hello everyone,

here is my profile http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=49490174

i have sent out over 500 messages (usually something about what they have written on their profile. nothing sexual) on pof but not received any replies!! i dont know what they have in their heads but it feels really soul destroying.

whats the matter with all these women on pof?? is there any better dating sites out there?

been single for over 4 years now. think i am becoming a depressant.

There is room for improvement in this profile but nothing here is so bad you should not get 1 reply from 500 emails. I'd use a different website for starters. POF is by far the worst dating site in my opinion. Also, are you only emailing really girls who look like porn stars in their pictures?

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That story seems a little cheesy man!

Hey mate this is my personal experience and opinion with online game. I personally suggest you delete your pof account I tried it had really good results so much so that I found myself getting too busy with it. And thinking oh ya I'm doing well with women to the point I didn't feel motivated to go out it negatively affected my personal game I found. My suggestion is if you're gonna do the online thing I think okc is a better bet than pof, but if you're looking for a gf I'd say or something that's gonna last I would suggest a paid site.

As far as building a profile what I did is really pushed all the exciting bad boy if you will elements of my life as well showed I do have a strong intellectual side. Also if you read different profiles 90% of girls main complaint is that all guys on pof are the same. I would suggest you look through guys profiles see what they're doing and how you can set yourself apart from them.

That's what I did and it worked for me hope that helps good luck.

you dont have one picture of you smiling, every picture has you in the same pose except for the running one. get rid of one of the selfies, or atleast add another photo where it doesn't look like your taking a selfie.

thank you all for your comments.

i am not messaging any girls who look like porn stars. just the girls who are local to my area.

just set up a profile on OKC and will see how that goes. i do not have any pictures of me smiling because i do not smile very often anyway.

has anyone had any dating success on facebook??

Think everybody is holding their tongue here...So i'm just gonna say it like it is..

With online dating, looks are a massive part of a response rate. Your current pics do not flatter you and shows your flaws..

(Sorry to sound like a dick, but actually trying to help here..)

Ever noticed why girls take like a billion pics at once? They are all pretty much the same but there is always one pic out of a 100 that just looks way better than the others, the differences to you are micro, but with online dating, it's a bit more cut throat and your 1st impression has to be a good one, otherwise they just skip your profile.

I would suggest to be more creative with your pics, the pic of you running is ok but perhaps get more people in there too so it looks like you're not running alone. Don't be afraid to put pics in there that don't really show much of you. For example, I have a pic of myself sky diving or playing paintball so therefore my face is covered (i don't take a good pic either)

Your other pics are very serious and you got bit of a creepy serial killer smile about you. It's really bad, change that shit. Look your best and take some pics of yourself with your best friends having fun or something..

Your profile is okay, but not the greatest (could be a lot better) but I think the pics explain the lack of results. You should message some girls and ask why girls don't seem to reply to you and to give their honest opinion. I'm sure they will help you out and perhaps suggest the same thing.

I think my suggestions should give you some replies finally. It's either this or you're local search is on the moon.

Just so you know, I'm not good looking either, but I dress very well, my pics are of me doing cool activities, some are vague, I do very well with online dating and i'm no Brad Pitt.

Also,

Please post up your 1st messages. Word for word. Girls can smell a copy and paste all too easy these days. Messages have a dramatic effect on your response rate

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ok thank you. your comments have been noted.

are you saying i am not a good looking guy?

Yes.

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Those last couple of posts are uncomfortable - but completely what the OP needs to hear. Nice Pebble.

@OP: I can't really comment on your looks. Never been good at judging a guy's appearance, but I can tell you he's right. Get a good sense of style and a lot of DHV and you're in business. If you're not good looking, you need to at least think you are.

None of this is intended to be mean. It's intended to help you with your problem and get you laid...

As for the pics:

1. Nothing shirtless (nobody cares)
2. Nothing with 10 girls hanging off your arms. Or an ex... you're on a dating site... nobody wants to see your ex.
3. DO use pets (puppies are fucking amazing for online dating pics). Koalas are good too. Snakes are bad.
4. Look happy, always smile unless it's a purposely sarcastic looking picture or some shit
5. As Pebble noted - there needs to be more people in the pics. You need to be doing something. Having fun, looking like you're a great person. Pointing at a painting and running through a puddle.... these don't work.
6. Only one selfie... Maybe it's subconscious but if all your pics (or in your case, most) were taken by yourself, it doesn't make you look very personable...

Good luck

While a lot of this is good advice, not getting 1 response out of 500 emails to 500 people is either a crazy fluke or most likely a function of very bad selection of who you are messaging + a fluke + POF being a crappy site.

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Good luck!

fUCK POF, easier to game girls offline, besides you can see what they actually look like, feel if there's any vibe right away without any buildup, reduce chance of projecting qualiies on her that don't even exist, and learn to handle your AA.

I just created my first Facebook account about two weeks ago. I used old crappy selfie pictures where I looked good and some DHV pics (a Taekwondo headshot and some pictures of my pretty daughter). I also did some sexual and playful posts.

2 dates so far courtesy of Facebook. One f-close.

Here are my observations on your profile:

1. Your story is too long. It's not even funny.

2. Your background is cluttered. You have to show that you're organized and in control. In short, you'll have to show that you're a take charge, organized guy.

3. A High school education is not a DHV and the word intellectual is not congruent with the word phrase "high school". Take those words off.

4. Fix your grooming.

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