I've had three girls in the past few days give me their phone numbers on POF and then block me. I think it's due to jealousy (I keep logging into POF), but I'm not 100% sure, and it seems to me as though it should be OK for me to login to POF unless I'm in a committed relationship. It's not as if they stop logging in after giving out their numbers. Thoughts?

Jealousy is hardly the issue.

It's simply the options scale.

You simply didn't hold interest, they felt a vibe, over messaged.

Have an excerpt from the conversation?

Any girl on there with any hotness at all gets messaged 30x per hour.

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Hmm... let's see here... for the most part, I was sending pretty good texts, but they weren't super high value... I was focusing more on rapport building rather than just shooting for dates... except with one, who I asked for a date on my first regular text when more rapport first might have been better.

I could try giving them a few days to a week and trying to correct those issues... I'm not sure it's ok to contact a chick who's blocked you on POF unless she unblocks you and messages you first.

I think I lost another one... I'm not sure if she blocked me or is just ignoring my texts, but I think she's just ignoring.... Without going into the details, I was going to give her a call last night, and she said she was busy. I texted her this morning about a date, and she said she was busy with something really important but that we should do something Thursday. I explained that I am busy Thursday, and she said she would try to work out something for tonight. I didn't think that was a good idea, and she accused me of playing hard to get and stopped responding to my texts.

I set up another date with someone else after that, and I'm going to be taking off in about half an hour. I haven't been online dating much in a while, but from what I remember, I used to pretty much always get the date after getting the number, and this recent patch of block/angry rejections is confusing.

I'm noticing a pattern... the girls who I've been a complete gentleman to are the ones blocking me... the ones I hit with sexual innuendo and stalker jokes are scheduling dates.

Define what you mean by a complete gentleman.

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Here's the thing about POF. There are certain types of guys on there who have a standard M.O. as well as girls who are the same way. If they think you are blasting every girl on there with messages then they may lose interest. There's a lot that goes into the dynamics of a zoo of a website like POF and all its myriad members, so its hard to say for sure. The reason you are doing better with a more direct sleazy approach is because you are finding the types of girls that works on and using the right method. Who knows, the girls who blocked you may have wanted you to act some other way based on their own criteria, it's hard to say. Point is, I wouldn't spend a lot of time trying to determine what they want or what you did wrong because you'll never know.

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A complete gentleman? A G rated good guy.

There are standard MO girls on POF, but figuring out what you did wrong with those should be even easier than figuring out what went wrong with girls who were just following their instincts. Some girls, for example, will cut you off if you've been messaging for more than a month without meeting. (I don't run into that very often, but it's pretty easy to detect.)

I'm actually not just blasting every girl with messages; I'm going after multiple girls, but I have only contacted a small percentage of the ones who are online. I don't think the message volume is too high, actually....

Last time I played multiple girls on POF, I simply gathered a bunch of phone numbers over the course of a few days by returning several email messages per login (keeps them from detecting that you are talking to multiple girls, which really shouldn't be an issue, but of course there is no shortage of narcissistic hypocrites) and then the last one standing became my girlfriend, which lasted all of a week. I got a lot more flakes that way, and I found several of them frustrating and cut them off myself, but I didn't get blocked at all....

It's sentences like this that makes me think that you're scaring girls away with your neediness.

Everybody here is speculating till you post up the transcripts of every message you send to these girls. THEN we can pin point the actual problems. I get the feeling you're not mentioning the needy parts to us.

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Oh, who died and made you a forum leader? I'm not looking for help on neediness, but thanks for trying.

You need to post transcripts....

If they are messaging you out of the blue "Go play with the other girls on pof"...it's because they're jealous you're online.

If they stop responding, it's because you lost their interest.

If they are blocking you, it's because you over messaged or said something completely out of line.

Also, what do you mean by blocked? Do they block your phone number? How would you know this? Or do they block you on pof? Again, how would you know you're blocked, until you try to send a message on pof? I'm confused

Again, as Pebble said, transcripts

I'm helping you - you NEEDY faggot

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If you get blocked on POF, they delete all messages that were exchanged. But in all honesty, I don't post transcripts.
I know a lot of people are going to disagree here, but I think "lost interest" is a copout for "we don't really understand the situation." "Lost interest" could mean sucking some other dude's shlong, has a boyfriend, suddenly came down with measles, is depressed, on her period, thinks your a creep, is playing hard to get, is following some bad dating advice, etc.... If a girl simply isn't interested, the solution would be to be interesting, and that's simply not the solution for "lost interest." I'm not saying that I disagree with you... a lot of highly regarded theory and whatnot depends on interest levels, but I'm more interested in knowing what is going on under the hood if ya know what I'm saying.
I didn't over message, nor did I say anything completely out of line to the chicks who blocked me, so no.
I don't know if they've blocked my phone number, but I kinda doubt it TBH. I mean blocked on POF. You can tell if you've been blocked on POF if the message thread suddenly disappears.

I did happen to see one of the chicks out at a club the other night. I briefly considered saying hi, but she looks way better online than she does in person.

You're not posting the transcripts because you don't want us to see your needy messages.

You ask for advice then when we suggest some possible reasons why , you get defensive and then start answering your own question to make yourself feel better and blaming other shit other than yourself.

Yes, I am your forum leader and I knight you sir chode-a lot

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I'm not trying to be rude about this, man, but if ignoring you doesn't work, I'm going to have to try to talk you into downing a bottle of Ambien and a couple of sixpacks before sitting in your garage with the engine running (it's both easy AND effective). Also, I certainly decline. Needy people think everyone else is needy.