Hey guys, not my first posting. Just can't remember my old login. I could really use some outside perspective.

So I met this HB8 online a month or so ago. Been on 7 dates. She initiated k-close on date 2. I went for kiss on date three but she hesitate big time. And wasn't till last night that I got another kiss.

Its a long story, she was super into me. I came off AFC without meaning too, I brought up some crap and she thought I had fallen for her already. Then I had to back track and looked like more of an AFC, this happened on date 4 and 5. But Date 6 I realized the hole I was in so I went back to my normal self. Confident, good kino, flirty, and just didin't give a shit. After that date she was initiating contact for the first time. And I was playing it cool.

At the end of date 6, she says. "Im so confused about you, I'm attracted to you and I'm not sure if I like you, or if I REALLY like you" Whatever that means. I just smiled. I wasan't gonna fall into that trap again and talk about feelings. Then she mentioned the dreaded FZ. She says "You are such a cool guy, I know you don't do friends, but you would be a really cool friend to have."

So come last night we go to a movie with some friends, I walk to her car. Its just us alone. And I figured I had to do something to make it clear that I wasan't going to accept the FZ. So I grab her, look at her and go for the kiss. She turns her face twice. Rejected lol.

Then comes the excuses. "I'm really just so confused about you. My ex really hurt me and your the fisrt guy I've dated. I just don't know how I feel."

Then she says "I thought you wanted to be friends?" Because I jokingly brought it up that maybe we should just be friends. I said "Because that's what I thought you wanted, if it were up to me I'd be kissing you all the time" She just smiled.

She then leans in and kiss me, no making out or anything. Just two soft kisses on the lips. And says goodnight and leaves.

I almost feel like I had to convince her to kiss me and she did it to be nice. So as the title says. I feel like I'm borderline friendzone SPAM. How do I play this? Do girls kiss out of pity? :/ lol

It's too early to be talking in terms of a relationship. If she brings up the whole "my ex hurt me I can't trust men" thing, just ignore it and keep up the sexual playful vibe. Escalate with her and make sure you have plenty of alone time near a bed. Refuse constant dates in public, push for private time with her and fuck her.

It doesn't need to mean anything, say you understand she's hurt so she can just casually date you no strings attached

Judging from what I can tell about your current situation and her current situation, and from taking a big-picture perspective, I would advise you to friend-zone HER.

It seems as though you would both benefit from a "normal" friendship with sexual tension here and there.

If you do this, a few good things could potentially happen:
1. Since you will be less attached to the outcome, she may become more attracted to you and sex will just come naturally
2. You could foster a genuine friendship with a cool girl and learn how to be an even more awesome guy who knows the ins and outs of women, making you more attractive to her and to other women
3. There may be less of a chance that you would hurt her, scare her away, etc. Since she just got out of a bad relationship, she would benefit from having some more "normal" single time.

However, you really need to manage expectations more by making it clear that you intend on dating other women as well, and that she should also take advantage of her position as a single woman by dating other guys as well.

It's all about that abundance mentality.