for a high schooler trying to get girls, a guy getting out of a long relationship, a desperate virgin, or really any guy who wants to attract girls being a PUA is a goal that is very desired. but most don't know where to start, most guys think it's about pick up lines, buying drinks, and getting lays...well sorry to inform you but it's way more than that..for some being a PUA is a lifestyle, the life of a young bachelor enjoying life. we get negative views because society tells us we should settle down, because we can get almost any girl we want, because we have the ability to be the life of the party....being a successful PUA takes time, dedication and money, but if you build the lifestyle of one, i promise your life will be amazing, here are a couple of steps to get you started

1. learn what style you are- i hate to make this sound like a video game but there are 4 main styles of pick up, the gentleman, the funny guy, the asshole, and the pretty boy...of course you could be both and its actually possible to be all 4...find out which one you are and build on your personality, if you're the funny guy, think of more jokes, try to make more people laugh, smile more often, think positive if you're really the funny guy, the feeling of making somebody else laugh will make your day, if you're the asshole, think of ways to make your arrogant, selfish ways more lovable, think of archer....i know people like archer who are very self centered and mean but we still love them to death...basically if you know your style, it'll be easier to draw people in to you, instead of trying to be a person you're not....natural game works the best in my opinion

2. Realize looks do matter- now im a STRONG believer that any guy could get almost any girl, but if you're ugly as FUCK don't have bad hygiene, get a haircut that fits your face, trim facial hair till you look amazing, take showers, wear amazing cologne so your smell draws people closer (yes that is possible lol) also if youre fat don't just accept the fact that you're fat, yes we live in different times where the fat are glorified for some reason, i promise a girl will choose a guy with a six pack over a guy with a fat pack, WORK ON YOUR PHYSIQUE, Zyzz had one of the greatest lifestyles of any man ever, partly because of his amazing physique, look up guys like ryan terry Ulysses Williams jr, Marc fitt, and tell me that doesn't motivate you to work out, being healthy not only causes you to look great but it causes you to feel great and when you feel great people will notice and be more drawn in to you

3. Peacock- find your style, my motto is "real men don't have swag they have class" so i dress very GQ'ish but that doesn't mean you have to also, if you like a style dress the way that make you feel comfortable but at the same time stand out in a good way, don't always walk around in pajamas or flip flops, invest in nice clothes, they don't have to be name brand but make sure they look decent, mix up colors, make sure they fit you perfectly, wash them, you don't have to be metro sexual with it but at least try to look good...yeah a guy can pull a girl in anything he wears but you want to stand out, i get compliments ALL THE TIME 90% of the time from girls, its so much easier to open when a girl already opened for you lmao if you dress nice more people will notice you, and if you dress in a way that make you stand out, it shows you're confident and not some guy who follows the crowd. think of EVER PUA in a movie especially Alfie or Ryan gosling in crazy stupid love...it's all about the image baby lol

4. WORK- if u have the time, GET A JOB, not only are girl 100% attracted to a guy who has a job compared to one who doesn't, but you'll be able to fiance all of this, if you can create an amazing, creative, and cocky resume, get a really good job, and schmooze your way up to a good level, be a hustler...one guy on here said a guy should put himself at rock-bottom so he'll have to work his way out, thus building amazing work ethic and survival skills. the reason i bring this up is because the next couple of point require decent money,

5. a bachelor pad, if you're a struggling college student i understand cause im one also but if you have a decent job, money saved up and still living with your parents then get your own place, the younger the better, the first thing you should do after you get a place is to fix it up, living conditions are VERY impactful on your lifestyle, if you live in the slums it makes you feel down, if your house is nasty you;ll feel nasty...bring an attractive house, one that people would love to come to, and will beg you to invite them to...think of EVERY PUA you've seen in a movie, they have nice apartments, even if the apartment is in a horrible area, i know guys who live in horrible places but apartment is amazing....work on lighting, invest on a small bar,every guy should be able to mix atleast 4 martinis, get a nice entertainment system, play with colors, get scented candles or wax warmers, if you invite a girl in and she likes your house that improves your chances of sex by 75%

6. get a car- you don't have to get a corvette, or a Lamborghini, just get something that'll get you around town, if you have the money invest in a decent car, even if you don't invest in a decent car, you'll rather spend maybe 10-20,000 for a good car, than 1-10,000 on a car that needs ALOT of work, and will end up costing you ALOT. yes women like nice cars, but they also like guys who make good decisions, don't spend money if you don't have it, save up for a car, don't just buy.....but a decent car is very important especially if you live in a town where public transportation is trash

7. LIVE LIFE- life is hard, if you're young enjoy your young years while you can, while it's acceptable to get help from parents, while you don't have a huge family, i see soo many people get married young and live miserable, because they have no freedom, live life, travel, party, get out there and enjoy the time we have on this planet, only settle down when you want to, don't listen to what society tells you or what your friends tell you, when you're tired of living life to the fullest then settle down and live life with somebody you love and not with somebody you just settled for, you get one shot at life and you don't have time to regret not doing something

8. MOTIVATION- stop masturbating, that's the best thing i can tell anybody, nothing is wrong with it but at the same time EVERYTHING is wrong with it, most guys go out, get rejected or never talk to girl, then go home and masturbate -_-...when you masturbate you basically lose all motivation to get laid, you stop trying and you create unnatural expectation of women, stop it lol....also look at people like zyzz, jeff stied, they live everyday like it's their last, look at james bond, or any pua in movies, aim for that lifestyle, think about how happy you'll be when you finally get that attractive lifestyle,

9.Get out there- being a PUA is all about charisma, charisma comes naturally but it can also be taught, go out there and talk to people, make friends, do favors for people, compliment people, make people laugh, and be that person that everybody loves, when people like being around you, you attract more people, you have connections and people will start doing more for you, my dad know EVERYBODY and has gotten me out of trouble and gotten me in different groups that are very hard to get in. try not to burn bridges....the more people you approach the the easier it'll be to approach that girl of your dreams

10. know your limits-live life to the fullest but don't kill yourself, don't ruin your life, don't hurt others, have an attractive lifestyle not a dangerous lifestyle. Zyzz probably had one of the most attractive lifestyles imaginable, he had money, girls, charm, and an amazing physique BUT he was also addicted to alot of drugs and steroid which ended up taking his life, work hard play hard, have fun but be safe.... if you're going to sleep around with every girl, use protection, don't have alot of kids out there ruing those poor women lives....if you meet a person you fall in love with and truly love everything about them, don't leave because you want to have fun, don't hurt other in order to have fun, take life seriously, meaning that your happiness is important but it could ruin others easily

most importantly

11. Actually PICK UP GIRLS- being a pua isn't hard but having the lifestyle that most attach to PUA's is, any guy could walk up to a girl, but it takes a real artist to walk up to a girl and have sex with her the same night...pua are smooth suave, smart, and funny, we let our words be a paint brush that paints a scene that ever girl desires to be apart of. always have a couple pick up lines ready, always have a couple openers in the back of your mind, know how to push a conversation into the right way, learn to LISTEN, learn to read body language, learn, learn, learn....girls aren't hard, but we are literally making them hard to understand, movies, book, and most media make it where getting a girl is damn near impossible and now these women feel the same way, it's becoming harder and harder, but what should a good pua do....evolve....when a guy has the ability to get almost any girl he want, he feels 10000% better, he feels like an alpha male.....most people say PUA isn't a big deal, but those same guys are depressed they only had one lay in 30 years....remember to use C.A.S.H to get women using-c-a-s-h-to-be-charming-vt181204.html

i know most of these are very inaccurate, especially the fiance parts, but i just wanted to give a view of what it takes, to have an amazing lifestyle...if you have more you want to add just write it, i want this to be a real guide for beginners and help people, so please add more advice

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"My understanding of women only goes as far as the pleasure. When it comes to the pain I'm like any other bloke - I don't want to know."-Alfie

PART 2 Making sure you don't become a womanizer but a ladies man

before i tell you how to not become a womanizer i must tell you the differences

womanizers are guys who see women as objects, they enjoy talking to them, looking at them, touching them and having sex with them. but outside of pleasure they can not stand women, most womanizers hate women because of unfair SPAM and how women are so confusing. most womanizers are also natural and take rejection really well because they don't care about the woman enough to actually care what she thinks of him..womanizers flirt with almost every woman no matter how they look, just for the pleasure they get for talking to them.....this sounds horrible but alot of guys are like this, or atleast share some of these characteristics....james bond, archer, stifler, and alfie are fictional characters who are womanizers

ladies men are guys who are good at attracting or picking up girls, they ike talking to girls, complimenting girls and doing stuff for girls to make them feel good, ladies men are often hilarious and love making women smile/laugh...they usually agree with women on alot of points and can take women from their boyfriends with ease...ladies men love relationships and treat their GF's like queens........examples of a lady's man would be will of fresh prince, Ryan gosling off of crazy stupid love,

the best way to avoid being a womanizer is to actually take the time out and enjoy things about women, enjoy their thoughts, learn what makes them tick, actually put an effort to make them smile to make them feel happy and to make them love you, when you find a girl you actually like don't blow her off because you want to be a "player" actually embrace it...pick up isn't for everybody

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"My understanding of women only goes as far as the pleasure. When it comes to the pain I'm like any other bloke - I don't want to know."-Alfie

Excellent post,very informative and great 11 points with lifestyle being key!

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"Life is a chance,take all the ones you get".

idk if anybody ever did this but ill like to share some information i learned from experience.

1. Don't ever tell a girl you are a nice guy or a gentleman. girls will always claim they want whats best for them but will subconsciously seek the exact opposite with intentions of changing them into whats best for them. Plus most guys who claim to be the nice guy (myself included once ago) are TOOO nice. most girls idea of a nice guy is a "boy" who can't stand up for himself, use compliments to get attention, has no confidence and are weak. now is that true most of the time ummmm NO but alot of times it is so its bets to not even say you're a nice guy and if a girl calls you a nice guy, you don't have to be an asshole but atleast get more of a backbone....to many guys think compliments and being nice will get them girls thats not necessarily true

2 don't EVER say you're a gentleman if all you are is a nice guy with etiquette. Robert S. Surtees said it best "The man who is always talking about being a gentleman, never is one"(ironic cause my name is southern gentleman lol) a true gentleman is humble yet confident, assertive, yet polite, and basically an asshole but charming. that's why women want them, but alot of "nice guys" classify themselves as gentlemen when infact they're just guys who are too nice. i saw a post on instagram saying girls basically want a gentleman thug " a guy who will open a door for you but also fight and take up for you" and im here thinking gentlemen are suppose to fight for what they love, how did they get this rep of being weak? then it hit me

3 Compliments: most (not all) nice guys think phsyical compliments will get them sex, but gentlemen are taught that compliments or praising anything is a good thing but physical compliments are stupid. Every compliment is suppose to be earned and if you're not doing something a gentleman will tell you. thats why a compliment from a gentleman is more satisfying. put it like this. most charismatic people are refered to as gentlemen right? and most charismatic people are also PUA right? a simple compliment like "i like your dress' or "that color looks amazing on you" will do way better than a generic 'you're gorgeous"....last week i told this mean ass lady her eye shadow looked amazing on her....she not only smiled and changed her mood completely but she let me get my refund check without my student ID (which is bad lol)

but hey this whole topic might be stupid but im pretty sure this is good information, what do you guys think?..

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"My understanding of women only goes as far as the pleasure. When it comes to the pain I'm like any other bloke - I don't want to know."-Alfie

I find the compliments bit hard to believe in the way,like i would give straight out compliments like "you look pretty today" and she may reply thank you and then i would neg her about something,for example i was on the phone to a girl last night and i said she had a sexy accent and she would say "aww thank you" and giggle but then i would playfully mock it and she would call me mean,but she wouldnt hang up.she would always want to talk and strive away from ending the call.this has similarly happened with 3 girls so far.but your opinion piece makes sense,to be more in depth and more accurate with your compliments

instead of being a gentleman,be a fucking MAN!stand your ground and defend your woman,be polite and respect her but show yourself being a man and not a wuss

your posts are really good man,keep that up

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"Life is a chance,take all the ones you get".

ever heard the term"a real man is a gentleman" and you're right about the compliment part, but most girls ALWAYS hear "you're pretty" or "you're beautiful" and here when i do compliment a girl she says thanks and just keep walking "cause they hear it so much" but when i compliment hair. dress, make up, or anything she had to work on to do, then they stop smile really hard and say thank you.........but thats just my experience.......thanks for the input, i wish more people would reply

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"My understanding of women only goes as far as the pleasure. When it comes to the pain I'm like any other bloke - I don't want to know."-Alfie

Every time I decide to hold a door open for a woman I get "Oh, you're such a gentleman"...
To which I reply: "Not really, I just wanted to see you from behind"

I think the housing one is off. The most important thing about housing is location. I'd rather live in a slummy apartment a mile away from where I go out, than live in a mansion that's fifteen miles away. Even at the same price.

I've lived in nicer and much less nice(white) areas and the biggest factor in sex was driving time to location. If I actually got her there, I saw just about no difference between the two.

Maybe it matters for a GF. But not FWBs, from my experience.

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lol i also do that...usually makes her laugh like crazy

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"My understanding of women only goes as far as the pleasure. When it comes to the pain I'm like any other bloke - I don't want to know."-Alfie

I could not read the entire post, but still want to add a comment. I've spent my entire life (36 years) trying to get a lifestyle worthy of the name. But guess what stops me? Girls! Chicks who want to have babies with me! Haha!

When you put your willie in one girl too much, a baby pops out. And when that happens, or rather 9 months BEFORE it happens, you get stuck in the rat race. Good luck making new friends after that! Good luck going to the gym. Good luck seeing your friends who are still single living their lives. Suddenly you have to rebuild everything from scratch again, because all your former friends will run away in fear, you won't have time to do the things you used to do, and these "friends" of yours are not willing to adapt. Nope. Instead you try to get to know new people who are in the same situation, with newborns. They understand, and they know what it takes.

So life post-PUA is like starting all over with PU again. And guess what!? Having a child in a pram does wonders to your attraction when running into girls on the street! Honestly! I've met girls while running errands, all strangers to me, and they all end up with a dreamy look, staring at me, almost blushing when I look back smiling. I can highly recommend it!

Southern Gentleman You are one bright light bulb good sir, u must have been in the game a while or are a fast learner lol. Everything u said abt nice guys is true. I did the over complimenting, no backbone, thirsty for attention shit for far too long and took me 24 yrs to learn that women don't want that and looking at it from there perspective I wouldn't want it either. I just think it takes some dudes like us a little longer to figure it out. That being said you hit the nail on the head. Don't be a douche (unless that's who you really are and or your thing) because that won't help you either. Be a gentleman who can also sometimes be mean. Seldom be an asshole but always demand respect and always go the extra mile to help those who need and deserve it which is a lot of ppl. And I love the building a lifestyle. That's exactly what I'm doing now. I was In a long 6 yr relationship and it's been done for a few months. That and some unwise financial endeavors has made me broker then ever. But I'm working on everything. My bank account is rising with my self esteem. By next yr I'll be a quarter century old and I'll have everything going for me. =]

Meh.

This is the problem with this forum. Pickup is a hobby, not a lifestyle.

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These hos ain't loyal

Very nice post and lots of insight on this. As to whether this is a hobby or a lifestyle. Really depends on the person. Some men want this to be their lifestyle others only for hobby. So, neither is right or wrong.

This post is about having an attractive lifestyle, a lifestyle if a person who is generally charismatic, I believe pickup should be a hobby but having the lifestyle of a pick up artist is very good to have

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"My understanding of women only goes as far as the pleasure. When it comes to the pain I'm like any other bloke - I don't want to know."-Alfie

I agree with the above post. Having this as a lifestyle is very advantageous, not just in the world of pickup but life in general.