So I met this college girl who majors in communications and drama arts in my city and im not sure where to go with the text message conversation





Me:Hey __, this is ___ from the pizza place you seem cool but I don't know if I'm down for role playing I'm not a actor like yourself((joking))

Me:So you didn't tell me what your favorite play or movie is??

Her:Hello lol. I have a few favorites How are u?

Me:I have awful head ache from Bastille day event last night Too much champagne

Her:Sounds like you had a good time

Me:So do you dance too?

Her Yes I do lol

me:Is there a theme song that goes with you when you walk down the street?

Her:Ummm lol I have a lot of those

Me:You're so theatrical

Her:Lol can't help it

Hey man, put in a bit of effort to at least type A: or B: so we know what to read. I got confused after the 5th lines and didnt know who was who lol...

yeah my bad... I figured I would "Disqualify" her.... I've struggled in the past with texting

Pull the trigger before tomorrow dude. Trust me, women don't like a guy who's afraid to pull the trigger. They lose interest fast and start wondering what it is you want from them. If she gave you her number and replied assume she was into you. The only reason for giving a stranger her number was because she wanted to see you again.

"Hey, what are you up to tomorrow? Up for doing X?/ I know this great place if you're up for it."

Worst case scenario she says she has a boyfriend or she's not comfortable with it in which case you act cool with it. Likely scenario is she either reschedules or agrees to meet you. Do it.

I was thinking of saying one of the following:

so what do you have to offer?...in this life

besides drama arts do you have anything to offer me?

I don't know I might be too mature for you

you can buy me a drink but you have to treat me well..

hey I'm finishing some work what you up to?

Most of those you just break character. You went from a guy saying she was cool to being a dick saying "You have to work for it" without having built up rapport. Breaking out the big guns and implying she has to work for it should be saved for flirting. If you ever need to tell a girl you're too mature for her you say it in reply to her shit test.

Just keep it simple and ask what she's doing tomorrow and ask her out.

And dude the whole "So... what do you offer? In this life" sounds like you're going to kill her if she doesn't give you a viable reply. Don't be so serious.

no I meant it differently^ so what do you have to offer?...in this life like first she'd probabally thinks I'm talking sex than I'm clearly talking about what's cool about her.... The line has worked well with hot girls with high egos in their late/mid 20's but usually I phrase it like this So what do have to offer??.... what's cool about you?



however as there's room to misinterpret the line it might not be so good... I'm also in a city where people are over serious about everything lol

Be the exception and just keep it real. Invite her out. Be upfront with your intentions with her. You got her number because you want to fuck her or at least see where it can go.

Your intention is to spend time with her and eventually fuck her. Stop beating around the bush and just ask her out. You'll save a lot of time and you won't ruin your chances. You're very limited in texts so just keep it for meeting up.

you tell girls your intention of meeting them is to fuck them?... how does that work out?

No... you be clever about it. You tell them a very shallow base of your intention such as meeting up and getting to know them. Your ultimate goal may be to fuck them but you don't tell them that.

yeah I was being sarcastic LoL^ I figured that you don't put it quite in those terms.

so when texting you do not "disqualify" use the "push-or-pull" techniques or do any reverse phychology?. Nor do you try to establish a rapport, you just strait up ask the chick out?. you don't flirt with the girl before the date?... I guess I'm just looking for strategies when it comes to texting man. I do fine when it comes to getting numbers but building attraction and texting to get the girl out is another story. For example, I can pick up gorgeous women on the street but it never goes anywhere afterwards.

If you have any suggestions, or helpful links or book recommendations I would appreciate it thanks


This is how the dialogue has progressed.... I just figured I'm really not using any attraction elements or "egging her on"... And she isn't really responding with detailed texts so it doesn't give a good indication to ask her out
me: What's your schedule like maybe you can join me for a drink
her: I'm not 21
me:that doesn't matter...
me: I mean I promise not to make a citizens arrest.

her: Lol. funny. well I work during the week and hang out with friends on the weekends. thats my schedule.

Found out you dont joke around through text if she doesn't know you are a joking type of guy.

I'm not seeing any interest and she seems to be hinting she's "busy all the time and can't date"(which is almost universally bullshit unless she owns a business or works in IB).

I don't see a lot of promise here. It never hurts to ask a girl out and then again in a week or two, as girls are fickle and shit changes on a dime. So go for it. But stop wasting time texting her. She'll either say yes or no. More texts aren't likely to help.

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GOOD JOB in heeding the advice from the posts from the guys above and just going for it rather than beating around the bush or making her qualify. She's probably down to meet; the only way to find out is to invite her out.

Agree w Games and Versalis. I'm the master at fucking everything up by waiting too long. Not only do chicks lose interest but texting long convos gets lame and boring after a while. I agree as well to not wait so long and if she's on somemshit then fuck it. Don't waste time and you could also leave it open ended. Like I'm a busy guy as well but would still love to meet for a drink. Let me know when you're free. That's what I did to this last chick who was playing games. She never texted back but oh well. At least now she knows your intentions and you don't have to wait...