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thank you all for your comments.
i already do go out to bars and clubs at weekends and i always end up talking to someone i know or somebody new. i usually go out on my own at least once a week and i prefer sunday nights when you can hear your own voice and most people are not drunk.
i am better for knowing. do you think once a week is enough exposure in the social circles??
Be the guy who makes things happen wherever he is. You're walking your dog, you're at the grocery store, mall, library, class, gym, wherever it doesn't matter (well it does demographic-wise if you want a particular 'type' of girl) - OPEN OPEN OPEN, at least make eye contact, smile etc.. ample opportunities to practice but more importantly to make things happen.
It's like a muscle, being social that is - the more you practice the easier it becomes, the less you use it the more it'll atrophy. SO use it as much as you can, engage in all the microbehaviors you'd normally avoid to help build momentum.
As per places you hangout and the frequency...figure out what type of women you're looking for and hang out in those places where there's a higher probability of running into them.
As for the guy dissing the OP for his appearance, that sounds more like a projection than anything else. Very easy for a guy to go from dud to handsome by a bit of working out (can work wonders), and looking at perusing fashion sites online to find a fashion that fits the person you are/want to become (which is congruent with who you are).
Only person limiting YOU is YOU. Keep that in mind. Are you a creator of opportunities or the guy who's going to be forever trapped in his like a prison always wondering "what if" as he lives on the sidelines of life? Figure out which one you want to be and then strategize how you're going to make it happen - the more concrete and detailed the strategy the better, but experience trumps all.