| Thanks guys for the responses and suggestions, I appreciate them and definitely have considered some of these options.
The only issues I've encountered with my options are that even though I want to cheat and explore other women, i just can't do it with a clear conscience, and since my wife is so keen to my non-verbal, she will know something is up and it will just make things worse (as something similar has happened in the past). in addition to that, my own personal philosophies prevent me from being to be that dishonest with her. I believe in connections (in fact i want many with several women, which is my problem) but staying to true to that connection requires honesty (in my belief system) compromising that honesty compromises connection, which in turn defeats the purpose of one of my life goals: undisputed connection. i'd then be living a contradiction to myself and this is something I know I am not strong enough to brush aside.
(i know im getting deep, but i want to share in the event someone else is going through something similar)
I strongly believe in the evolution of man and in our part to make future generations better, so i'd rather tackle these issues than just keep things status quo and not evolving in the situation, which i could be semi-satisfied with, but i'd rather grow than not addressing it at all
the third option, which would be amazing for me!, but is not possible is that I could go poly and try to introduce her to the world.
a couple of problems here:
-i did not introduce this concept early enough, it was not understood by her that I am this way (i covered it up at first); so learn your lesson men, make sure these women know a mono life is not for you (if it isn't) and be true to yourself rather than mimicking what she wants
- the topic has been brought up (in a much lighter context) previously, and there is absolutely NO WAY she could do something like this. she's a 9-10 and as many of you know, these are the most insecure women (hands down) her knowing i was fucking other women would destroy her and would lead to the demise of our family and it would make her bitter which would make my life hell since we are married (ie: divorce, child support, her moving back to NY, etc) but that's just my situation...
I did find a decent solution from someone who private messaged me:
He suggested reading the book "Attached" by Amir Levine.
This book has offered crucial insight to how we handle relationships and prospects of relationships.
Quick summary:
You are either:
anxious- always worrying about relationship, concerned w worst case scenarios, jump to conclusions etc. (most hot women)
avoidant- know there's something better out there, remember how great past exes are/were, quick to leave relationship, committaphobes, jet before it gets too serious, etc (this is me)
secure- comfortable in relationships, handle others insecurities well, "team" person ready to put other needs ahead or even with your own
the book discusses these types and solutions for how to deal w each type (quick read, easy to read, interesting the entire time)
My advice to anyone is to read this book. if you are a pua this is something that you can benefit from greatly because you can quickly identify how your girls are and use the information to best benefit your situation (you could use it for manipulation, or it's intent: more meaningful relationships)
Thank you again to the guys who replied, I really do appreciate it sincerely
Have fun out there
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CHAT
