Guys, i really need help.. I am 19 years old, and my ex girlfriend and i broke up 6 months ago. She dated another guy, but broke up with him recently, the same day we fucked again, she told me she hadn't had sex with him for 2 months, and now she is pregnant so it must be by me...

it is possible to get an abortion, but she had tried it before, and told me she dont want to try it again, although she knows it is the best thing to do.

I need to convince her to get this abortion so i want be and young father and ruin my life.

PLS HELP ME, how do i convince her it is the right thing to do!?

HELP HELP HELP

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Her body, ultimately it's her decision. Next time use protection.

First get a prego test, it may not be your child, she was probably with a player that dump her ass and you are the safe/likely choice, and the whole thing was planned by her, so it may not be yours...

Tell her you do not want the kid and you want her to get an abortion, for me what work was letting them know that i do not want anything to do with her and her child, if she has the kid, that she needs to get an abortion and you will pay for it. If you have to get her parents involve, try at all cost no to have the kid.

look for little panda journal the last few pages tons of good advice there, he went through the same thing.

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im sorry to say theres nothing you can do. you could badger or bully her into doing it but then that just makes you vile, if she wants to have the baby thats her choice. another thing to do would be to just say dont want anything to do with it, but again thats vile its saying i dont want the hassle or responsibility.

heres a question why the hell would you not use a condom if you knew she broke up with someone that day? in fact why wouldnt you use a condom anyway, 2 lovely things come out of not using protection pregnancy and stds. get yourself checked for them as well.

but back to the pregnancy i would say get a paternity to make sure it is yours then if it is yours be the best dad you can be remember its not the child's fault its parents decided to engage in rebound sex after mummy broke up with someone.

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You made the decision to be a man and sleep with a girl.... You took a risk.

Now you get the be a man and deal with the consequences.

It's ultimately her choice whether or not she wants to keep the baby. And abortions can fuck with girls heads. She's got the "mother/child" connection with a baby to deal with and an abortion is going to fuck with her emotionally. It's basically like killing her child.

There's also a good possibility that she is fucking with you. I've had soooo many girls tell me that they were pregnant after we "broke up" because they wanted to keep me around, fuck with me, honestly... I don't know why some of them do that. They just want to test you maybe? What I did... is turn into a complete insecure, needy little bitch on them. All the sudden they would have miscarriages or not even say another word about it. They'd never talk to me again but if a girl is that psycho to fake a pregnancy like that... I don't want to talk to her again anyways. Good riddance.

Don't get to riled up about it... Figure out whether or not she's telling the truth and whether or not its yours before you freak out about it. If she actually is pregnant and its yours, deal with the problem then.

Thanks guys.. The thing was that she was on the pill, but because she hadn't had sex with her boyfriend for about 2 months, she thought she would stop, so she had not taken the pill on a regular basis..

Anyway, i did not actually come inside of her, which makes it even unlikely that this is happening, although i do have supersperm (i got tested and i was better than 80% of danes).

I guess i can't be to sure that it is actually mine, but i find it really unlikely that she would lie to me. I even told her that if the child was born i would want to take a DNA test. She responded that when they are going to scan her, she will be told at which exact day she got pregnant, so i guess i can be sure in that way. Also I trust her when she told me she hasn't been with anyone else since... I would want to take a test however, if she chooses to keep the baby.

She does say she want to get an abortion, also because she do not want to be a crazy baby momma who is having a baby with a guy she is not even in a relationship with. So i feel pretty certain that she is not keeping it.

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i hate to bring up biology 101 but you dont need to shoot your load up her to get her pregnant. believe it or not pre-cum does contain sperm, if you dont know what that is: you do release fluid whilst you are pumping away called pre ejaculatory fluid or 'pre-cum' so you are still releasing sperm into her without fully cumming,

if she doesnt keep it then you could say you got a lucky reprieve, however think of it this way its a life lesson make sure next time you bag it up, if it was a girl you'd met the first time would have done her bareback or used something even if she said she was on the pill... no.

i know this isnt going to be popular but if shes allowing you to do her without a condom how many other guys have shot their load up her unprotected and chances are unless she does porn she isnt getting regular std tests.

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I went through something similar recently:

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Don't panic till she shows you some actual proof that you can see with your eyes

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No, that's a myth created by the religious Right.
Most studies show NO sperm in pre-cum, unless you recently ejaculated and haven't urinated yet.

The only study that showed any sperm at all, counted them in the single digits(normal volume is 30 million per ML). You should be vastly more worried about AIDS than an accidental pregnancy from 5 lone sperm.

It's sort of like themyth that condoms are more effective than withdrawal- they aren't. %82 vs %81 effectiveness. It's actually more reliable than spermicide.
Another myth promoted by the religious Right. There are numerous detailed studies on this, and women who carry unwanted pregnancies to term suffer more psychological issues than women who have abortions.
ALL studies from professional organizations are in agreement on this matter. The only "alternative" views you can find, come from religious funded "studies" which are about as accurate as Creationism.

The false equivalence often used is some story about a woman who wanted a baby that she miscarried. That's a whole other thing. Aborting unwanted pregnancies is actually a measure that makes a woman more psychologically sound in the aggregate than carrying the unwanted pregnancy to term.

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Talk to her and convince her. First make sure she is actually pregnant = pregnancy test. If positive, tell her the reasons you 2 aren't ready to be parents.

Wait now i am confused.. I have always been told that they CAN get pregnant from pre sperm or whatever you wanna call it, and thought that since i had good sperm quality, that was how she got pregnant, but if it cant be done that way, then no way am i the father?

anyway, she have slept with 3 guys as far as i am concerned, and i trust her on this, we have always been really honest to one and other. She told me that she had gotten a test since last time she slept with her boyfriend, which means she was clean, so i trust her on this. Cant remember why she got tested, but she did for some reason..

I guess my biggest concern would be that she made the whole thing up, i mean i have seen actual evidence that she is pregnant, and she has told me she want to get the abortion without her parents finding out, but that is most likely so they wont freak.
It could be an option that this is some way to get me back, but that just seems so fucked up, even though she is a girl and all..

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A very small percentage of men in fact DO leak sperm into the pre-ejaculate. It's a very rare condition, though.

If you're certain you never came inside, you're unlikely to be the father. Nothing is impossible. Were I you, I'd still encourage her to get the abortion.

But I don't know Danish culture well. The angle I'd take with an American girl is different. You guys have a pretty strong social support structure and I don't think the kid and your girl are almost doomed to abject poverty if she has it and keeps it.

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RSDTyler

Well she would get support from the state, and also i would have to pay child support, however it would be very hard for both of us to get the education we want, since the baby probably would take to much time...

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