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Start meeting strangers, join hobbies where you can meet people.
Treat yourself to a nice sexy hooker perhaps too
If you have no friends or social skills, I really don't get why doing online game would take priority over getting social skills.
Btw, I probably should have also mentioned this to you guys earlier, but to clear things up, it's not that I have poor social skills, it's just that it's been hard for me to find people to be friends ever since I got out of college. I mean, I'll admit that from grades 2nd through 9th I had trouble fitting in and getting along with others due to being at the time not only a hyperactive and very annoying kid to my peers, but also my parents and most teachers had a difficult time with dealing me. Though, during grades 6th through 9th some girls thought I was cute and started flirting with me. However, by the time I entered 10th grade I started to change gradually to being towards the opposite. Overtime, I gradually became a lot more deliberate and in control of myself, much more shy, and significantly more polite towards my peers, teachers, parents, etc. Plus, 10th through 12th the grade were the years when I became increasingly serious about my schoolwork, extracurriculars, sports, fitness, nutrition, getting into college, what have you. Overall, even though I obviously became much more introverted overtime, still by the end of my senior year of high school of my social skills and likability had increased up to over 200% amongst everyone around me compared to me from 9th grade and before. Plus, during my junior and senior years a lot more girls had started flirted with me (even some of hot and popular girls in my grade) and would tell me how cute or sexy I was or that they have had a crush on me, all despite turning out to be the shy and introverted type with very few friends that I knew well. Not to mention, that I ended being chosen as homecoming prince during my senior year. Nevertheless, I didn't go out with any of the girls who made a pass at me, because it was either that they already had a boyfriend or I didn't know how to handle it during a given encounter or because I wasn't physically attracted to them.
When, I was in college, I continued to improve my social skills and even started working more on my social confidence with others. Yet, during my college years, much less girls had initiated flirting with me compared to my high school years. I am not sure why. Nevertheless, there were few times when a girl would make sexual and/or romantic advances to me. One encounter happened with a kind of cute girl I met during a New Year's party I went to when I was 19. She went to a college in Florida and we got to know each other for about a couple of hours, and by the end of the party she end up kissing me on the lips before I did. Even about a half hour before that that we could "hook up" if I wanted. Though, I said no, because back then I was much shier, less experienced, and less knowledgeable when it came to girls compared to now. The day after the party she contacted me on facebook, wondering how I was doing, but I figured since she is going to go back to her college in Florida and I have very little skill with women, I decided to not contact her back. Looking back at it now, I regret not hooking up with her even like a few days after the party. Another two situations happened during my junior year, there were two girls in on my dorm floor who flirted with me. One was actually kind of a cute girl, who would stop by my dorm almost every other day for the first few weeks of the year, after she first noticed me on the first day. She would talked to me a lot, touch me sometimes, ask me if she was bothering me, and even invited me to hangout with her and her roommates. However, because again I was still very shy, inexperienced, and lack much knowledge when it came to girls compared to now and so like the girl I met at the New year's party, I didn't know what to do with a situation like this; therefore, I became overwhelmed by her. About a week Later, another girl who also noticed me on the first week of the same year, came by my dorm room too and right away asked me to hang out with her. Eventually, we ended becoming friends with each other until a few months later she ended up asking me to be her boyfriend, despite the fact that there was nothing going one between us at all (which for the record shocked me). I ended up rejecting her by making an excuse in saying that I think that it was too fast, when really I wasn't attracted to her and I just wanted to be friends. So, after she was saddened by this, we tried still being friends with each other for a few month later. Though, she turned out to be too needy due to unfortunately having had some sad psychological ordeals during both her childhood and adolescent life, and it ended up being too much of a strain between the both of us and so we stopped hanging out with each other again. During the end of junior year, I started to become envious of most other students who already have had a boyfriend or girlfriend, or had a real hook up of some sort. So, I start to ask out some girls on my floor, and I only got one girl to go out with me on a first day. Even, I couldn't get a second date with her. Then, during my senior year of college I went to a couple of college parties that I was invited to, and at each of these parties, I would try hitting on a total of a dozen of girls, which I ended up failing with all of them. There was even this one cute girl at one of those two parties, where I think I missed having an opportunity with, and though she was drunk she still ended up bumping and grinding on me for several minutes. So, by the middle of my senior year of college, I ended up feeling like a failure with girls, and that's when I started to research as much as I could online with dating, sex, romance, etc. However, even after looking up all this stuff, I would either be too hesitant to try out a certain method or I would try it and it wouldn't work. Since then, that's what it has continued to be like for the past five years. Although, I supposed that all the research and reading up on dating, sex, love, relationships, etc. has at least to a degree helped me both with my overall social skills and being much more aware about these things.
Sorry for spilling my "life story," but my purpose here was to clarify as much as I could on my social and dating history.
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