I was put in an awkward position today. I am not sure if it's awkward for other people but for me it definitely was.

I will describe the setting. There is a salon where they are holding a party. There are multiple round tables in the salon where people are sitting. I am sitting at one of the tables and in the chair immediately to my left there is this confident guy that I know.

the two chairs to my right are empty. on the third chair to my right, a hot girl is sitting.

the confident guy on my left makes eye contact with the girl and says "have you met my buddy? his name is x"
I am not sure what the girl said because the music was very loud, but I guess she said "no"
Then she looked at me and I just didn't know what to do. I dont remember what I did because it felt very awkward, but I think I just looked at her and then looked away.

then the confident guy says "I am trying to introduce you, what's wrong with you?"

what was I supposed to do when the guy said "have you met my buddy?"

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Dude.... that literally was your opening to talk to her and get to know her! He started it out for you and it's your job to get to know her and see where it goes from there

How can you blow that bro?!?

I thought she might think something like "what a pussy, he is having his friend introduce him" or "he has no balls, he cant come up and introduce himself?"

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Hey mate your thoughts are simply an inner game issue. When I'm out with my buddies and having an off night he will introduce me to a girl as a way of forcing me to talk to her and pick up my game. I've thought the same way as you before in that situation, but think of it like this no offense take what I'm saying as constructive criticism I'm not here to put anyone down, but with how you acted when your buddy introduced you there is a good chance that is what she thought. Now think your buddy introduces you maybe she is thinking that, but you have a really in depth convo she's intrigued you spark emotions in her. Any thought of you being a pussy for having someone open for you are non exisitant.

Hope that helps good luck mate!!

I appreciate it, and no, you didn't put me down.

but i still dont know what to do when someone introduces me. What am I supposed to do at that instant when the guy says "have you met my buddy" and the girl looks at me? I look her in the eye and then what do I say?

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Friend: have you met my friend Gun?

Girl: no I haven't.

Me: shake her hand hi I'm Gun.

Her: hi I'm Sara.

Me: (all the while holding eye contact) nice to meet you Sara. Wouls I be right in guessing you're a hairstylist?

Her: hahaha yes you would be correct.

Me: haha damn I'm good. Where did you go to school to become a hairstylist?

Her: such and such place it was a 2 year course I enjoyed it, but I'm glad its done now.

Me: oh no way that's where my cousin went. Would you by chance know so and so?

By the time you've made it to that point the comfort is built you're byilding decent rapport and the convo is flowing you won't have to think about it anymore.

That's my approach it works for me. I'd also suggest you read Eddie Fews article how to have awesome conversations with women.

Hope that helps good luck!!

Ok, here is what you need to do:
- relax and don't overanalyse the situation: if you'll start wondering what she's thinking, usually happen two things: 1)whatever you are thinking, 90% of the times you are wrong; 2)you take too much time to think about it (you are a guy, you are not supposed to think like a girl and so trying to do it will take you a certain amount of time) and the situation becomes weird.
-make eye contact
-Say "hi" and introduce yourself
-if it's a guy who introduces you you can shake her hand
-if it's a girl who introduces you you can go for a hug
-continue the conversation by starting to get to know eachother.

This isn't hard to do and once you figure this out everything will flow automatically.
I suggest you to work on your inner game.

Hope I helped you

yes, you helped. thanks a lot.

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Then you should have opened her first. You did pussy out. All the time here, man. Like a dear in the headlights, I know. It gets easier. Next time open her non-verbally when you first see her with a smile and a wave. You don't have to talk to her just then, but do SOMETHING and it makes it easier.

I appreciate it, and no, you didn't put me down.

but i still dont know what to do when someone introduces me. What am I supposed to do at that instant when the guy says "have you met my buddy" and the girl looks at me? I look her in the eye and then what do I say?[/quote]


Just look her into eye and introduce yourself. go on small talk with her and involved your friend in. If your friend want to you to have a chance with that girl, he will leave.

Then flirt with her a bit and go on deep conversation with her.

Set up date.....

Might be you can watch Ryan Gosling in <Crazy Stupid Love> about body language & eye contact. A good movie to watch.

Hope this help,
Naughty Napoleon

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No offense, but I don't think these conversation examples are ever good advice. It's purely just an imaginative scenario that only works assuming she's answering the way you're imagining it. Look how different and boringit could go if she's not answering the way you thought or into the convo:

Me: (all the while holding eye contact) nice to meet you Sara. Wouls I be right in guessing you're a hairstylist?
Her: yup.
Me: haha damn I'm good. Where did you go to school to become a hairstylist?
Her: *Says school name*
Me: oh no way that's where my cousin went. Would you by chance know so and so?
Her: No.

It ends up with you just forcing convo with someone who isn't interested.
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I say this because you're asking for help on things to say, so it seems you may not be experienced yet conversationally, so if you try learning what to say by imagining a script like this (especially in the early stages of learning) you'll get completely thrown off if she doesn't answer the way you imagine the script/conversation going in your head, so it's better to just understand guidelines on what to do.

That being said, I suggest you keep it simple in these scenarios. It was an easy open because someone opened for you. Introduce yourself, act friendly, confident, make a comment about the surroundings (when you're at an actual event its always an easy thing to talk about and have a discussion on). Ask some questions about her, then play off those questions by commenting and digging deeper to find out more.

At the same time, be realistic and aware of what's happening. There's a simple fact that in a scenario like this when a girl didn't necessarily show any interest and someone opened her for someone else, that she will have no interest in this 'someone else.' She may be totally uninterested in what you have to say, and no want to partake in the conversation after you try, in which case no big deal, move on.

Hope this helps you out a bit.

You should say, "Hi, I'm bartm, nice to meet you!"

and later on thank the guy for hooking you up!

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When you open you lose a little social value. When your friend opens and he introduces you, you are at a Higher Value because you do not need to approach women to meet women.

Just run game like normal.

I would also teach your friends to run accomplishment intro's. A lot of my friends to it naturally without provoking because they see me do it for them and I am a cool guy and they like me. Tell your friends to do it for you and you do it for them, it gives social proof and attraction. At that point, Game is easy.

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