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Alright so I have this major fucking sticking point. It has happened to me with just about every lead I've gotten. Ever. I cannot bring myself to escalate or initiate kino. It fucking pisses me off. I was at this chicks house last night she was giving off ioi's like a fucking air traffic controller. She obviously wanted the d, and I couldn't escalate. I would love to get past this. Any suggestions
Fear is what your trying to overcome. The first step to overcoming fear is always the same: recognize your fear as fear. Admitting it on the forum is recognition.
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she was giving off ioi's like a fucking air traffic controller.
(That line is classic, it's a keeper!)
This fear usually originates from childhood. When you were taught it'd rude or even
bad to touch girls.
It's simply not true. They LIKE it Gomer.
Seriously, ask yourself whats the risk here? Is fear warranted? Women can't hurt you unless you let them.
Did she seem like she'd freak out? Break your arm? Call the cops? Fuck no. Therefore your fear is unwarranted!
Look at this from an objective point of view. If you can do this successfully, you will be able to look at your situation with much more clarity and realize there is no reason to be afraid.
Or, just like preparing to jump in water you 'think' is icy cold. When the risk is maybe a little shriveled dick Don’t think at all, just act on positive emotions and desires. Far simpler, a lot quicker. Basically, you just jump in acting on pure instinct disregarding all negativity. It’s that easy.
Limits exist only in the mind!
Those girls sending those signals are attracted to you will react positively! And those who don’t aren't worth your time. If the reaction isn't positive, towel off and walk away gracefully, no harm, no foul.
Good luck Bro.