So me age of 21 and my gf she is 25 we have been together for 3 months, i got this situation and Iam still shocked....she was sleeping over in my place and complained she got stomach pain, so i gave her a pill and water and asked her if she need something else, 10MIN later she just got up said she is in pain and rushed the F**K out of my house! i was like WTF?! i said "you cant go like this in your situation you cant drive and you got dizziness....." she was sooooo rushing out like insane! then she started an argument and started to fight via WHATSSAPP she was pissed why Iam angry at her she left my house, i told her iam angry because you left in so much pain and you were also going to drive and it was really weird you rushed out so fast! anyway we chilled abit i said good night and she after 10MIN was like "Do you want me to come back?" i was like wtf?!?!?! wtf just happend so i said "Yes" she was acting abit shady and distant this couple of days (3 days) Kind of confused...

Honestly it sounds like your girlfriend is psychotic, but no need to fear most women are. I'm unsure of some things concerning the situation...have you or have you not had sex?

Also how could her having a stomach pain result in her cheating unless there are more signs than this? People have stomach pains all the time...although it is very shady that she did run out and drive back to her place in so much pain almost like she wanted to get away from you and out of your place. Did she look at her phone right before this? Get any texts or calls? Did she go into the bathroom before this somewhere you didn't see?

I just need some more details to come to any advice, the details given so far is good though. I'm just confused myself...she's either psychotic and you should dump her just for that or somehow she is cheating, but I just don't have enough details to even believe she's cheating from some silly stomach pain. More details please concerning my questions and things in general??

I also want details of what things happened when she did come back over to your place..you left us all with a cliffhanger. What happened? How did she act? Nervous? What did you two talk about? Did you kiss or have sex? Like seriously what happened? I'm on the edge of my seat!

Well she was on WHATSSAPP when we fought, I asked her when she is going to come by because I didnt want to fall a sleep when she whould come, so i asked her and she was like after 5 MIN online only answered! so i waited for her outside, and she didnt see me when she came over she looked to my window kind of worried, couple of seconds and then wanted to come, so i told her to turn around and sit next to me (it was outside on a bench) she was kinda of shocked and we talked about it, and i clearly said between the lines, i dont like playing games, and kind of stuff, she understoon and said sorry she wont do it again, now yesterday we were with friends and i felt kind of some bit of distance from her, so anyway she took me home and she came home right after me, she now sended me "good morning honey" and i asked her some quastions, she's still online and don't answer my some general quastions, really idk what is wrong, and bytheway when she came back we did have sex, 2 times one when she came back and one later on morning sex, Iam getting back to the army tomorrow so she going to sleep over with me, why i go this feeling she got someone? bytheway she almost not touching her phone when she is with me

I appreciate the hasty reply...

Ok well from what I gather since you said you are going back to the army maybe she is being distant because of that. It's weird to hear that she's being distant because she's going to miss you, but that might be the case and in some cases that's how people are. It doesn't sound like she's cheating on you just because you both use WHATSSAPP and if she was cheating she'd probably be pretty texty with them from what I grasp of her character. You're having sex with her still those two times and I don't really want to get into all of that, but from what it sounds is that it went well so I figure that she's not really ashamed of something.

I know this sounds like an easy and strange solution, but just talk to her about it...straight to the point, direct, but not aggressively. I'd tell her that you've been feeling she's been distant and is it something you've done? Don't go all on some accusation path, rarely does that help any matters. Just try to understand and see her side, also ask if it has something pertaining with you going back to the army. I'd really try to see how she responds and what she says to see if she's lying or what's the whole story. She did say sorry to you which is a good thing, but just tell her there's things you wish to talk with her, don't say we need to talk about things word it just that way "I wish to talk about a few things with you" and then ask her when is a good time? It has to be soon and you want to do it face to face...you don't have much time if you are going back to the army I presume.

You need to figure this out soon. I hope I helped...I wouldn't assume the worst, just be her confidant...like I said if she was cheating it sounds like she'd more texty with whoever it was. But the distance does strike me as being strange, the stomach pain may have truly been a stomach pain...I'd actually ponder and ask if the stomach pain was something more health-wise, not to worry you, but try to find out when that pain went away and has it returned, she might be hiding something worse health-wise...just be the caring boyfriend that you seem to be and understand all of her side.

I hope the best for you and her. I also hope that you figure this out fast. I also hope for your sake she doesn't have someone else because I know how that feels when you really care and you really do care for her...I can tell.

Btw I guess I skimmed over the part about her sleeping over with you until just now. I read through it quickly...my bad. Perfect chance to talk then, no need to tell her you wish to talk about things until she is there in front of you. Good luck with that!

Thank you my man, a little update, Iam doing 1 week army and come back for a week home, and again 1 week army and go back 1 week at home, so it is basicly she is with me 7 days and 7 days off and so on, i starting to get insecure and trying not to be clingy...(she is the one that thinks Iam always talking to girls and shit) anyway, could you please help me to give a few tips to relax about being clingy and insecure (Iam good with girls from earlier ages, natural gamer, no difficulties with woman, got expirience with them) but i need to somehow relax today, like i was getting panick attack she might cheat or what ever, i just want to relax, i will keep posting her behaivor just so people with the same problem that i have could relate, so who ever read this i will update everyday, and see where it goes, Magician thank you, and i would like some tips on clinginess and insecureness, just to relax :\

Well as any Pick Up Artist who has read any material whatsoever will ultimately tell you Number One thing about picking up women is CONFIDENCE. It remains completely true in this case of clinginess and insecureness. I'm not saying it will go away overnight, but it will lessen and tend to fade. Confidence creates closure in our minds knowing that we can pick up anyone we want to and even if we get rejected time after time we know there's more fish in the sea so it's really no big loss for us.

It's a little more tricker in this case because the ONE person you want is her. Jealousy and being clingy is not bad as so many others would have us believe, but most see it as a flaw and it's a flaw because it takes us over and makes us look even more foolish. Moderation is key, but I'd ditch that for now since you most likely want quick tips.

Jealousy and being clingy is bad because it makes you look like you can't keep the person you're with happy and that other guys even stand a chance against you. Sometimes women tend to go astray and that's part of life, no matter how good looking you are, no matter how good your game is...women grow tired of the same old thing and same old routine.

I'm not going to say this is QUICK because I'm probably boring you already, haha. But the first thing is to spice up your love life, do different things, go different places, be mysterious, spontaneous, romantic, but not over the top and don't be there all the time for her whenever she calls or texts for that matter. Go out and have fun by yourself, but don't ignore her either. Make time for the person you're with, but make sure you are making the time that they are making for you. Don't always summon them to your place, summon them on a date, have them ask you to hang out, go places. It's called Care as much as they care

You have to remember being a natural gamer is a good thing, but I'm also not sure how much material you've read or delved into seeing as you've been so good. Natural Gamers can tend to be lazy...they get all the chicks so they never had to work from the bottom to top...no offense intended, haha. I'm just saying your path was more simpler and relationships are different than picking up women or being with women. It's a whole new lifestyle, a whole new way to think and act. You have to make sure she isn't bored with you and you're not bored with her. So yes be protective of her, just not overly so. You also don't want jealousy to turn into something horrible and split you two up.

She probably senses that you are a natural gamer and the way women look at you probably concreted this which does develop a sense of... "I could lose this guy at anytime better keep him happy" so in a way it's a good thing, but it can cause problems. So reassure her many times by saying romantic things of how much she means to you and I don't know if you have said the "I love you" but you can find other romantic things as well, just don't overkill the "I love you's" or reuse the same boring romantic lines and especially none from poetry...something from your heart. But if she is someone that you have really taken a liking to emotionally and can't see her without being in your life I would spice things up, you don't want to show her that you're completely consumed by her, but at the same time you want her to know how much she means to you. Saying romantic things will not make you look like some kind of fool if these things are true, but you might say these things and then be sarcastic towards her, you need to keep the relationship alive, not bury it under 6 feet of concrete with same boring shit.

For right now I would think the basics on relaxing is this...you're the best, she's not going to find another and if she does you can find someone better than her because if she was and is cheating THEN that's a true statement...she's lost her value altogether. There's also a technique of everyday looking in the mirror saying you're the best a billion times everyday at the morning and night, but that can get tiresome, haha. She's giving you sex still even after the time being together, you're keeping her around and close and in an intimate way...even when she made a mistake she apologized so you have her under your spell, but to keep her you need to master all these techniques and more to keep you together and not bored of each other. You want it still flirty and playful, but at the same time serious and romantic. It's a hard thing to do and will always be a challenge, but CONFIDENCE is the key.

Don't forget to be caring and try to see her side and what's going on with her and what's wrong with her, be her confidant not just her lover like I had said previously about talking to her. Communication is key to any relationship. And that's not just for some fairy tale bullshit. BE CONFIDENT

Wow man i cant even say how much i owe you for this long post and it was hard to type that alot, thank you so much, you are really helpful, i want to add somepoints something short, Iam very attractive guy never had problems with woman what i want i get, i dont care about people opinions (i mean the bad ones) i do wtf i want to do, i am who iam, iam always playful with her, teasing her alot (she likes it) iam not a doormat to her, the sex is amazing sometimes overkilling me but i show her i want more (she go insane sex drive but iam not quitting) most of the time she cums, having sex like 2-6 times a day, so sex is fucking awesome, i always end the talking on the phone, well iam a fitness dude, beeing in the bodybuilding few years, woman are watching, alot, well because iam sexy as hell! (i got sometimes overconfidience) people say sometimes iam crazy for doing stuff you well need balls to it, so iam playful with her, doing romantic things, amazing sex, teasing her alot, she shit test me either, passing all that, because iam the best, the problem why iam sometimes insecure and clingy is because i have a trauma...my first love basicly stomped over me, cheated, and i was a fool, always got back for more shit, wanted to suicided 5 times, almost did not proud of it....but one day i got up and said "ENOUGH" and changed my life and when ever a woman fucks with me, although iam saying if you fuck up you are done, i dont have any problems to get a new GF or fuck buddies, but it is diffrient i love her and we do love each other, iam traumized of cheating and feeling disconnecting.... when iam single IAM ROCKING!! when i was a kid i always tried to talk to woman so i grow up, and what you know? natural gamer, i red alot of stuff here at this forum and others, 80% of i already knowed without even knowing i did that ( that's why its called natural?) anyway dude! thank you so much il keep updating here alot, we talked a hour ago she laughed all the conversation (forgot to mention iam funny as hell) told her i need to eat and go to be sexy at the gym, long story short, Magician, i dont know you but thank you for your time, i love you man! just one more thing, a quick tip if il feel really bad about her, like after a fight or i know we are going to fight, how to relax very quickly? (iam always talking relaxed and i dont like to get mad..) but in case il get reallllyyyy pissed off, and tip to relax during a fight or how to end it
quick?

Edit: Sorry for my english Iam russian dude
and we talk alot if something is wrong between us, iam always telling her, if something buggs her she can tell me, and she is, so we start a fight we end it preety fast!

Your English is perfect compared to most individuals who should be on point in their English. You seem to making basically all the right moves, but as you said when you do love someone you want their acceptance and that's probably one of the biggest problems even though you're the best you're afraid that they will abandon you just like the other. I've been there, done that. Of course knowing that is a possibility should be easier for you, but I know it's not.

Getting upset with someone is natural for any person, but what I'm gathering is you feel remorseful for getting upset towards her and showing her your anger or harsh words. You seem to not have too big of difficulty with ending the fights quickly, but the best way is to just think on the love you both share...oh and makeup sex is the best especially angry sex as I'm sure you might know, haha. I think putting her needs first in the fight is probably best, but you don't want to get stomped on like before of course. Women are very manipulative and abusing and I find it ironic how they claim Pick Up Artists are slimeballs when their gender do things way more horrible at times.

Everything you said seems to be on point, but a relationship is always a challenge and you seem to be doing great things to keep it alive...all the right tactics, you're truly a natural gamer, but you just have to remember now that you're with her, you only want to game her because you love her. I think that's probably another reason she's insecure sometimes because you don't even notice gaming other women indirectly because it's pretty much you've done it so long it's second nature to you and it's now your personality. I know that from experience.

So the best key to relax during a fight or argument is to walk away and come back later and to focus on speeding up the fight so it will end quicker. Also best way to end a fight is to not do or say anything except to leave or go to another room to calm down. The more words you say, the more you will hurt someone you truly love. Because in that moment neither of you are thinking or behaving rationally and you'll find your weakest points to attack. Individuals hurt most the ones they care about most. So in the end the more you care, the more they will be hurt. Lessen your words and be the rational voice in the argument without saying things impulsive in anger. Also you can tell her that you love her during the argument, it will throw her off when you tell her things like that in a heated argument.

Anyways I hope you figure everything out and keep the thread updated about why she's been acting strange as of late when you have your discussion later with her. I wouldn't figure there's much to worry about with everything you've been doing, but who knows individuals are strange at times. And it's a good thing you both talk a lot, it shows you that both of you are serious at a relationship and not just playing around...it's probably why you realized her being distant so easily.

Good luck! Hope ALL the advice helps, the advice I've given previously and just now, it's an interesting situation and I'm kind of looking forward to hearing more updates to be honest haha

ALSO I know I leave long posts, but I love clarifying everything and one more thing that I want to say is she's not your ex who fooled you countless times and I know you know that, but it makes you worried...just remember that it's ok to be clingy and to be reassured, it's not a bad thing if you are a serious couple and if she does know about that past situation it will make her even more understanding about it. Just don't be overbearing and have it cause problems, but you both being open with each other and reassuring to each other of your feelings and desire for each other in all aspect is key to getting over this. She's also worried about losing you so you being the same is not bad in her eyes, being intimate in a relationship and I don't mean just sex, but closeness is a good thing if it's by both individuals. Moderation is key, don't be consumed. A relationship takes two, you can't solve the problem all by yourself. I'm glad my advice seemed to be helpful and appreciated. Good luck.

Thank you thank you thank you, a little backround on her she got cheated alot, her all ex's cheated on her, Iam not suprised she is really obssesed and jealous type, she does got some mental issues, afraid to be alone, she basicly got 1 girl-friend, and she is sometimes very pesemistic, iam optimistic, and she said she like's that in me alot, but i remember we did fought and i left during an aurgument, and she got really pissed off and say things like "nothing to say? so you just walk away?" and other angry text or in person, and iam always telling her i dont like fighting and i need to calm down, she is really understanding but sometimes she goes rage mode, and its pissing me off really bad! but i maintain coolness, anyway what will be, meant to be, thank you for your replay you helped to cool down really fast, 1 problem, i dont have any money i dont earn that alot because our army is stupid, and she isnt with me because of my money that's for sure, but this is weird she's like 25! we both the same symbol "Virgo" so yeah we got almost near each other birthdays, how come she found me 20 years old guy goign to be 21 in september and she goign to be 26, when she met me she said "ill never be with someone who sleeps alot with girls" well well look at this lol...anyway whoever reads this, hope some points was helpful il keep updating for bad behivors, shitty texts, and such, so just you guys can relate!

Age is just a number in the end. I've been with all ages, EXTREMELY older and around the same age. Honestly I feel mentality age is more important than physical age because some are just completely immature no matter how you look at it. Life experiences that we learn from and grow is what is most important, most would have some superficial view and say that they can't be with another because of their age, it's all in their head. Whether it is the man being younger or the woman being younger...same thing.

Both of you seem to make a great couple, both been stomped on so you and her can relate to each other. She seems like an outsider so you shouldn't have to worry about cheating. Maybe she decided to take a chance with you and put herself all out there which means that you don't want to be another one to fuck with her emotionally, but then again you probably already know that and you love her so you shouldn't want to do that. She's probably drawn to these men who get with lots of women because they have confidence something that you have which is probably one big reason she got with you like you said she loves that optimistic side of you, it's probably what drew her to you in the first place, but now she loves everything else that she learned about you.

She sounds like a keeper, you just need to figure out why she's being so weird and distant. It's not bad to be jealous, sometimes it's actually flattery, but it depends on how far it goes and does it create fights and separation between the two in closeness. Being close and clingy is a good thing only in SERIOUS relationships, but accusing and fighting for no reason at all is just stupid.

Best wishes with everything in your situation, hope you figure it all out.