Your social value isn't dependent on whether or not you have money, a good career, or any of that. When you see an astoundingly hot girl at the bar, you know everyone wants her. Mostly due to her looks at this point. However, if you see this same girl at the bar, not dressed to impressed and looking miserable, you tend to overlook her.
High social value will put you as somebody who has a lot of friends, and you aren't a loner. Whereas LOW social value makes you look like the loner. Again, you appear to be attainable by girls you don't find attractive, because nobody else seems interested. [The hot chicks.]
We gravitate towards people of high status.
High Social Value (high status) people don’t care what others think of them. These people can be alone in a new social situation and feel comfortable.
They are confident, have high self-esteem and are comfortable in almost any social situation
For example: In a bar, an attractive woman has high social value, because she is the one in control. Guys may come up and buy her drinks because they are seeking her approval. If she rejects them, they feel bad. She controls how they feel, making the guys low social value.
Low Social Value
Low Social Value (low status) people feel the need for people to like them. They need other people’s approval and validation. They are needy and cling onto high status people like leeches.
Most shy people fall into this category.
That’s why you probably like to hang around people who are more popular than you. You are almost trying to get some of their popularity. You see them as being a valuable friend to have, because they are a “step” up.
Low status people are “reactive”. They react to what other people say about them. They need people to like and approve of them. Their whole state of mind depends on what other people think of them
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Credit: http://stopyourshyness.com/blog/social-value-explained/
The cues of demonstrating high social value are found in the way you portray yourself. Your ability to make eye contact, your body language... If you appear to be nervous or unapproachable, you won't get anywhere. The tone in your voice when you speak.
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Before I got into reading up a lot on Pick Up, I looked to the internet as my get away from my anti-social world. Because I felt that my "game" was better when I wasn't put under the limelight. I couldn't trip over my text, if I felt it wasn't right, I could immediately take it back before I sent my message. However, I still demonstrated low social value because of these few mistakes:
- It was always just ME in my profile picture. Whether it was a selfie taken in the bathroom, or somewhere in my house, and they all seemed to be the same. This screamed out "this guy doesn't do anything fun!"
- My profile picture would remain the same. Almost as if I never went on the website in general; even though I was posting.
- I was ALWAYS available to talk. Instantaneously replying to any girl who sent a message back to me. Screaming out "sure, I MIGHT be doing something, but I'm not DOING something. I'm sitting on the sidelines like a loser just waiting for someone to throw themselves at me."
Ultimately... It finally did happen. Only... It wasn't the girls I wished would throw themselves at me. I started getting messages from girls who would read my profile and pretend to do the same thing I do to women now. Catch a few things they post on their page, try to relate, and start a conversation. At first I was so baffled that my efforts were "finally paying off" that I went through with a few lays on these chicks. Finally... I said "what the fuck am I doing? I know I'm better than this, and I see these average dudes pulling hot chicks all the time... What makes me so different!?"
I studied their profiles as if they were a female I was interested in. I seen these patterns and did more research - which brought me to the world of pick up anyways. Google searching during any of my free time, ways to improve my online dating, my real life interactions, etc.
So do I still have these chicks I'm not attracted to messaging me? Yes. They'll usually always be the ones who are initiating the conversation. HOWEVER, do I get more replies from the girls I express MY interest in now that I've added some sort of value to my online profiles? Absolutely.
How does this effect me at a party or in real life situations? Easy. Much like I spiffed up my profile to be warming to the eye, I've studied the profiles of the successful men and realized... I need to stop with the band shirts when I go out and dress like I'm someone people should give a shit about. Even if it's a plain black T-Shirt, I've had 80% better success when taking a keen interest in my appearance before going out. This includes my attitude, loosening up, all of my "to do's" before I go out, that make me feel like I'm going to have, not only a successful, but ultimately, a fun night! So when I go out I'm smiling, laughing, joking around, not fucking off on my phone too much, and socializing with the people around me. Demonstrating that I am interesting and have something to say; opposed to sitting in the corner with a drink and weeping.
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