Hey guys here's what's up. Met this girl was into her unfortunately like most girls she couldn't tell the difference between neediness and interest I was maybe too peristant and she mistook that for neediness I really don't know. She would always have an excuse of how busy she is what not and that she has a lot of personal issues. I understand that, but after a while I didn't buy it anymore and got annoyed with her because at the end of the day really how long does it take to reply to a text or answer the phone? So she hadn't replied all week then she replies telling me what's going on I reply the next day, but my texting wasn't working and I didn't know for sure if it would go through or not so I said I'd call her later I did she was on the phone right to voicemail. I call back 5 min later no answer.

At this point I'm like fuck this ya it sucked I liked her, but can't win em all I moved on.

Fast forward roughly 2 months to now I get a text from her apologizing for not getting back to me same thing busy making life changes and what not which I know is true, but I don't buy that being the reason for her not talking to me anymore. I personally think she thought I was needy and when I moved on she was like fuck maybe I was wrong about him shit he was just interested in me after all and I lost him.

Here are my thoughts now.
1) I deserve better that's why I moved on now I have more and better.
2)You had your chance I don't know if I like you anymore.
3) You don't deserve me especially after you just cut me off.

On the other hand however I did like her we did click well I'm just trying to decide whether I like her enough to talk to her again.

Kinda stuck on where to go from here I'm pretty happy with the girls I have now. After what she did just cutting me off like that I don't know if I want her back. Part of me does part of me says fuck it you have a good thing going now look out the windshield not the rearview.

As always any advice is appreciated thanks!!

Most Women are usually seeing other guys and she just put you on the back burner.

Don't over think the situation!

Imo i think if you should just go out with her and have fun no expectations whats wrong with that? ( no expectations then no neediness make her want you) (If you guys click all the better)

If she starts acting like that again you already have girls and you can put her on the back burner! (Just count it as something you can learn from and make progress with other women.)

Hey what's wrong with another girl if it works?

Don't you have two other threads of your needy stuff bro?

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The fact that you're mulling over it now means you want to go talk to her again so go talk to her. Also, thinking about it in terms of what she deserves is just plain stuck up.

Yep I do. The thing is for whatever reason this girl didn't trigger my anxiety so I can say I always cool headed around her ans who knows it could be any number of reasons why she stopped talking to me.

You're right the way I worded that was rather stuck up, but one of my pet peeves is ppl that just stop replying because they lack emotional maturity to break up with someone properly. So with that being said and puttung more value on what I have to offer has caused me to come across a little stuck up. And ask does she deserve what I have to offer? Am I willing to give it to her?

The thing is I'm not overly interested in talking to her I just don't wanna not respond either I feel I'm better tha that even though that's what she did to me. If you know what I mean.

JustinJ you're right. I'm just kind of stuck because I feel like there was something there then someone else came along it didn't work so now you're back.as immature as it may sound I kinda feel like the table scrap analogy. Which maybe isn't right either, but it is how I feel.

I appreciate all the advice and I fully realize this is a bit of an immature sounding post, but I wanted to run it by y'all because my feelings are conflicted on the issue and I wanted to see what an outsider looking in would think. Thanks!

Who's to say where she's at now, or where she was at at the time she parted ways with you. Life's full of ups and downs, don't judge based on decisions she made that at the time she thought were best for her.

I'd sus it out, but you gotta let the past be the past.

Bro, you posted 4 times in a row on your own thread. I can smell your needs.

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I was simply replying to people that posted on the thread. I can see why you would view that as needy, but I can assure you I have no neediness towards this girl. I'm simply not sure how I want to proceed with her or if I even do want to proceed that's all. That's not to say I'm 100% past my anxiety/needy sticking point, but I'm getting there.

This.

Dude... sometimes people in life are just going through some shit and they don't want to talk to you. If I'm really busy, I don't answer my phone calls or respond to text messages (especially bullshit "I just want to talk to you" stuff) when I'm really busy or dealing with shit that happens in life.

As much as you'd like to think it, you're not the center of this girls universe. She shouldn't be the center of yours either.

Guys, you know how to be delusional about always assuming attraction...

be delusional in thinking it's never you...THAT SAID if multiple women call you out on the same shit, then its time for some self-reflection and possibly some change. Look sometimes women are juggling a lot internally/externally the last thing she needs is a guy being a total bitch in quipping "IS IT ME???", besides that sounds beta as f*ck anyway because if you truly were an alpha 1) you wouldn't act butt hurt all the time assume everything's about you, and 2) if it is about you and she's eventually direct about it then act humble, decide whether it's a behavior or value you need to compromise on (and if not tell her to kick rocks) and make the appropriate change for your own betterment, not the betterment of a single girl just to placate her.

Yo Majikal you're totally right I agree with you she's not the center of my universe and I wouldn't expect to be the center of hers. I'm the same way sometimes I just want to be left alone, but this is the situation we dated weren't exclusive and she told me she had personal things to deal with totally fine I totally understand, but I call her no answer so I leave a msg asking her if she wants to go out that weekend knowing the answer is probably gonna be I'm busy, but I put it out there in case she wants to get away. She doesn't return my call then a week later she texts me apologizing asking me about my day and what not. At this point my phone isn't working so I text her then I call her no answer and no reply for 2 months on my text what am I supposed to think? I can't sit around and wait for her and hope she comes back someday.

The thing is we were dating I thought we had a good thing going then she drops off the planet. I know I'm not entitled to any sort of explanation from her, but had she said something beforehand I might be a little more open towards seeing her again. I can understand her thinking maybe I should text him and we can try and rekindle things been there, but I'm just not as open to that based on how she left things. like I said I moved on. I know it sounds selfish on my part, but when she 1st told me she was having personal problems I talked to her about it to see if there was something I could do. I don't know I'm not completely opposed to seeing her again, but the attraction isn't there like it used to be you know what I'm saying?