| I have a few techniques that I like to do.
Pen and paper: It's my belief that, if you physically write down what you want to fix or change in your life, it bears more meaning. If you type it, you're already programmed to know where the keys are and any mistake is easily fixed by going back. When you write it; you think a little harder about what you want to say and how you want to write it. This way; the more you think on it, the more you realize certain things.
I write things down daily. Whether or not they're something I did when I went out in order to figure out where I went wrong (or even what I did right,) all the way to the things I'd like to improve on and change. Say I'm at the store and see a beautiful woman... She smiles at me, I smile back and keep walking. I jot that down and put my resolution after it. "Next time, I'm going to just say hi. What's the worst that can happen? If anything, I'll take her to coffee after she meets me!" Positive thinking promotes positive attitude and builds confidence.
Motivational quotes: Again I don't suggest JUST reading them off of the internet. However, it is a positive vibe still. The more you read (especially out loud) the more you can feel better about yourself. Find a few good ones and share them somehow. I like to write mine down and take a look back every now and then. I write down the ones that best suit me and any of my situations.
Movies: It's weird but it works for me. Let's take, for example, the movie I most recently watched that inspired me to get out and enjoy life even more. The Art of Travel. It's a man who starts off in the worst kind of ways - at his wedding with his cheating wife and his best friend, the man she cheated on him with. Naturally he knows and shuts down the wedding in a fantastic manner mind you. He takes off on his honeymoon in which he goes SOLO since he's not getting married anymore. From there he meets random people, goes out to random bars and just enjoys life for what he has now, rather than bringing himself down for what he just lost. Since I like travel and most men can relate to a situation like him; that movie really made me think "well... Why can't I just be like that guy? He did fine!" Therefore - positive thinking! I went to the store after watching that movie and feeling good and was even approached by a female with a keen eye for detail. She said "it's not normal that you see someone with such a friendly smile, walking around such a depressing place!" Since all the employees seem to hate life at this store and every customer who's in a hurry to get in and get out, it was nice for her to see someone who doesn't appear to be an asshole.
and lastly self-motivational speeches: Yes I use them. I look myself in the mirror and tell myself "you're going to go out and talk to at least 5 women today" or I'll go as far as saying "you'll get a phone number from the girl you want it from the most today and nothing will stop you!" I repeat this until I'm feeling better about myself and believe what I'm saying. Naturally I do a few exercises before I go out for the night just to get the blood flowing too. All of these things that are natural "feel goods" and promote positive attitudes. Women notice this and they act on it. If you go to the bar feeling shitty, looking shitty, or just like you downright hate yourself; no woman is going to act positively on that and even if you don't notice it yourself and THINK you're completely positive, since you don't come off that way and you get shot down, it's going to just lower your confidence more and more.
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