly propose a meetup.

This is a great example of effective text game; it doesn't always have to be just one or two lines and then quickly propose a meeting, just as it should never be a meandering mess that leads nowhere. You are keeping it light and fun, and there is a PURPOSE behind what you are doing - to get the meetup.
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Me: It's OK to have raspy voice I won't judge ;) so what's ur schedule like 12:25 PM
Beautiful stuff.

The girl knows why you want to meet, so you don't have to hide behind "showing her a magic trick." These kinds of reasons are best for when having her come back to your place when you're already out with her "you have to see X" etc.

Also the statement of "I only need 20 minutes" was a DLV. Don't be too eager to see the girl.

Be busy yourself.

For example if have a busy weekend and if you text her say Mon. around 4pm u could tell her

You: WOW crazy weekend, how bout u?
(her reply)
Etc.
You: Lets grab a drink...

If she rejects without a counter-offer, tell her you're busy on whatever nights you're busy and try to nail down an alternate night.

Great work man, you are crushing it.


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PostPosted: Fri Oct 24, 2014 8:17 am 
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Thank you so much for your reply it means alot to me to get PUA inputs on the situation. :D

So i want to know how to respond to her last text? because i asked her to choose to monday or tuesday to hangout (the reason is that she told me weds she get off early, but i feel like that is the last resort bc its too long of the wait mite lose attraction..).

However, she reply to my initial text with a wrong text... :( . She add "sorry wrong person lol" it got me wonder if she read my last text.. or she just ignored it to wait for my respond.

I dont know what to say bc if i resend the text it makes me sound 2 needy... what is a good respond for this situation?

So its been 8 hours i havent respond yet... lol


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Thank you so much for your reply it means alot to me to get PUA inputs on the situation. :D

So i want to know how to respond to her last text? because i asked her to choose to monday or tuesday to hangout (the reason is that she told me weds she get off early, but i feel like that is the last resort bc its too long of the wait mite lose attraction..).

However, she reply to my initial text with a wrong text... :( . She add "sorry wrong person lol" it got me wonder if she read my last text.. or she just ignored it to wait for my respond.

I dont know what to say bc if i resend the text it makes me sound 2 needy... what is a good respond for this situation?

So its been 8 hours i havent respond yet... lol
I wouldn't touch my phone to text her with a ten foot pole until Monday at the earliest. Forget about losing or gaining attraction; this is a critical point that you don't come off as too needy. The time to be concerned with attraction is when you get her out. Ping her on Monday about your awesome weekend. Let the game come to you. Don't force things. Who knows, in the meantime she MAY ping you; if not, no worries, live your life and hit her up early next week sometime. I know you really really want to text her but there's nothing to be gained by dropping in again this early; you weren't even going to see her until next week anyway. Step away from the phone : P
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So i want to know how to respond to her last text?
There is nothing to respond to; she sent an accidental text. Don't let your mind trick you into thinking that she didn't see your proposal. Ignore this situation until next week.


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Ocean this isnt solid text game atall sorry to say. Yes you transitioned well but shes actually trying to get you for who you are notice all the questions.

Shes put off 2/3 attempts to tell you when shes free because she doesnt knwo enough about you. Shes asking questions and your avoiding them and gaming too much. Me personally i would do this;

1- dont as her when shes free again i would portray myself as busy and having multiple activities to do.
2- my reply to her wrong person text ... 'What medicine and food company are you on about now! hopefully not into the medicine kind that heisenberg is into !'
3- You are coming off a bit needy by asking what her schedule is i know alot of guys on here say to get the date asap as ive said plenty of times i disagree- shes showing genuine interest and asking you questions back go with the flow and mid point next week dont mention a shedule just say to her ' Serena, i have a bloody awesome idea !!!' her reply - 'What ???' i need a new shirt and i need your help to pick one ! saturday during the day keep it free we'll grab a couple of drinks and wonder a few shops' Something along those lines doesnt have to be a shirt or jack shit you can jst say drinks !
4- dont ever say all i need is 20 mins of your time... far too needy shes said shes busy so play it cool - yeah no problem thats sweet i might just have to show my mum my magic trick she says im the best magician in the world ! better than dynamo.

Good luck dude

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This girl is very engaged, is quite interested and is continually suggesting alternate meet times. Those are obvious indications of outstanding results for someone that calls himself a noob as the OP does (that he is a noob is quite surprising given the adeptness of his in person and text game), or for an experienced veteran.

OP, you had run really nice game when you initially picked up this raspy voiced girl as you posted in your initial post. To not fuck things up and display further neediness I cannot recommend strongly enough to leave it until early next week.


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PostPosted: Fri Oct 24, 2014 10:25 am 
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Thank you so much for both the responds. They all make good points but its hard choice.

I understand that i did made it seem little needy and i need to avoid that asap. The reason i avoid her questions because i don't want to reveal too much info until the actual hangout. The meth line respond is awesome!

more info about her: if that helps
1. she told me she works on sat n sun at a cafe as barista near the college.
2. during the initial approach we connect on multiple things like (high school art classes, and i speak alittle japanese language)
3. she told me that she have a twin sister she show me her pic. told me if u see her on campus she not know who u r.
4. i think she is either sophomore or junior in college.

So tomorrow she gonna be busy. When should reply her text? how do i recover to be less needy? Should i just let her know me more? (i just feel like that kills the mystery)

Again thank you so much for the help PUAs


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So tomorrow she gonna be busy. When should reply her text?
She hasn't texted you so there is nothing to reply to. Any reply at this early stage when she said she isn't available until next week will be Neediness x 100000000.
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how do i recover to be less needy?
Don't text her until next week.
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Should i just let her know me more? (i just feel like that kills the mystery)
It destroys the mystery. If you're going to do that you might as well just call her and talk to her for three hours telling her your life story.

She's interested in meeting. Ping for the meetup. On the other hand, if you share a bunch of info with her on the front end, not only as you state does it kill the mystery, but also if you say ONE wrong thing she will cut the whole thing entirely.

Girls are on a set path to disqualify you; until you have sex with a girl, the less you say on the phone, over text and in person with her, the better.


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I really dont understand everyones thinking of not talking to someone through text and to hold out for the date!

I dont understand why you would want to fuck a girl whose going to cut you off for saying 1 wrong thing !

I find being honest and saying it how it is gets me the best results and best of girls. But these guys are making there point of holding out. I personally think she'll be like awww this guy again if you hold off for 3-4 days when you have barely spoke to her.

If you do hold off your going to have to come up with something good to start the convo again other than 'hows your schedule are you free then' In my eyes i would have to relate something to what we were talking about eg - Hi there, hows thing ! was on my way to work and just seen a advertisement for this musical it reminded me of your escapades at the one you went to see.'

Text game is amazing because you can come from different angles and get the same result her in bed.
But this is my views of what i would do.

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I think the text game is a little 'bantery' - and I assume it's actually occurring in another language and has been translated here?

If it's actually been happening in English then it's a little spotty, yeah.

WITH THAT SAID, however - the chick is into you... I wouldn't really change up what you're doing cause if you're not fucking it up, no reason to adjust.

The random message is exactly that... sent to the wrong person and does not require a comment or response, unless you want to make fun of her for fucking up ;)


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So I'll wait till Monday than ask her out again? No text during the entire weekend she mite forget abt me?


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dude this girl is into you your only job right now is to not talk her out of liking you. From now on use the phone to set up dates ONLY!!! If you keep up like this you're gonna have a phoneship and spend more time texting then in person. Ocean was right leave it until when he says then CALL her suggest a date and time to get together make definite plans get off the phone don't call or text until then if she calls or texts you in the meantime say hey great to hear from, but I'm just in the middle of something looking forward to seeing you tomorrow, and get off the phone. If she's busy on the date you suggest say ok while let me know when you're free to get together this week then wait to hear from her.


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Update.

So we r going out tomo for a casual cafe date. We going to meet at 3 30 she said she have meeting at 6.

WWhat is my goal on this casual date? Do I go for a kiss at the end? Or try to hold hand? If so how should I do it? What r the key things I need to establish in the interaction?


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Update.

So we r going out tomo for a casual cafe date. We going to meet at 3 30 she said she have meeting at 6.

WWhat is my goal on this casual date? Do I go for a kiss at the end? Or try to hold hand? If so how should I do it? What r the key things I need to establish in the interaction?
Thank God you apparently waited until Monday and didn't listen to the people who were telling you to text her right away with some middle school jokes or whatever.

Any reply to her accidental 'medicine' text would have shown that you are just like every single other dude out there who has nothing better to do than to reply to a mistaken text. You positioned yourself as a man in demand by holding off until this week.

Congrats on the date dude.

Shit man you're on your own on this afternoon date but whatever you do, sit next to her, keep it light keep it flirty, be a man in demand, not cocky, be dominant, not an asshole, sit right next to her and go kino commenting on her clothes as an excuse to go kino, brush the hair out of her eyes naturally, tuck her hair behind her ear naturally, tell her you like her smile, treat her as though she is your girlfriend, be very comfortable with her, don't let her end the date, tell her that you have to be somewhere A LONG TIME before 6pm, keep it light, leave on a high note. You are a busy man with places to be, this girl is a blip on your radar screen that day, you enjoy spending time with her, but she's not a big deal, another girl, you're into her but not too much. She amused you just enough to want to meet up with her. You are slightly amused by her.

If she is really flirty and touchy feely with you just go in for the kiss.

Bottom line: In my opinion this raspy voiced girl wants to fuck. SO play it smooth on this date meeting and promise her more if she's shining up to you on this date. If not, who cares, plenty of fish in the sea. Be willing to walk. Secure a meeting in a few days. Keep it a secret what you're going to be doing at said meeting.

Know this: Whatever happens with this girl you have a bright future because your in-person game and text game are on point. Never listen to anyone who tells you to shorten or lengthen or change your text game because it is perfect for your personality. Their recommendations that you may hear in the future are only coming from a place of what worked for them and what commonly works in the community. I realize your text game is slightly long winded, but it is effective. So keep on going with it.


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Update:

Before i meet her i went sarging on campus i talked to 3 girls they all have boyfriends... i open em than i went blank ugh bad start of the day

So at 3 30pm i was like 5mins late to the meet the girl. (the text i sent her b4 we meet was "Hey ill c u in abit dont dress to fancy alrite?") i saw her sitting there first thing i said to her hey you look good, i was gonna wear the same dress... but it would be awkward (she laugh). On the way to the cafe i said to her i still like ur raspy voice better (make fun of her). She kept asking me what is the cafe like. i replies you will see i dont want to reveal the mystery.

I took her to a Indian restaurant i was like this is it. she said: i love indian foods. I was like we just here to get drinks tho lol. (I felt like she was actually want it to get food but i dont got time for that). I put down the stuff instead of sitting across i came sat next to her (i just told her i dont want to sit there). So i order mango lessi and the sweet gulab jamun. She asked me what are those. They are warm brown balls of sweetness (literally)( she laugh) i replie. we chat about places she went, places she want to go etc. than the sweet came i show her how to eat it. I grab a spoon dip it in syrup first u need to shower these balls and keep em moist ( i said it in a serious face she burst out laughing) than i made fun of her being dirty minded.

We had a good solid 1hr 20mins of conversation (in my mind i need to end it in a high note). I use the palm read to touch her hand she knows a little about palm read too she touched mine hand. I told her squid balls (she is half japanese half white) she said she knows how to make it she will invite me next time over when she make it. i call her out saying that she is doesnt know how to cook etc. We chat about scary movies bc i love scary movies. she told me there's a scray japanese movie showing on campus on 30th but she didnt invite me she told me what the movie was etc. also she is host a party on 31st she tells me all the food she gonna be making that day but she didnt invite me or anything? so ignored that....

In the end it was like 4 50pm i walked her to her apartment she lives near the sororities. when we walked pass the sorority houses i said : so this is where the party ends (looked at her with a smirk on my face she laugh n played along no... this is where it begins lol i thought that was funny) i felt like i should kiss her... but i got chicken out we hugged (and it was daylight)... before she went inside i told her "look i saw you randomly i talked to u for 10mins n here we are. I feel ppl are so boring these days. its so refreshing meeting some1 new like this." She said ya i agree i had very good convo with you. we hugged again...

So my questions are did i messed up when i didnt kiss her? I ended the date early to exit at a high point that was the reason why i didnt go for the kiss bc i feel like we didnt interact long enough... How should i set up the second date? if i do i know imma kiss her for sure. What should i text to setup another date? What should i do to improve any future interaction?

thank you so much for your guys help ;)


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