I had a girl text me out of the blue like that once; she had a fight with her bf.

I would have asked her how she planned to make it up to me (hint hint). That's usually what I ask if they disappoint me in any way.

Yes, and you can even 'engineer' this situation by her having disappointed you for any number of things, in which case she has to come up with a way to make it up to you : P

When it comes to gaming chick in these situations I have no problem using or moral issues using mind games or manipulations. Do you think a guilt trip would work with her in this situation. I like using mind games but guilt trips is something I seldom use on picking up women. I usually use them in business situations.

Please let me know what you think ocean, i highly value your opinions and you seem like you have experienced this type of situation before.

I'd say just pick her up, bring to your place. You can tell her to come cook you dinner or something. If she doesn't drive now, you're making the hoop very big by making her find a way to you. And let's be real, her interest wasn't that high if she flaked like that, and odds are she had another dude, got dumped and is looking for her old options. If you make a huge hoop for her to come fuck you, you'll be overdoing it. She'll say ok, I'll come over tomorrow, think about how difficult it will be, and flake again.

I usually do this in more playful situations. In your instance there is a fine line between engineering a reason for her to feel bad i.e. having her want to make it up to you and supplicating as in "oooh i haven't seen u for so long how come you've been holding out on me." I agree with going to get her and escalating from there. She texted you in the middle of the night because as others said she is terrified of rejection.

Update: Ok sorry but before i read the latest post on not over doing it on the guilt trips i started doing it.

She texted me yesterday at 2:00am with the apologizes and i haven't responded all day. About 11:30pm I text her " how can i ever one day begin to trust you again if you haven't even realized how messed up it was what you did?"

Literally like 3 min later she responds " If you only knew what happened to me!, my aunts boyfriend got into a fight with her and he kicked her out on the streets and she had nowhere to go, I am really sorry. "

Me: ???? what does that have to do with what happened? I just wanted to know if you got home ok since you asked me for help!!!

She: She is my aunt I cant just leave her on the streets? She is like my mom.

Me: WTF?????? leave your aunt on the streets???? What the hell are you talking about??? I all wanted to know was if you got home alright since you called me for help and then disappeared for like 2 days!!!

She: you know what? you are absolutely right!! It was real fucked up what I did. I am very sorry, I hope one day you can forgive me for what I done and you never have resentment towards me.

Me: this shit is ridiculous, I now realize how much time I wasted on all your shit and drama for no fucking reason, good fucking riddance, Look!!! Don't worry!!! this shit wont happen to me again!!! I can assure you!!!! Have a nice life!!!!

She: Oh my God!!!! why are you being like this??? I said I was sorry. I don't know what I am going to do with my life.. I have no car now, I don't have a job, and I don't have any money.

Me: How is all of that my fucking problem??? Hey look Its getting late and I have to wake up early tomorrow, Fix you shit!!!!!


I really don't care what happens to her at this point. If i can fuck her in the ass and have her suck my dick!! good!!! If not!! I will just fuck my main chick who by the way was calling and texting me like crazy all night while all this drama was going on and I don't even know what excuse to give her now for not answering her.

Bro u went a lil hard core there.
RIGHT THERE was the time to pivot and say "well i felt bad" and her to say "sorry" again and for you to negotiate with her as to how to make it up to you. Instead, you sunk the Titanic on her ass. LOL, well if nothing else it was fun to read.

The reason I got so pissed was because of the bs story she made up about her aunt. I mean how can she even help her aunt when her car was broken down to begin with. I felt she was trying to take me for a fool thats why i went off on her.

Plus before that convo about 3 weeks prior i went off on her before. Even sent her a dick pic.