Hey folks, broke up with my girlfriend last month and decided to follow the "No Contact Challenge" as outlined on another forum.

I'm not sure if I'm allowed to share links to external threads, but, for those who aren't familiar, you absolutely under no circumstances are to contact your ex after a breakup. The reasoning behind it is for you to move on (works beautifully), and/or it'll give you a chance to rekindle your ex's attraction in you after a predetermined time of no contact.

Well it worked. As of today I made a month of no contact. She tried contacting me once before, which went roughly like this:
Her: Hey.
Me: Hey.
Her: How are you?

I never got to reply. Didn't feel like it really.

Throughout this time she kept doing high school mannerisms like logging onto SPAM exactly after I log on (she's never on, and I rarely am myself). Same thing with Facebook.

Long story short, she's trying to get me to re-initiate contact. Now I moved on, so I feel no motivation to do so. Besides, it defeats the purpose of No-Contact even though I've finished the "course" now. Yet it would be cool if I could keep her as an extra source of sex.

My question is, is there anything I can do to have her come to me. If this is gonna happen I want it to happen under my terms.

Cheers.

Hey mate a fellow the 1st thing that comes to mind for me is a Dos Equis man quote his car does not have reverse simply out of principal.

Sex with your ex is meaningless. Unless you're getting back together It will only negatively affect you you've done well up to this point so you go back sleep with her develop feelings and she finds someone else and you're back to where you started if not worse. Don't look back keep moving forward I can tell you still I can tell by the nature of your post you haven't totally moved on you want to sleep with her in hopes of getting her back brother that is a fatal mistake. Like I said before no contact move forward.

Hope that helps good luck!!

Are you then planning on initiating contact, or waiting for her?

Either way, yes you can, But let her EARN being with you. Let her WORK for it.

Start flirting with the her again by teasing, playfully being sexual. Remind her of a great sex romp you once had, then tell her "to bad I'm off limits now."

Talk about her body, tits, ass. Tell her all the dirty things you would do to her 'if '.......

Tell her you could meet her for drinks (Near your place) but only if she can keep her hands to herself.

Escalate, kino, invite to check out your new wallpaper. LEAD her around by the hand....then to the bedroom.

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I agree with Heywood. If you're gonna go for it that's how you do it, but only if you're 100% emotionally detatched and independent of any outcome whether it be good or bad.

Oh definitely, I am the prize after all.

I'd say I'm 80% emotionally detached. I could wait a tick before initiating contact, but as I said, I'd rather have her come to me. She's a 'want' at this point. Like a Playstation (lol?). Great if you get it as a gift, but I'm not going to go and buy it.

Don't re-initiate until you've fucked at least one other girl (preferably more).

That 20% emotional attachment you still have could quickly spiral back up to 90% if you don't give yourself enough time to get over her.

Ex sex is usually boredom / loneliness. Go out more. Start pulling.

New wallpaper?? SERIOUSLY??????? PPL still use wallpaper??

If you set up some jealousy plotlines (especially with girls you both know) she'll most likely get put on 'aggressor mode' and step her game up as a power move. Keep playing hard to get and you can turn her into a desperate ex and thus become your booty call.

If you go out and meet other girls, one way or another she will probably chase on her own accord without you having to initiate.

Cheers for all the feedback! Am taking it all into consideration.

The SPAM thing, stop assuming it's about you. I know it probably is, but stop it. Just assume that it's not.

She'll start small... maybe she'll like your status (hoping that it'll make you initiate something), then she'll comment on something, then something else, then she'll message you. I wouldn't reply to the comments unless they're a question, I'd just like them. She'll do more and more (chasing more and more without even realising that she's doing it, how beautiful is that lol)

It's pretty much up to you from there. Takes strength though.

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Bawhahaha.

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Notice how on my last comment, I said she'll start small and then gradually do more? Well, it's interesting because, it's happened to me since I wrote it lol!

Long story short: Me and my ex broke up in April (she dumped me) so I went into NC for a month and then initiated contact again (oneitis had me behaving like a little girl, it was insane)

Ever since about May 20th-25th whenever it was, we've been back in contact. We live like 2 hours apart so we haven't even seen eachother since the breakup. I've been playing it (kinda) cool, but still being a little beta at times. I asked to meet up and she said shes busy for a week but will let me know when shes free. I got jealous about what shes busy doing etc (turned out to be innocent but I've still made a dick out of myself when I knew better)

She even told me "stop being weird :/" which really said to me "Stop being the embarrassing version of yourself that you were a couple of years ago. Go back to being the man that you've become"

I decided that I'm better than oneitis, people are dying allover the world due to wars, disease, poverty etc... and I'm worrying about an ex girlfriend!? Been giving advice on this stuff for ages, yet I think it's acceptable to just slip up like that? F*** that! So I replied "You're completely right. Just been a bad week. Was wrong of me to be a tit to you. Enjoy your week. When you figure it out about meeting up, get in touch" (I didn't want to be a prick, so I wasn't going to suddenly go all PUA mode on her after how weak I'd just been - would be see through)

I haven't contacted her since then. She sent a Snapchat "Sun needs to go away" with a picture of her posing... she would have sent it to everyone on her "recent" as she always does... but it had been like 5 days so I wasnt on that, so she purposely ticked me (starting small)

So anyway I ignored that Snap. She came on SPAM today... I was appearing offline, and my comment says "I wish I could (be bothered to learn how to) play the guitar..." so she sent me a message "Guitar? I want to learn to play the piano, always have"

Nothing about meeting up, so I'm not replying. Time to get over this crap properly.

I'd like some opinions though; am I being tested to see if I meant what I said about getting in touch when she figures it out? Did she just not take that serious? Sorry to hijack the thread lol, it's just basically the same situation...

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I hate this No Contact, get your ex back bs. A girl dumps you, move on. Heal, assess what went wrong and find better. Block, delete, whatever you have the do. This is 2014. She let you go. If you had a job for 2 years, and one day they fire you, so you go back to school for a degree, are you going to accept your old job when you've improved yourself, or find a better paying job? Why scheme for a girl who didn't consider you special? If she thought you were special she wont have dumped you. So why re initiate or even talk to her and scheme or even think about how to get her back when she didn't scheme or think on how not to dump you. The pussy is old...youve had it. Delete and block. Find new pussy instead of scheming on getting the same old pussy again.

Genius. I've never thought about it like that. Though I'm focusing more on getting over her. The first month was some pussyish manipulative attempt at getting her back, but now I just want to move on from this crap. I've given good advice to SO MANY other people going through breakups/getting over girls... but when it comes to actually DOING what I say, I often fuck it up. Time to take some action, so that's what I'm doing.

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