Been out 3 times with this girl. From the first time we met she resisted all my kino. I try to put my arm around her she moves it away. I touch her elbows she shrugs it off. She seems to have no issues touching me. She does it a lot and I get all the right signals.

Last time I was with a girl who did not want to be touched she turned out to be lesbian.

Something really wrong with this girl.

Any experts? Seriously bothered.

You are probably looking at where you touch her, when you do it. She will see that you are putting your attention on it, and it comes off as creepy. Start with small quick touches and work your way up, and remember to look anywhere but where you touch her.

I'm naturally very touchy-feely. The places I tried touching were mostly harmless i.e. shoulders and arms.

Any of you guys experience this?

Your testosterone is low. Build it up so girls will find it hard to resist your kino.

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Sounds like she is interested in you since she touches you. I think it is one of two things. She's either playing games with you and playing hard to get, or you are just really bad and awkward at kino. I knew a guy who just exuded awkwardness and AFC when interacting with women. Whenever he'd try to make a move it was painful to watch. And that was from my perspective, imagine how the girl felt?!

There's a preliminary phase of kino where you are touching the girl, but it's not in a sexual or romantic way. You could show her a martial arts move, thumb wrestle her, do the trust test, give her a palm reading. These are all ways that you can touch a girl with it seeming perfectly innocent and non-sexual. This gets her used to your touch. That's the whole purpose of doing it.

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Do you know her life history? Is she ok with touching people generally? She might have an issue that isn't specific to yourself.

Assuming she's not just using you for free dinner or a movie, given that she's been on a date with you three times, maybe she's just conservative and prefers taking things slow. I once dated a girl that wanted me badly but wouldn't kiss me, even when I was being smooth (I totally was). She eventually professed her love for me, but I had already committed to another girl. I sort of regret trying to move too quickly because she had potential.

On the other hand, this girl may just see you as a friend.

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3 dates in and she still resists kino I'd look at calling her out on it in order to save you time in the future. "Look I enjoy hanging out w/u but u don't seem to be digging me all that much. everything cool?" Maybe she'll open up. You never know the background of some girl and why they might be behaving in a certain manner.

Thanks man, always enjoy reading your posts.
I'm sure she is. Yes, I'm not touching her romantically - just playful touching.
She always makes an attempt to pay. Most of the time I let her do that. More than this, she might be using me to be able to get out of the house as she doesn't get out much.

She describes herself as an introvert, someone who prefers to be alone.
Thought of that possibility. I'm not out to get her. She's a bit whacked.
Yeah. This girl barely goes out except with me. She always stays cooped up at home. I always try to avoid calling a girl out, because it shows that I'm affected mostly I just ignore, like when she moves my hand away I act like it doesn't bother me.
That's what I'm thinking.

It will have to be your call, but if she offers to pay, sometimes that can be an indication that she sees you as a friend. It's not absolute because it can depend on cultural norms; however, some women like to be courted and have no problem with the man taking care of the bill.

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"You ain't accustomed of going through customs. You ain't been nowhere, huh?"

Same as me, 99 times out of 100. There's always the exception and this seems to be one if there ever was one. Unless you want to continue the cycle of going out and her dismissing your playful advances.

Thing is this girl keeps sending me photos of herself. Some flirty ones even one in a swimsuit.