November 2013 I was really hurt and heartbroken when the girl I was in an LTR with for 2 years cheated on me. She met up with another guy that I was suspicious about, an old fling, and hid it from me. That same day she was disrespectful so after a fight I ended it.

She tried getting me back a few days later, I still loved her but refused. I had already slept with 2 other girls at the time

I had nothing at that point, a freshman at college but during the December holidays I got a job as a courier delivery man and with the money from that I was able to start a Media company which quickly became relatively successful here in East Rand, South Africa. The breakup really motivated me to become better than the guy that I was, make more money than the guy I was and improve my life in general.

During the course of 2014 she has been initiating convos on SPAM which I ended as quick as I could. When I threw myself a 20th birthday party in June invited her, she stayed for 2 hours and left when my new girl arrived.

Last weekend was her birthday and she had a barbaque and invited me, I went to say hi and left. So today she sends me messages saying she would like me to hire her so she can learn about Photography since she wants to take it as a hobby and maybe work for us (Photography is one of the main services we offer.)

A part of me wants to agree and be the bigger man but another part wants to tell her to fuck off and go get a job from the guy she was fucking while we were dating.

Which makes more sense? I still despise her to some degree.

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This doesn't have to do with "being the bigger man". Having her around is going to mess with your business desicions. Period. You have a good thing going for you and you don't need to introduce any kind of toxicity.

IMO, if you still really have negativity, or feelings of any kind for her, it's best to cut the chain and stop attending her birthdays etc. Nothing good can come of it.

But no way in hell would I offer her a job. The last thing you'd want is rumors that you're playing favoritism or that she just got the job because you used to bang her, or to let her think she still has influence over you.

I agree with this.

This is one of those situations where you need to think with your head... Not with your dick.

"Don't shit where you eat" is the saying... But you're talking about just bringing a pile of shit to your dinner table.

She cheated on you.

She's out. You owe her nothing. Zero. Ziltch.

If it were me she wouldn't even be getting replies to her messages from me.

Correct.

Think of it this way. Would you ever call up a girl you cheated on and ask her for a job? Nope. Because you'd expect to be laughed at.

Not really a lot to add to this subject. It's a unanimous fuck no.

What the question should be is what can she bring to your business?
Ignore who she is and read her CV. She's unqualified and has no experience. Wants to take it up as a hobby.

Don't be spiteful about it. It's just a poor business decision.

I'm help manage a pub and regularly have to interview hot girls after jobs. If they can't offer anything to the business then no thanks.
I'd rather have an easy time at work with ugly hardworking people than a possibility of banging the new waitress.

Really loving the zero tolerance on this one. The answers were unanimous and if this was a vote she would be off the island.

Thanks for the speedy feedback guys.

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i agree with the others what gets me is the audacity of the girl, its like sorry i cheated but can i have a job... you dont owe her a thing you werent putting it away with other girls.
the question becomes do you have much interaction with the girl i mean are you on friendly terms and still an active part of your life its doubtful she is but it is possible.
if she is then assuming you want to stay on friendly terms just say i dont think it would be possible to work with us at the moment as youve got no experience.
if she isnt and you want rid of her completely that simple say to her i dont think it would be possible to work with us at the moment as youve got no experience and i dont appreciate that because we were in a relationship once that you think that would help you get a job with us quicker..
what that does is put her in her place plus its also a subtle reminder of what she did

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