Anyone know some good cures for "nice guy" syndrome?



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PostPosted: Tue Jul 08, 2014 6:53 pm 
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I think I've deeply internalized the idea that you just don't show intent / attraction to a woman you just meet on the street or in public. You have to be "friendly" with her and "nice" and "respectful."

I think this is a big sticking point for me. For a noob at least, I'm reasonably good at doing the very initial opening in a set. Once it gets beyond the very initial opening, I literally go blank. Minutes after I leave the room I think very lucidly of nice additional ways I could have gone (saying she's cute, whatever) but when I'm in it, my mind freezes up.

Suggestions? Just keep looking for these situations and plow through them?


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PostPosted: Wed Jul 09, 2014 12:01 am 
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Hey man, I think that you need to sarge some more. I used to have the same problem, but I got rid of it through lots of practice in the field. Remember, pickup is a skill. You will eventually learn to relax and not worry too much about the interaction.

Here are some tips for your street game:

1. Say something really intriguing in the opener. I personally prefer opinion openers, and direct openers.

2. Don't worry too much about offending her. Unfortunately, you will make mistakes when learning. Embrace the mistakes and learn from them.

3. Be really fun and interesting. Keep the conversation going. Enjoy the interaction. Make it fun for both you and her.

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PostPosted: Wed Jul 09, 2014 1:08 am 
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I think I've deeply internalized the idea that you just don't show intent / attraction to a woman you just meet on the street or in public. You have to be "friendly" with her and "nice" and "respectful."

I think this is a big sticking point for me. For a noob at least, I'm reasonably good at doing the very initial opening in a set. Once it gets beyond the very initial opening, I literally go blank. Minutes after I leave the room I think very lucidly of nice additional ways I could have gone (saying she's cute, whatever) but when I'm in it, my mind freezes up.

Suggestions? Just keep looking for these situations and plow through them?

1. Lose the 4th grade mentality of "I don't know if she likes me so I'm not gonna tell her I like her."

2. Stop looking for approval from everyone. This is something that "nice guys" do. It's different being a good person... But when you're nice to people because you want them to like you... It's creepy.

3. This kinda ties into the previous part... But stop being so nice to people. It's much better to be remembered as some crazy, off the wall guy vs "Oh, he was nice..."

4. Take the filter off your brain that connects to your mouth. Say WHATEVER comes to your mind. Be genuine. When you put up this "nice guy" front... it comes off as super fake. Girls like a guy who's REAL.


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PostPosted: Wed Jul 09, 2014 2:28 pm 
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Haha. You probably should check out the core concept on getting girls by my good friend -Diophantus grey, which he wrote it in his book - Sex Beast The Awaken.

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Learn to say NO and only say 'Yes' when a girl has earned it. When a girl has not done anything to earn your attention, approval or good graces, ALWAYS say NO.

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Use your "niceness" to be super confident, touchy/feely and escalate like a Spanish/Frenchman would.


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