I agree that you should give up the idea of becoming a successful PUA. Stop trying to become and just be.
Tap into the mindset that you are already the person you want to be. Visualize yourself already there. Look at every detail in your visualizations: smell, touch, sight, sound. Many of us develop the habits of seeing ourselves as less than what we are. So we have to adjust our perception of who we are now and then. Whether or not our bodies are paralyzed or not, our minds do not have to be. Frida Kahlo learned to become a painter while incapacitated (Check out the quote below). Also check Maslow's ideas on Self-Actualization. These ideas helped me get out of my own way to successful living. (I'll post a link to this later)
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Kahlo contracted polio at age six, which left her right leg looking thinner sometimes than the other (a deformity Kahlo hid by wearing long skirts). It has also been conjectured that she also suffered from spina bifida, a congenital disease that would have affected both spinal and leg development [5]. As a girl, she participated in boxing and other sports. I
On 17 September 1925, Kahlo was riding in a bus when the vehicle collided with a trolley car. She suffered serious injuries in the accident, including a broken spinal column, a broken collarbone, broken ribs, a broken pelvis, eleven fractures in her right leg, a crushed and dislocated right foot, and a dislocated shoulder. An iron handrail impaled her abdomen, piercing her uterus, which seriously damaged her reproductive ability. Though she recovered from her injuries and eventually regained her ability to walk, she was plagued by relapses of extreme pain for the remainder of her life. The pain was intense and often left her confined to a hospital or bedridden for months at a time. She would undergo as many as 35 operations in her life as a result of the accident, mainly on her back and her right leg and foot.
After the accident, Frida Kahlo turned her attention away from the study of medicine to begin a full-time painting career. The accident left her in a great deal of pain while she recovered in a full body cast; she painted to occupy her time during her temporary state of immobilization. Her self-portraits became a dominant part of her life when she was immobile for three months after her accident. "I paint myself because I am often alone and I am the subject I know best" reflects her inner feelings about both her art and her psychological state. Frida's mother had a special easel made for her so she could paint in bed, and her father lent her his box of oil paints and some brushes.[6]
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