For every 4 she initiates... you do 1, but don't stay on for long. She also "wants" you to tell her 10 times a day how beautiful she is, but she'd get bored instantly if you did it lol. What girls want, isn't always what they respond positively to on an emotional level.

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Gotcha. Seems legit. I'll give it a go. One other thing I recently noticed. Her texts are far more simplistic than mines. Possibly because my level of education is higher. Idk... It's like for every 4 words she texts, I text 2 or 3 times that amount. I'm usually just saying what's on my mind. For instance, I'll ask what she's doing and she'll say, "holding my baby cousin." She'll ask what I'm doing and I'll be like, "I'm busy working on this new architecture project." It's usually a simple convo, but almost always my texts r longer than hers.

Cause for concern or am I just over thinking it?

Over thinking.

She is texting you. So chill out

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I understand where hes coming from... but it could be any number of things. Maybe shes slow at texting and dislikes it? Maybe you just waffle on lol. If she starts to seem bored, end the conversation. If she seems interested but her texts are short, its not a problem.

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Texts are getting fewer and fewer. I'm supposed to be moving in with her this coming Friday. She works 2 jobs and I'm interviewing for a second job Wednesday. If I get it, I get the feeling that we'll be more like roommates with benefits. It's absolutely not what I want. I don't want to back out of moving with her either because it makes me seem wishy-washy.

I met up with her on a lunch break of hers yesterday and she complimented me and we kissed... A few times. I looked to compliment her and noticed she had spider bite marks on her arm... Apparently she had gotten bit, had an allergic reaction, and had to get antibiotics. I had no idea any of this had happened until we actually met up.. which unnerved me a bit. We talked a little then we kissed bye and went our ways.

And now I'm starting to get really confused... She texted once good morning today and I texted back an hour later when I woke up, good morning and that I hope she has a good day. No return text or call all day.

It feels like a dick move as a boyfriend, but I'm just gonna wait till she contacts me. When she does contact me, should I just ignore it for a day or two? I hate phone games, but supposedly it builds attraction and from our near nonexistent phone tag game now, it looks like I need a bit of attraction enhancers.

Don't ignore it for a day or two lol... a couple of hours is plenty.

I don't understand why you're meeting for lunch like friends (unless you're having a lot of sex)

Don't move in together - it's too soon, trust me.

When she backs off, you should naturally back off too. Always keep her doing 60-70%... with a fallback position of once per week (only if she stops initiating)

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We met for lunch because she's working her ass off and I'm about to start doing the same. 70+ hours a week is no joke. And I planned on keeping my distance from calling/texting because of the info I've been getting from Corey Wayne's videos. Basically I understand that if she's not calling/texting, I should back off and wait for her to reinstate. I don't want to be the one chasing her. I want her to chase me. Idk what's going on, but something has to change or I already see this relationship drowning. Btw, I still haven't heard from her since yesterday morning and it's 5pm where I'm at now.

How old are you two?

She's late 20's and I'm early 30's

I don't mean to be negative here. Just offering a perspective.

You're in your 30s and making 21k a year, sharing a car, don't have your own place and both of you live a distance away. For a girl in her latest 20s, this is likely to be a problem once the initial honeymoon phase wears off. Meaning there are underlying 'inconveniences' in your relationship that even if she weren't busy could be annoying. Does she want to work 70 hours to look forward to having to go through stress to see you once a week? People pull away when they don't want to confront things they don't like in a relationship.

I'm not saying she is pulling away, but if she is this could be a cause. She could just be busy and things could be fine. Don't panic. Either way, every situation is different and you know her better than I do. Some girls can be in love and go a week without talking when busy. Other girls may use being busy as an excuse to let the relationship die.

Tbh, if it were me, id talk to her in person or on the phone about it. Acknowledge how the relationship is different now because of work but discuss what we both should do to make sure the relationship doesn't get stale or you feel like strangers. But that's me and how I would handle it. I'd say it not because I'm worried she may be distancing herself, but because I know ill get bored eventually. If you're coming from a 'keep this girl frame' don't try it. Anyways probably just relax. You're in the weird zone where you acting aloof could be the space she needs and things go back to normal, or, you acting aloof could just make her feel distant from you (the whole I dont feel the same way thing).

Read Corey Waynes book. The videos alone arent enough. Nobody takes that advice, but its crucial..

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