imagine you are walking on the street northbound, a girl is walking southbound (so towards you)

I just don't know how to get her attention.

I have noticed a lot of girls are in their own worlds and dont even know I exist. so when I say something, she will get shocked. I understand this, I mean you are minding your own business when someone suddenly starts talking to you, I can understand why that might cause some shock.

so my problems are:
1) I dont know how far/close we have to be before I start talking. tell me a distance. I understand both meters and feet.
2) I dont know WHAT to say. "your hair looks pretty"? "I like the way you walk"?
3) I dont know how to make it more comfortable/less shocking. It would be nice if she knew I exist before I start talking to her.

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I have not failed 10,000 times. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work. - Edison

check sasha daygame, he will tell you everything

I appreciate that, but I cant learn from this guy because our personalities are completely different. this guy is a complete extrovert. I am a complete introvert. I just dont think I can perform like this guy.

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I have not failed 10,000 times. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work. - Edison

Bullshit. Sasha was just like you when he started out. He went out doing day game for a year and a half and never got laid. He is where he is today from pure trial and error, tenacity and never giving up. He was naturally shy in the beginning, just like you.

Using the introvert / extrovert excuse is a limiting belief. Open the girl by saying "Excuse me, I couldn't help noticing... [insert unique compliment]. My name's Bart by the way *handshake* what's your name? *heavy eye gaze*"

Don't be scared of shocking girls when you open them. If you shock a girl, her adrenaline and heart rate will go faster, which is a good thing. There's a reason why ice skating is a better date idea than going to the movies. Falling over gets her heart going and this anchors that same butterfly feeling she gets when a guy she likes walks into the room. Stop being afraid of tension. Tension creates attraction.

I'm only a newbie but I do get some results. I think this is very true (not worrying about shocking a girl). Some girls I open give me weird looks for a few seconds and then their suspicion melts away and we have nice chats and sometimes go on a date. I think the initial reaction is unimportant (and you shouldn't be reliant on their reaction to proceed - be indifferent), it's whether or not they stay and what you do then.

I'm actually going ice skating for a second date on Sunday and have done it a few times. I think it's good because you can: it's very easy to touch them up and it's more interesting than drinks. The emotions it elicits in the girl I hadn't considered, but great point!