Been freinds with this girl since summer. Dating her for a month now. Problem is things are awkward between us because we were freinds for a while. Attraction is definitely there for both of us though or she wouldn't have stuck with me for this long.

When we are alone it's really awkward. I can never keep a conversation going or think of anything interesting to say. Then I get self concious and freeze up.

I know I need to build up some physical chemistry with her and get used to being alone with her if this is going to work out. Any advice on how I can make things less awkward ?

i know movies arent always the best for being alone,but defently pick up a funny movie..or let her pick one of her fav movies and watch it.Use the film to fill in the awkwardness and use parts from the movie to spark up a convo





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Actually, the way i look at movies. Movies in theaters... not so great. Movies at home, intimate.

In theaters you can't talk. Alone and watching a movie, hot.

sounds like a good idea but she is not going to want to go see a movie with just me because of how awkward it has been between us. would it mess things up if she brought a freind ?

I wouldn't equate staying together means attraction and vice versa.
This means that you're awkward. You need to make her feel relaxed and loosen her up.
Creating physical attraction is not matter of how often or how long you spend with the person. It's about how fast you can ignite the chemistry.
Think about activities where you can be physical with her. Take dance lessens together for example. But, IMO, I think the more you spend time with a chick with no sex, it'll be harder for you to score.

Well you need to work on getting comfort with this girl,or it wont work out.If your bringing a friend then you cant make it seem like a date or she will think your lame for having a friend with you.But having a friend can help you build some of this confidence with her.Try it if nothing else is working




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Well she has said herself that she wants to f*ck me, so if that's not attraction than I don't know what is.

My problem is getting to that point. I'm not going to come out of nowhere and say "lets have sex". I wish it was that easy. I need help on getting a good conversation going with her and kissing her more. She's not the most interesting person to talk to so it's kind of hard.

Look up kino escalation. Not awkward building up, and should get you there.

My problem is getting to that point. I'm not going to come out of nowhere and say "lets have sex". I wish it was that easy. I need help on getting a good conversation going with her and kissing her more. She's not the most interesting person to talk to so it's kind of hard.[/quote]

Maybe you need to come out and say that..catch her off guard..but do it in a sly c and f voice so not to scare her.





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I haven't looked into kino but I know it deals with touching to build attraction. Last night I sat with her, put my arm around her, and play fought with her a little and I noticed it helped a little.

What are some other keno techniques I can try ?

There was a good post about it not too long ago. Real try and find link real quick.

EDIT: the-dicarlo-escalation-ladder-vt16552.html

There's one among others.

You did not mention that in the original post. That's entirely different story. The question that I want to know is, why didn't you do the deed when she said that? Were there any issues involved?

Kino is key bro... When you start getting touchy feely with her you wont have to say "Lets have sex" she will already know its heading in that direction.

I always thought the same- that movies were shitty for first date ideas? but i actually got put into the situation and we ended up seeing a corny movie and made fun of it the whole time and talked about stuff that happened and relating it to personal experiences. it actually worked out great. might as well give it a try

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Something i found works pretty well is saying, "Lets have sex" but in a C&F way, if she laughs, laugh too, if she takes it as a hunt, then go wiht it.

If she laughs, heres what I would do, id laugh too, and she is your girlfriend, so spontaneously kissing her isn't weird. Kiss her and keel up her back. That should get her to feel up yours and then hopefully your instinct could take it from there.