In general, what are some ideas for picking up a girl who is your neighbor (in an apartment building)? I can provide some additional details but I'm not sure what's relevant. All I know is that my time frame is less than 6 weeks, because then I move out.

Did this once, and I'm in a high-rise. She lived on my floor even.

I'd have normally said the cons outweigh the pros here cause of the awkwardness. It's almost like dating someone you work with... but you're leaving in a month and a half, so, that makes it not so bad.

I actually ended up knocking on her door and more or less asking for sugar. It wasn't sugar, but it was something (I don't even remember)... then small talk the fuck out of her. Ask how long she's been there, if she likes it, if she even goes to the gym, or the pool in the building.

As long as you can hold her interest and make yourself look non-creepy and like a cool guy (and provided she's single) just make a good impression the same way you would with a girl at a bar.

If you can build enough interest and get her number, you're golden... Then you move to texting - Tell her you're a horrible cook, but are going to make dinner. If your building has a patio or a community BBQ area, tell her you're grilling steak and have an extra - interested?

I had a hot next door neighbor for a while and for the longest I wanted to get with her but never made any direct move to do so. Then one day I'm just like " Fuck it.." I had saw her smile at me as she was going into her place. So I went over the same day and pulled the " Can I borrow some sugar " line and just started chatting her up. I had nothing to lose; we ended up having a 3 month sexual relationship that turned out horrible. If you currently don't have your emotions in tact it can become difficult to maintain a relationship with a girl that lives near you.

I wouldn't recommend it; its just a lot of fun that can come with a big price.

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Out of interest, how did it turn horrible?

Some interesting experiences here. I ran into her again yesterday with a bit more small talk / flirting but I was in a hurry... all it did was renew my interest. Okay let's get to the nitty gritty a bit.

Don't want anything serious. I believe my neighbor (HB9+) has multiple "boyfriends" and also is looking for a girlfriend. I've been monogamous with my girlfriend for over a year; we're recently opened up and she's definitely interested in my neighbor. I was concerned that the "borrow some sugar" type thing would be too cliche, but I guess if she's already interested somewhat then it should be fine. Currently I've got a few ideas with different levels of directness:

1) Wait until I run into her again, then say "Hey NAME can I get your opinion on something? What do you think of this girl?" and show her a picture of my girlfriend. Whatever her reaction, use that as a bridge to either go for a walk / have a drink to elaborate "I have a proposition for you".

2)Use an excuse to knock on her door, "I'm making food, and do you have XX I could borrow?" and then offer to share. If that gets her to come over (not very likely imo) then I could segue into the above conversation a bit more easily.

3)Wait until Tuesday (Jul 22) when my girlfriend comes to visit, then we both go knock on neighbor's door. Use this opportunity to invite her to a small party at my landlord's that evening. This is the most normal, and would be easier to sell my end goal with my girlfriend present, but also runs the risk of timing.

4)Go to her apartment with my girlfriend in tow and directly proposition her to do something else with us. Walk, drink, coffee, etc.

Once I've been able to get her into a decent conversation and build some comfort, the rest is all smooth sailing. I've been using indirect like a sonofabitch, but she's not home that often (she lives alone and likely spends much time at friends and boyfriend's houses). We ran into each other once at a party but no good opportunity presented itself. She's complimented me, watched me play bass at said party, typically initiates the conversations / greetings, and usually with my name as well. So the interest is almost definitely there, which is why I'm so strongly considering a direct approach. My game is rusty from being monogamous for so long, and I always freeze up when I run into her by chance... which, by the way, ranges from several days to weeks. We're both students on vacation, so no regular schedules either. I'm tired of waiting for chance encounters and parties/events to invite her to - and I'm running out of time. As far as I can see, I have nothing to lose, and everything to gain.

Anyways, tell me what you think of my above approaches and thanks for reading!

3 or 4. The other two are very likely to end poorly.

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3 or 4 probably. 2 isn't bad, but when you have option 3 or 4 I'd probably go with one of those. Ensure she doesn't feel like a 'third wheel' and/or that you're trying to send her a message that you're taken by showing up at her door w/ another girl.

Agree w Versalis and oceanx. 3 or 4 mosdef

Thanks for the reality check. Was leaning in the directions of 3 and 4 but often my lack of patience gets the better of me. Didn't consider that showing up with girlfriend possibility. 1 and 2 are more like desperation moves, which will be saved in the event of total failure and time running out.

On the plus side, to stem my aforementioned lack of patience, I've remembered an old HB7 friend of mine who, while quite lesbian (I have nearly zero tension with her), is very interested in hooking up with my girlfriend and vice versa. Someone who has pre-established comfort and attraction is likely to be much better as a first time event, then later my girl and I can move onto more... mutual conquests (i.e. girls I want to fuck as well). Ideally, I would like to get my girlfriend's confidence to a point where she can do the picking up for me, or at least work in tandem with me.