Nothing crazy, sadly. I'm not at the level to meet a random girl at the store and fuck her right there.

What did happen was this - saw a girl at the store, she looked like a Tinder match I've been chatting up and who seems relatively down to meet, and it's in her town (the next town over, but the big grocery store is there).

She looked like she recognized me (she didn't), and also I got a vibe that she wanted me to approach her.

I ask her where the already cooked chicken is.

She points me towards somewhere, and I go look at the chicken.

As I am, she walks by again. I flirt with her a bit more, tease her, get her name.

She walks away down the aisle. I select my chicken after a few more minutes, walk down the aisle where she is ahead of me. I ask her where more things are, tease her that she knows where everything is.

I start chatting, getting information about her. I ask her if she does karaoke, invite her to karaoke, get her number.

She walks away again.

I run into her AGAIN in another part of the store, and I give her an exasperated, "AGAIN?!" look and gesture.

At this point she seems to have been having fun.

I get in line to buy my groceries. It's a really long line and it takes me 20 minutes. As I am about to scan my stuff (quite a bit of it), she shows up behind me.

I tell her if she bags my groceries, I'll bag hers.

She does so.

I start to bag hers, and she tells me I don't have to.

I decide to - not sure if I should be an ass and just walk away or not.

She tells me, "You really don't have to do this, you already waited here for 20 minutes!"

I did it, and at the end she tells me, "Just leave the bags there!"

It was really odd, and a different vibe than the previous parts of the encounter.

What should I have done in this scenario? Was bagging her groceries a mistake? I have a general rule of, "err on the side of being an asshole", but that didn't seem especially applicable in this scenario.

The asshole stuff is for retards who have been sold a lie about pickup.

So long as you didn't do it out of neediness there's absolutely nothing wrong with helping someone out. Why didn't you get her number though? That's what I don't get.

This asshole stuff, no girl wants an asshole...the "bad boy" guy isn't a kiss ass, and he's usually a bit on the unpredictable side so it attracts women initially. Nobody wants to hangout with somebody that treats them like dirt, UNLESS they have such low self-esteem that's all that they feel they're good for - such freaks don't know how to accept somebody who treats them with dignity and respect so they usually feel the need to stir up drama and cause the relationship to implode. If a girl accepts you being an asshole she's a freak, and if you're a healthy person you shouldn't want to be close to such a woman.

I did get her number, and made a tentative date for Thursday, doing karaoke, as written in the narrative.

By "asshole", I meant not helping a girl out initially or offering to do so, at least at first.

She texted me back, so my assumption is that she actually just felt bad I had waited there for 20 minutes.

Assume attraction, always. See every lead through to its conclusion.

Well yes, assume the attraction of the girl at all points when you're interacting with her, but this is meant as more of a general inquiry than a specific incident I suppose, and I guess I should have framed it as such:

When is it an appropriate time to do a woman favors, and when is it not? I err on doing them none at first, or very few currently. Even when it came to bagging groceries, before I did it for her, I asked that she do it for me first (which was a smart plan - it got her invested and showed I was comfortable enough with treating her just like anyone else).

You should have requested her to bag your groceries, in a joking manner, them left after your transaction. She saw enough of you already but seems like it was a fun interaction and she replies so go get it bud.

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Was this at Costco?

Did your mom tell you she was approached?

lmfao ^^^ this fucking guy

I think it depends how you frame it. If you do it because you're a gentleman who WANTS to do it then it's not bad. If you look like you're just doing it because she asked you to/so she likes you, you're not gonna look strong doing it. Maybe you could have said something like 'No, we had a deal.' (in a strong way), rather than start self-doubting and being all unsure of yourself

You've got a tentative date so couldn't have been terrible