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Guys, the op is talking about an ongoing problem, not just one girl. To blame circumstance or all these girls for the problem is fuck'n AFC. He was right to think he was doing something wrong and to come here to figure out the error in his ways.
I approach busy girls, I appoach girls who are tired of being hit on, girls with boyfriends, girls with earphones in, and 8 times out 10 they stop dead, cross their angles and stand there playing with their hair.
Stop making bullshit excuses for this guy. He, I think quite correctly, identified that he has presentation problem. "Just be yourself" is some shit advice if who he is is a guy projecting an energy he doesn't understand or control.
This is obviously a technical problem.
This is why a lot of guys come here. To find some sort of an algorithm, set of techniques, and/or routines they can use to desperately improve their standing with women. It's a backward approach they're hoping will lead to some sort of inner change. This is the dellusion, you can't fix the inner by addressing it from the outer. Put another way, you'll always be looking outside of yourself for validation if that's where the change originates. Working on yourself, connecting to yourself, with the object of meeting YOUR OWN needs rather than being dependent on any one person or persons to fill that lack within is the only thing that'll lead to any meaningful change. You can feign/fake being "alpha" all you want, most people can tell some it may take more time than others to realize that your persona is just a facade, a sort of over-compensation and you'll end up alone as you had always felt anyway.
If you want to project good energy, that good energy must be real and exist from within. Your interactions will be far more authentic and you'll be a more attractive person both to yourself and others around you. This is why with some guys they become successful with women later in life 30s/40s because they give less than 2 shits of what other people think; their sense of self isn't as externally derived and most of this comes about experientially. And herein lies the kicker...the LESS you care about external things (e.g., opinions, judgments of others real or imagined), the more you'll attract the kind of people you want in your life (higher self-esteem people). The inverse is also true: the MORE you care about external things (e.g., opinions, judgments of others real or imagined) the more you'll attract the wrong (toxic) people in your life - why? Subconsciously you feel you need them in your life as a means to connecting to yourself. You CANNOT connect to yourself through women, I've tried it over and over and have now had to accept this reality. In the last few years I went through a spat of terribly toxic relationships with damaged women - it wasn't always this way, however. I had to the fortune of being with some pretty amazing women too in the years before (luck of the draw, perhaps). What does this all mean? Build your house on a solid foundation, the bedrock from which the foundation is laid upon should be a solid mass, NOT stilts built upon a sandy base (your house will fall to pieces or at least become precariously unstable once one of the supports washes away). Or, if you will, imagine yourself as that huge Oak tree. Roots planted firmly into the ground, and the roots are plentiful and anchored deeply. The base of that solid house, the roots of the tree, those represent the connection you have to yourself, your experience ("What's this sensation going on in my body right now?"). This process is life-long, but the sooner you embark on doing this the more grounded you'll feel in yourself and the byproduct is that you'll never have to rely on cold reads, being a certain way (e.g. the funny/cock guy), use routines like the cube, or any other thing that basically means trying to cheaply sell yourself to another person like a used car sale's man trying to upsell you on a car you know is a piece of crap.
I digress.
The OP questions himself, he has an uncertainty about him which is quite obvious to me. Rather than help him tweak his 'game' he'd be far better served working on building a greater self-awareness and building a stronger connection to himself. All the rest will fall into place once he begins doing this.
CHAT