Hi superheroes.Please bear with me and this story, but i really need some help. Basically I asked this girl's number, she gave it to me. Waited 1 day to text her, but she was a late with her texts, and I fucking hated that. I call her the next night, doesn't pickup straight away. I call her again after 1 hour , still not picking up. I began thinking she might not be interested after all. She calls me later that night, and we talk for around 30 min. I told her I would call her the next night at the same time. However, the next night, her phone if off. I dont know if it was on purpose or just a coincidence. I kept on trying until her mobile was on. When I finally start talking to her, there was some fucking network problem for some reason, and the phone disconnected. When I called her again, she didnt answer. This was yesterday, and I could not get my thoughts off her for some reason. I never had a girl playing hard to get or just plainly ignoring after giving me their number. I do not know what to do, if I should call her again, or just ignore her back. Any help on this matter is welcomed. Thank you

The best thing to do when a woman plays hard to get is not play that game with her. There is nothing you can do to make her answer or talk to you. If you keep calling her, she's going to see it and you'll end up looking needy and unattractive. Don't call her or text her anymore until you hear from her. Once she does contact you, don't give her a time she should expect for you to call again.

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Youre coming off way too strong. The first convo should have been a date set up. Shes probably thinking, I gave this guy my number, we talked and he's setting up other calls for the next night. Shes not playing hard to get...youre being overbearing.

Meet more girls. With the next girls play it relaxed and get them out asap. The phone (calling/text) should be used as a tool to schedule the meetup, nothing more.

I understand. Thanks for all the helpful replies guys. I guess I am bit too direct/strong in my approach, next time I will play it cool.

There's two possible scenarios. 1) She's playing classical hard to get. 2) She's not really interested in you.

If she's not interested in you then whatever you do won't work, so no point in beating yourself up over it. If she's playing hard to get, then you have to play hard to get yourself, and don't play into her game.

You have to be willing to let the girl go. That's the only way you'll get the ones who are actually interested in you. Sure, some will certainly go away, but its not because you back off. They simply weren't interested.

Wait for her to contact you. If she doesn't, make one attempt to reach out to her. If you get ahold of her, don't seem desperate. Play it cool and suggest the idea of hanging out but don't ask her out. End the convo yourself and leave her guessing.

When you play into their game and start calling a lot, it turns off girls who would've been interested otherwise. When you do that to the girls who don't like you, it just amounts to a gigantic waste of time and undue aggravation for you. Don't fall into that trap.

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Sounds like you are putting in WAY TOO MUCH EFFORT into this one girl. Contact her once, and wait for her to get back to you, give it a couple days, and try again. If you keep contacting her and trying to get in contact her, she will be turned off, and try to get away from you. You have to calibrate based on her interest level. If she is less interested, you contact her less, and if she is more interested, you can push things forward by contacting her more. Generally, you want the girl to be initiating contact 70 or 80% of the time.

A 30 minute phone conversation is way too long, you could have met her in that much time, and the connection would be a lot more solid. The phone should be used only for arranging dates when starting off. Keep it short, sweet, and to the point.

So if she is playing hard to get you just fuck other girls and dont chase as much and wait for her to come to you? Show little interest, or show a bit and take it off suddenly??

Yep. Works like magic. PuaNinja is spot on here. Sometimes it takes a month or two in social circle game. But when the play hard to get girl chases, she chases really hard.

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