True, so I have avoided her and not said a thing to her and the guy that supposedly said the harassment shit was at work today and he was fine and we were laughing and giving each other shit and cracking jokes like we always do, which proves she made it up...speaking of her, she did a great deal to get my attention and make her presence known in the office but I didn't pay her any mind.

Do not give her what she wants. From what you are saying she made up the sexual harassment statement. That means it's something she has thought about charging you with.

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Nah I don't think so bro, I have never done or suggested anything sexually with her ever!...she said that another co-worker said that my texts to her that night were harassment and he was angry, but I knew she was full of shit when I saw him today and he was all good with me, I worked out why she has done this, basically I have walked off on her a few times (because she pissed me off) but this time I had a Family excuse, so she was probably just seething that I said let's go to so and so place, she agreed and then I left not long after I got there.

If I am being honest, I miss her, she was a good Friend of mine once.

I want you to read what you wrote: If she made it up, the thought has crossed her mind. You can't trust her. She isn't a good friend.

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She is a 21 year old girl that enjoys drama, she won't accuse me of shit, she lies, she talks shit etc but don't most Women?

You don't need any help on this. You've made up your mind already of what you want to do. I hope it all works out for you.

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All parties are happily aboard the U.S.S. Drama.

I suggest you tell her that you love her in front of everyone, but can't be with her, because of your exotic (male) South American lover.

Everyone will be talking about it <3 OMGosh!

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Lol, reminds me of anchorman when Ron burgundy said in national television that he had sex with the new chick in the office.

lol she hasn't spoken to me in over a week and I have no idea why, I get glances and looks and a pissed off look on her face, I don't pay it any attention and just go about my work and my day, it's odd though, she greeted me really nicely after I came back from overseas and then I got sick and when I came back to work, the silent SPAM, I suspect someone is talking shit to her or she is jealous about something, freaking attention seeking girls are the worst.

Quick update: She came up to me and said Hi today (she was really nervous and her voice was different) and then she Facebook messaged me later saying she doesn't want anymore awkwardness between us, I said that everything that happened in the past is now water under the bridge and she said she was really happy to hear that, how do I play this now?

We won't be working in the same office in about a week too.

I'm so freaking confused and any advice is greatly appreciated, we had a team outing last night and she sat next to me most of the night, after a few drinks we had a big talk (privately) and she bought up a lot of shit, things like how badly I have treated her and made her feel and she thinks that I'm jealous, I said she was as well and she said with who?, but I didn't answer, she told me how she was annoyed and pissed off that I have walked off on her a few times on nights out and she threw in the "we are Friends" thing, she also told me that has kept my messages and that the harassment thing was 2 guys goofing around, I asked her if she felt that I harassed her and she said no but sometimes she didn't want to get texts from me.

Why does she care?, why is she always looking at me in the office still?, why does she look down when she walks past me at work?

She moves upstairs (office) later this week and I won't contact her after that, I feel like shit about hurting her but in all honesty we hurt each other because in my honest opinion, we can't tell each other what we are really thinking and feeling and it's getting harder to be around her.

Thoughts?

Reading between the lines here but I feel this is more you than her. Read the thread over to come to that conclusion. There are alot of inconsistencies in what you're describing such as you being embarrassed by drunken texts and her telling you she doesnt feel comfortable around you. Youve left out alot of details and tbh, reading this I could quicker see you being the one being creepy/pushy in some way than her just being crazy. That added with how you talk about this girl. It seems more like you want her, you are looking into EVERY little thing she does, said some inappropriate stuff so she told you to stop. Your over-watching of this girls actions is crazy, so I would faster suspect you're the irrational one here. I'm the first the spot a crazy chick, but you leaving out details and being so involved in what she does sounds like you are creeping.

Ah nice try brother but very wrong, what details would you like to know?
Yeah because a girl that is uncomfortable around me is going to sit next to me at dinner and come outside to smoke or to chat with me right?

Can someone that knows what they are actually talking about reply to this thread?
No I am NOT looking into every little thing, I am asking what your thoughts are and why she is so inconsistent and confusing.

Is this NOT a forum?...I don't know you, you are just a forum user, I am merely asking for advice but thanks for judging me and making me feel like shit, hope you feel proud bro.

When she says you said things that make her uncomfortable, what were they?

What were the drunken texts?

What was the behavior that pissed her off hurt her?

Flirtacious comments?

Look man, if you feel like shit because of my words online saying how I'm reading the situation then that's on you. Man up. If you tell me I'm a virgin online its not true so aint gonna make me feel like shit. Don't blame me because you left out details. You've been vague and her and your behavior indicate more happened than you're not talking about. Wtf am I supposed to think when you say "I sent a girl some drunk texts, flirted a bit and she told me she wants to just be friends. I won't tell you what I said to her or how we "flirted." But she does this, this, this and this. Oh...she's crazy...I still want her..." You two are having conversations like people who hooked up and since you dont sound phased by her saying you were texting her, if you really weren't you'd just call her out on the lies.

OP she is bad news. keep your relationship as professional. don't ignore her or whatever, but DO NOT FLIRT WITH HER

keep it pro.

If she writes to you about her drama, message her and tell her that you don't feel comfortable talking about these things anymore.