Hey,

My name is Ben. I seek for honest and intelligent advice here. I am sorry if I made a topic in wrong category.

Situation: I met a girl. We chated. Last friday I offered her to meet up in this week. Same friday, after invitation we had a short walk and a nice conversation. I could describe this girl as: shy, smart and sensitive, bit hipster style, open minded. And now I have 2 opera tickets for this friday and I want to ask her out.

For me asking her out is not a problem. I seek more for a tips how to ask her out better, so she wouldnt refuse. If you have any advice, please leave a comment bellow.

P.S: she has a "crush" and she hangs out with him (50/50 serious) but he's definetly not boyfriend.

If any advices will work, I'll say a big thanks with Bitcoin donation.

Sorry for English, not native language.

On your short walk and nice conversation, did you escalate at all? Did you hold her hand, or touch her at all?

Further, are you getting any actual IOIs from her, or are you just pursuing a girl with a boyfriend and seeing what you want to see?

Do you have her phone number? Do you see her frequently? How long have you known her?

More details needed in order to actually help you.

Thank you for reply
"Your short walk and nice conversation, did you escalate at all? Did you hold her hand, or touch her at all?" - There was no physical contact, whole walk we talked just about "life" stuff. Holding doors for her is only physical interaction I could say.

"Further, are you getting any actual IOIs from her, or are you just pursuing a girl with a boyfriend and seeing what you want to see?" - I didnt understood meaning of this question (I am sorry), maybe you could say it in different words or style?

"Do you have her phone number? Do you see her frequently? How long have you known her?" - I do dont have her number, cause we mostly chat on Fb. I saw her everyday at school, now its holidays for me so I dont see her at all. I know her for "real" only about 3 weaks.

Never buy 2 tickets for anything before you've had sex with the girl in question.

Lesson learned.

Yeah lol, my bad I said that I have, I didnt bought those yet

Oh dear.

IOI means indicator of interest. I was asking if you actually noticed any indication that she was interested in you... flirting, smiling, winking, playing with hair etc...

This was totally "friendly sounding", buddy. Seriously it just sounded like she went for a very platonic walk with you.

Yeah I could say the same. From interest indicator I noticed some flirting in chat and I caught few smiles and looks from her before.

I am sorry about "noobiness"

Don't buy the tickets then. Go somewhere or do something where you can be close to her and escalate. You said you invited her for something this week; after the invitation you went for a walk; so it appears that during those times you did not confirm anything for this week. As far as getting her out, "grab a drink?" usually works.

You don't have to do anything special to try to "impress" the girl on the first appointment (or the second etc). Basically don't go out of your way until you've had sex with a girl. She should want to hang out with you for YOU and not for some event you're taking her to.

It's always a challenge to how to help a guy who doesn't understand that there is this thing
called ATTRACTION, let alone how it works.

But let me give it a shot.

When you are with her, don't talk only about serious stuff. Don't have just a conversation about
life and other stuff.

When you are talking with her, and you guys are talking about life and stuff, CHEER up and say something
that isn't that serious.

If you're talking about life and school, say something like, "Yea life is hard. It would be even harder
if I wasn't as handsome as I am..."

Lighten up the conversation and have some FUN in it.

Understand that women aren't attracted to guys who are too serious and can't have fun with them.
They want a guy who can be fun and not always as serious.

So invite her to the opera, but say something like, "I have these two tickets for the opera, I want to
invite you to go with me, but you gotta promisse that you won't embarass me by falling asleep while
they're singing..."

Or something along those lines.

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And by the way, if she has a crush - so what? Girls have a crush all the time. Play your magic
with being there, talking to her and having fun - and she might develop a crush for you.

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Thank you very much! I use your tips and post results later this evening

If someone is intersted in results - I went out this evening. While talking I combined serious topics but didnt forgot to have fun: I said few nice jokes which were related to talking topics, I smiled more and I saw her smiling more too She agreed to join me for opera this friday. I am really happy and want to thank you guys for giving me few advices which definetly helped me out, you are truly pro's

While looking to future - anyone has advices, how to create more sexual tension in date? How to achieve a kiss?

Early thanks