So I'm visiting with a young woman who I had a crush on years ago in school, since I'm visiting Palo Alto on business. Maybe consciously, maybe not, I kept my distance over the years (working in another state, other girlfriends, etc.) while she works near our school.

Funny thing is, I'm not sure if I'm out of the Friendzone yet, which I mistakenly put myself years ago. I don't talk with her much, she has pursued me more over the years as I've kept my distance and she called me to hang out when she found out I would be back in town. As a matter of fact, she just called again 5 minutes ago to make sure we were still meeting.

How should I go about this? I still find her pretty attractive, we're both single and we are meeting for happy hour.

It's your choice.

Show, and exhibit sexual interest.

Think of all the dirty, dirty things you want to do to her in bed, while your hanging out for drinks.

ESCALATE, kino, bed her!

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

Let her know that you've always had a crush on her and see how she reacts to the situation. You might actually find it surprising to find out that she might have had a small crush of her own for you. Play your game, escalate, and smash. Win/win.

One problem that I've always hid is with escalation. Hence, ending up in the Friendzone in the first place

Perfect time to man up and give it a run.

No worries she won't be offended, or bite!

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

Please don't do this. Just build your kino level high with her, get a few drinks down both of your necks, have a really good laugh, if any sexual topics arise or you can raise them without being a weirdo then stay on topic for a while giving her the look that you want to do her. Touch her and keep pushing your boundaries.

Don't tell her you like her. This weirds chicks out unless she's hopelessly devoted to you, she'll know you like her if you act like you like her.

^ Agreed. It introduces a possible problem, with no real upside.

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RSDTyler

Avoided it. I kept it playful, funny, flirty, built a great rapport on the ridiculousness of Tinder at a romantic spot at her suggestion after starting at a local watering hole, kiss-closed, going out again in a few days. I had a feeling she was into me too, so as others pointed out, just left it unsaid. Still gotta get better at escalation.

http://www.vindicarlo.com/DiCarlo%20Esc ... lo.com.pdf

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They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

What happened years ago will stay years ago. Are you still the same person you were a few years ago? Absolutely not. So how is it that you can have the same interaction with someone who isn't who they were years ago, when you aren't who you were years ago?

A woman is always looking for us to lead. If she put you in the friend zone that means you left her no other choice. Women want to fall in love, they want to have sex, and they won't companions. They don't want to have to friend zone guys; its an uncomfortable feeling. Men get friend zoned when they don't come across sexual enough; when they treat the woman in front of them like she's some fragile innocent creature.

You have to WANT to sleep with her. If thats not something thats on your mind a little bit when your interacting with her, how can she be sexually attracted to you? And if she can't be sexually attracted to you, how can you guys have a sexual relationship?

Sex isn't everything for sure; but if its no where on your mind at anytime when you're interacting with the girl you like , then she will not feel sexual attraction for you.

If you want to work on fixing this just beginning thinking it into existence. Start telling yourself with the though of her in mind " I want to have sex with her" over and over again.

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