| A lot of guys feel like they're interrupting a girl when they want to approach her.
And because of that, most of the time they behave like they're ashamed and start acting
all apologetic and "I'm so sorry for interrupting, I know I shouldn't...".
But this really puts women off, because they perceive that as lack of confidence.
So a key confidence principle is ASSERTIVENESS.
Assertiveness means putting yourself in the middle of the conversation without apologizing or
acting sorry for it, but assuming she wants to talk to you and she wants to meet you.
You can put assertiveness between aggressiveness and passiveness.
Aggressiveness is when you see a girl, then you walk up, smack her on the head and take
her to your cave with you.
Passiveness is when you just observe women and not do much about it. You're just passively
watching.
Assertiveness is just in between aggressiveness and passiveness. It's being slightly more
pushy but in a nice way.
So if she's sitting on a park bench, and she's all alone reading a book...
AGGRESSIVENESS would be going there and smacking the book away, taking her into your arms
and leaving with her. (Which is something some women even fantasize - a guy who takes them away)
PASSIVENESS would be just passing her by and doing nothing.
ASSERTIVENESS would be walking over there, and saying, "Hi, can I sit here?"
with an attitude (and this is the key) that she'll be OK with it and that she actually wants you to
sit there and meet her.
A key quality of assertiveness is not being overly sensitive about what others are doing at the time.
So while most guys analyze what the woman is doing and will they interrupt her, confident guys
think that "No matter what the woman is doing, it is much more important for them to talk to me
and meet a guy like me. "
"Reading a book is booring and she can do that at any time she wants, but
not it's time for her to meet a guy like me..."
And to do that, you gotta stop looking on yourself as on an interruption, but as a guy who women
want to meet and talk to.
Get it?
So when approaching a woman, don't see yourself as an interruption, because that will mess up your
chances with a girl. See yourself as the gift of the day, as someone who women want and can't
wait to meet.
And then go there and assert yourself.
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