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PostPosted: Sat Aug 09, 2014 11:23 pm 
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Hey.. Today I was sitting next to a girl i like and the conversation just couldnt go.. She is kinda shy girl and i am kinda shy boy too and I just didnt know what to say. I think she actually might be interested so I dont want to mess it up like this. What should I do next time I meet her??


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PostPosted: Sat Aug 09, 2014 11:49 pm 
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Hey.. Today I was sitting next to a girl i like and the conversation just couldnt go.. She is kinda shy girl and i am kinda shy boy too and I just didnt know what to say. I think she actually might be interested so I dont want to mess it up like this. What should I do next time I meet her??
It is likely you both got nervous and ran out of stuff to say. Next time find something in from my of you, point, say the first thing that pops into your head. Babble and don't stop. Anything man, doesn't matter. Keep going, just make words come out until she says something. Just talk shit. She'll thank you for taking the pressure off her.


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PostPosted: Sun Aug 10, 2014 12:16 am 
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Keep the conversation going. You may be thinking too much, just keep at it. And let the conversation flow.


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PostPosted: Tue Aug 12, 2014 6:09 am 
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Agree w Mastermind and lobos. It's hard sometimes but yea talk But Don't talktooooooooo much as this can annoy her or she might not have a chance to respond. I like to ask questions that elicit a response. Not just yes or no questions. Instead of do u like heavy metal maybe ask like do u like Metallica? Etc. which concert did u go to or which anime is your fave. Basically find a connection and draw off that then from there draw off more connections. Sounds like you already kno her which takes alot of the pressure off. Just be assertive and have fun. Dont think abt it too much because when your nervous other people can sense it including chicks. After talking get a bite to eat. Everybody loves to eat no matter who you are or where you're from lol. That's my two cents. GL bruh! =] update us on further results!


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PostPosted: Tue Aug 12, 2014 1:24 pm 
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The key to making a conversation flow, especially if you're an introvert, is to focus on being curious about the other person instead of worrying about what she thinks of you.

For your situation, talk about something that you have in common to start things off. She will inevitably say something that you can ask about in more detail.

Active listening is key.

However, instead of trying to get more technical details (ex. her major, how many siblings she has, etc.), try to find out the reasons and motivations behind the things she does (ex. what core values led her to choosing her major, what her experiences of having 2 younger siblings has taught her, etc.).

The mind of the woman you're talking to is uncharted territory and you're a mapmaker.


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