Ignore your "buddy." The words "pipe dream" that he is using with you are generally used by those who are unsuccessful or not as successful as they may want to be.

Frankly, the "advice" from this "friend" is pretty much the biggest steaming pile of shit I've ever heard.

The reality whether you or anyone else chooses to believe it or not is that there are no limits to what you can do/accomplish/who you can "date"/etc. The only limit is that which you set in your own mind.

It does not matter how tall you are, etc. Checkout Cupid Shmupid on Youtube if you don't believe this.

Go for the girls YOU feel naturally attracted to and shut out everything else. Some guys think magazine models are gross and prefer the girl next door look. One guy's 10 is another guy's 3. Just do you and fuck everyone else's opinion.

Your friend is right.

Youre not doing anything to get the women you want so he doesn't have faith in you and is telling you to give up. You say you believe you can if given the opportunity. Well, you gotta put the work in an create the opportunity. Whatever is keeping you from getting the Asian girls you want, fix it. Now. No excuses or dreams. Dreams dont mean shit if you're not doing anything to achieve them.

Let me put it this way. If my friend says he isn't going to college because he will become a millionaire by opening his own business and I see him working hard toward that, id be a bad friend to tell him to give up. But if he is staying home and doing nothing id tell him to go to college and get a regular job. Because staying home is never going to get him success. What you're doing is the equivalent of staying home. If your not going to places where you can game these girls or figuring out how to game them in the venues you currently go to... do you really think one day you'll just magically get these girls? No. So your friend is right. Do something to at least talk to these girls or drop your standards and get laid. Its not that hot girls are unattainable for you... its that by doing nothing to get them you've made them unattainable. Show your friend that you're talking to the girls you want and getting better at attracting them. But dont be mad at him for telling you the truth when you're waiting for an opportunity.

Maybe your friend is dedicating saying you're going for girls out of your league.

Update:

Okay i've been going out with this girl (once a week in my days off from work) for the past two weeks. I really am not attracted to her AT ALL yet she's head over heels about me and she's madly in love with me. Yesterday when we went on a date she was constantly feeling up on me, constantly kissing me, constantly looking at me and smiling (she can NEVER keep her eyes off me), and more. No matter what she does with me in order to try and turn me on I can never get into her and I always keep looking at other girls because I really am not into her because I really don't think she's pretty enough to be my girlfriend.




The point i'm making is.... this proves that my friend was wrong that I should do what he advised me to do. See now.... i'm dating her and i'm always wishing it was my ideal type of girlfriend because she nowhere near fits the mold of what I want in my ideal girlfriend.

That same friend talked to me today and thinks i'm fucked up as hell because I think this girl isn't attractive at all and I don't believe she's good enough to be my girlfriend. His argument is that I should give her a chance as my girlfriend because he believes EVERY GIRL is beautiful and he believes every girl deserves to find love but my argument is that he is correct but that doesn't mean i'm obligated to make her my girlfriend if I don't think she's attractive enough to be with me....

Who is right in your opinion? Me for not wanting her as my girlfriend because I don't think she's attractive enough to be with me or him saying that I should give her a chance even if i'm not attracted to her because he believes every girl is beautiful and every girl deserves a chance to have a boyfriend

Jesus man.

This shit right here... this is your problem.

Why the FUCK are you calling this girl your GIRLFRIEND and saying you're DATING after seeing her twice?

This is why you can't get those "party Asian girls"... this is your exact fucking problem.

Those girls want to party and have fun. You want to cuddle and watch movies. You're looking for the wrong type of girl.

What did I tell you the other day? I told you that if you want to get those girls, you've got to be the type of guy those girls want.

Be a player dude. Go out every single fucking night and slowly but surely change your identity into a guy who just fucks sluts cause they like to party instead of a little bitch who's gonna throw labels on everything.

So if you want those girls, you've gotta become the type of guy that they want.

Wow. I missed that he was looking for Asian girls.
Yeah, that's gonna be a mighty tall order in California.

I dated mostly Asian girls in California, but it was because I figured out a loophole in the system. But these were the traditional, reserved Asian girls. Not the club girls with blonde hair, tattoos, etc.

I have no idea how to do this OP. I've never seen an average looking guy, with a normal income succeed here. And the amount of time I spent in predominately Asian establishments... I saw a lot of guys try.

Edit: When you say Asian, I'm assuming you mean Sino-Asian. Like Chinese, Korean, Japanese. If you mean like Indian and Filipino, that's a whole other thing. They shouldn't be that difficult. Possibly easier than white girls.

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Believe it or not I personally know broke dudes who literally have no money at all (and no car) pull those kind of Asian girls in the club with the blonde hair, tattoos, Jordans, snapbacks, etc. All it really takes is knowing the right things to say and good timing in order to get them. I have none of those since I never get lucky with good timing whenever I get the chance to meet these kind of girls since by the time I meet them they already have a boyfriend....

and just FYI by Asian I mean all Asians. It don't matter if she's Chinese, Korean, Japanese, Filipino, Thai, Cambodian, etc. I love them all! lol!

Doesn't mean that I would say no to a white girl or a Latina girl though. I totally would take em if those girls looked similar to the ones in the pic you showed me! It's just that my #1 preference is an Asian girl who is outgoing and parties a lot.

Forget "CAN" you get a more attractive girl. WILL you take the steps to get a more attractive girl? If yes, ditch the ugly girl. If no, wife her and give up.

I think I mangled that description a little. The Asian girls with blonde hair, tattoos etc are more open to meeting white guys. Actually, it's a pretty strong sign that she either likes whites or blacks. It's like a billboard that reads "No Asian men, please". That type of Asian girl is mostly found in white or mixed race clubs. I tended to be out in Asian establishments that were full of more traditional Asian girls. Dark hair, career driven, etc.

I think Asian Playboy has stuff on dating Asian girls... I haven't read it, but I have heard he's one of the only PUAs around that actually has a good bootcamp where students truly improve. May be worth checking into.

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This is right.

It takes effort.

You can fuck girls in the future you can't even imagine fucking now.

A girl like the one on the first page is going to require work. It is definitely doable. Even if you look like that first guy (all he needs to do is dress better, get a better haircut, workout more, and get more game).

I'm 29 and I fuck 19, 20, 21 year olds. I don't think I've fucked a girl over 25 in the past year (though I did eat out a 90 pound 29 year old Asian surgeon). The last girl I fucked was 21. The last two girls I kissed were 19 and 22, respectively. All 3 of them skinny, one with a huge booty, the other with giant boobs.

You're in the salad days - improve your game for the next two years (that's what I did at 26) and it worked great. Girls really don't care very often. I'm only just -now- at 29 starting to get a -little- bit of pushback about the age thing from some girls. Almost none care. And some are really into it.

Take really good care of yourself and you don't need to even start to think about settling down until you're in your 30s. Maybe.