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I don't think "the guy who does my edited pics" and such can generate a lot of attraction.
Attraction ZERO.
Hundefutter isn't about attraction, is about hoola hooping.
Attention and compliance.
Our midbrain is similar to dog's. Reward circuit are similar, and we have Cognitive Superior Emotions (CSE) that are the result of social complexity of living ( as envy, embarassment, sense of guit ecc.).
The core of hundefutter isn't a phisical biscuit as for a dog.
The dog consider a biscuit as reward his whole world. Ok, is a dog.
Obviously a girl isn't a dog... But we (guy also) are looking for desired state.
We don't want a Lamborghini really. We want the feeling of driving a Lambo, of being seen on a Lambo, of being attractive as the guy whit a Lambo, ecc.
Girls use Hundefutter every day.
Every friendzone guy is under Hundefutter influence, for a male the biscuit, the reward, is very simple to calculate: (Y)
But for a female is quite less obvious.
So yuo have to discover what emotional state she wants feel, and learn how to give and take away this state in order to gain her attention and compliance.
Probably you know how many girls a pusher can f-close. Where is attraction?
The pusher use only hundefutter and the possibility of give and pull the reward.
Whe aren't pusher, I suppose, and the rewards we can offer are quite less strong.
But the mechanism is the same, and we have to deliver attraction comfort etc. also.
An example of my own:
I knew this young female aesthetic surgeon, better visualizable as hb 8. I didn't need a degree to figure out that the money she was showing whit the dress, the car ecc. comes from her father, who she wants to win at all costs to prove to his father that she can do it for herself and so on.
She tells me that on Tuesday evening has an important commitment.
I say: shame, because this Tuesday I would invite you to a party at the home of the president of this organization, and there will be all these distinguished gentlemen with their wives in fur coats, and I will be the only young, maybe if you were there with me I avoided all those cougars who want to jump on me..., then maybe we would go away soon ... well, I guess I'm not going to even, so they always invite me. I will go in another event.
That was not true, not that Tuesday, I described a real situation of my life, but it was not true that I had this call or that there was one party.
But ... I've just described, faking complaint, a perfect environment in which she can enlarge her business as aestethical surgeon: rich people of a certain age, set in rounds of other rich people of the same age ... and I pretended not to understand anything that for she could be interesting. Indeed, it had to be a favor that I was avoiding me for the continuous advances of the cougars in fur coats.
She look for me again.
I do not give a straight, but I say that I was pleased to his invitation.
She look for me again.
She invites me to dinner, f-close her at home. (and we did hang up for a couple of mounts)
Ok, shurely, I've built attraction, comfort, and all the stuff we need for closing hbs... but... the key in this relationship was... the shadow of advantages that she smelled around me...
There are a lot of males that are afraid of girls interested in advantage that they can bring out from him.
But... girl are benefits seeker, also whit a pure lover, they look for DNA gain, survive or reproduction value.
There's no reason to be afraid of this, simply start to play whit the perception of benefits you can delivery, and never give this free.
I've estracted this model... from a gay boy who was able to find what I wanted when I was 20, and act as he can deliver this special price for many things I needed.
I went to the cinema with him for talking about this stuff... and after the movie he started to laugh and tell me the truth:
I did go to the cinema with a gay (!), 'cause I was blinded by the possibility of a benefit I was looking for, and he only want to give me that lesson, he was not able to give me the channel for the special prices, but he was tryng a trick that his professor in psichiatry tell to his class: "I've studied human behavior for 30 years... only for understand that all we need to know is contained in "Dog training manual". Find the biscuit they want, let they smell that you have this particular biscuit, and then see them do somersault".
I apologize for my terrible English.