So there is a hot girl at the reception of the gym I go to, she really is the type of girl I go for. 5'5 Caramel skin, brown eyes. She says hey when I go in the gym and I will generally say hey how are you back but never gets any further. Obviously it is a standard greeting every time someone comes in. I have no idea if she is interested in me but i really want to try and get her number.

I'm thinking she must get hit on all the time given the amount of guys coming into the gym. Everyone must find her hot.

I'm thinking try and get some conversation going on the way in and then and then if it goes well ask for her number when I leave.

Any suggestions on what I could say that is a bit different from every other douche trying to chat with her.

Overall I'm very cautious about shitting where I eat. I mean, you go to this gym all the time, so what if you bomb and she doesn't give the digits. Now you have to see her everyday. Its up to you if your willing to deal with the awkwardness. Not trying to sound negative but I make it rule of myself to not pick up girls that are employees of places I frequent. There's many other women out there to choose from so is the juice really worth the squeeze with this particular one? Your choice but those are my thoughts.

I don't think this is really shitting where you eat. It's a gym, not your workplace. You wouldn't date someone you went to school with? Isn't that the same thing?

I think it's fine to have a go at this girl - though you've admitted yourself that she's only ever given you canned friendly greetings - so her interest level is really undetermined.

It starts with a chat.

Next time you go in, don't just wave and walk by.

Assume she is interested. Get that in your mind.

Lean on the front desk and introduce yourself... Ask how long she's worked there, if she also trains at that gym, what she went to school for, etc. Doesn't have to be a massive conversation - Just a couple mins.

While you're talking to her, pay close attention to her responsiveness - are you getting any IOIs (and try to be objective. Guys see what they want to see). While you're 'assuming she's interested' - look for real signs that when you ask for this girl's number, she's actually going to give it to you...

Go from there.

She's probably only there like 30% of the time I go. Worth the risk for me.

I'm thinking of keeping it quite simple. She works thursday nights and its normally quiet at that time.

Im thinking saying something like:

Me: Hey how are you?
Her: Good thanks you?
Me: Yeah good, I'm looking forward to the weekend, Hopefully you're not working here all weekend are you?
Her: [she'll be working some of the weekend i imagine]
Me: At least you can still go out Friday/Saturday night. Have you got any plans?
Her: [Either she has plans or doesnt]
Me: [If she doesnt have plans] You've got to have some fun other than work! Your really cute, I'd love to take you out for a drink, what do you reckon?

Me: [If she has plans] That sounds good, that wont be fun working on a hangover (or something). Listen, i think your really cute. Are you Single? [If she says yes then I just say] Can i get your number and take you out sometime?


If she rejects then i'll just say. "No worries, you're still cute though."

Okay you literally posted just before I did.

I think you're right I need to go for a less direct approach and build a bit of conversation first and see if she's interested. Then I can ask her out if the signals look good.

If she was a random at a bar, you could go super direct. Not sure how much experience you have in PUA... And direct actually does work awesome for some... not me though. Last time I tried direct - a long time ago - I may have gone 1 for 20... if that.

A more subtle approach could save you some embarrassment if her giant of a boyfriend comes walking out of the manager's office or out of the weight room... Also gives you a chance to see if she's a complete idiot before asking her out.

Pretty inexperienced with approaching girls. So i'll try and build a bit of convo and introduce myself as a first step.

Me: Hey how are you?
Her: Good thanks you?
Me: Yeah good, I'm looking forward to the weekend, Hopefully you're not working here all weekend are you?
Her: [she'll be working some of the weekend i imagine]
Me: At least you can still go out Friday/Saturday night. Have you got any plans?
Her: [Either she has plans or doesnt]
Me: [If she doesnt have plans] You've got to have some fun other than work! Your really cute, I'd love to take you out for a drink, what do you reckon?

Me: [If she has plans] That sounds good, that wont be fun working on a hangover (or something). Listen, i think your really cute. Are you Single? [If she says yes then I just say] Can i get your number and take you out sometime?


Here is what I would do differently.

First stay away from weekends. If she is as hot as you say she is there is a good chance she has plans for the weekends. I usually don't book dates with girls on the weekends in the beginning because she doesn't know me and why would they give up a weekend for stranger. Shoot for Sun-Thurs for a better chances.

Don't ask her; imply it like you know what her answer is going to be. I would just say, "lets grab a drink sometime next week"

I don't ask a girl if she's single. You'll find out the status when you ask for the number.

Don't ask for the number; demand it. "Let me get your cell so we can meet up for a drink, or What's your cell so we can meet up for a drink". This shows more confidence.

I have used this and had success. Again everyone is different and not all styles work for everyone, as mentioned earlier with the direct approach. However, you do have to portray more confidence and stay away from asking.