ok so I dunno really why I feel I should write all this but im sure ive read somewhere writing it down takes a weight off you're shoulders? anyway im basically so dejected with dating its driving me nuts wether it be in real life or online dating. I have been single for 15 months had in that time 9 dates so I thought that's fairly good but the more I read of people getting 3 dates a week apparently its not. all those have come from dating sites or dating apps (pof and/or tinder). but lately or past few months at least im just not getting any attention not even being noticed. no passing girls in a street and getting a cheeky smile, no nervous shy flirting from girls across a counter. and the dating sites follow a similar trend no profile views even though I try and keep my profile active and appear online. always thought I wasn't bad looking if I have to fill out a survey and it said "appreance" id but down atteactive or very. its very dejecting on a site like pof where you have all these singles and no views let alone messages. and even if I do send some out I get 0 replies and its crushing. tinder was a lot more fun for me as I travel around my area a lot with work but if I was to set a 50mile radius id find majority of that radius was woodland and another would be open ocean as I live near a coast and in a small city. I know you need to take dating sites and apps with a pinch of salt and not take them to seriously but all those singles and no views? ive had several pof accounts over the months changed photos, profile discriptions etc but nothing has improved the luck I have there. even my facebook page is against me. although im slowly learning not to give my facebook name to any of these girls coz for some reason as soon as they know me on facebook they go quiet I spent a good couple hours removing pics and editing up stuff but nothtign changed I was still getting the silient SPAM this happened with aboutn 7-8 girls id met through dating sites that didn't get a date with

No need to feel this way man. Attraction is a skill that can be developed.

You went on 9 dates in that period?-Great! Before I knew any of this stuff, I'd be lucky to go on one or two dates a year, and I am a pretty good looking guy.

"but lately or past few months at least im just not getting any attention not even being noticed. no passing girls in a street and getting a cheeky smile, no nervous shy flirting from girls across a counter"

You have to be the one pushing this forward, 99% of the time, the girl isn't going to start coming onto you. When girls come onto you, they do it in VERY subtle ways- maybe she stands near you, maybe she asks you a simple question, etc.

"and the dating sites follow a similar trend no profile views even though I try and keep my profile active and appear online."

I've gotten my share of online dates from very attractive women- you don't want to put too much effort into this, in fact, the less the better. Keep your online visits limited, you want to appear like you are busy with other shit. Girls are more attracted to that.

" no views let alone messages. and even if I do send some out I get 0 replies and its crushing"

Don't let this get to you, these girls don't have a clue who you are. They haven't spent 5 seconds talking to you, haven't met you in person, and you are going to let their opinion get to you??? Just laugh at how stupid they are for not replying. You do not need anyone's validation to feel good about yourself.


It sounds like you do the vast majority of your dating through the internet- that's not a formula for long term success, it can get you laid occasionally, but the girls will be a little off. Approach real girls, a lot of them, I bet you get a lot more success than online, especially if you practice a lot. You'd may surprise yourself. If you have any questions, feel free to PM me.