I've been gaming a girl the past few weeks and we were going to go for a drink last Sunday but her friend came back into town having broken up with her boyfriend so she had to comfort her. I know this is absolutely true.

We were both at a festival this weekend and she sat on my lap and I was stroking the inside of her thigh whilst she reacted positively, stroking my shoulder. We didn't kiss as we were in front of lots of people. She also apologised about last week again and laughed when I forgot what she was talking about. The next day, I asked her to watch my friend with me whilst he had passed out, and she said no, and when I asked why she was such a bitch today she said "because I have standards". Then laughed ( I know she was joking). She was just a bit cold that day. I found out she got with my friend a few times at the festival, I met her through him, but he's a bit of a pansy (not very masculine) so I know he's no real competition. She was mostly attracted to me as 2 other girls fancied me, but now they no longer do I'm worried what she'll think once she finds out they're not anymore. I know I need to meet more girls to solve this.

I left the festival on the Saturday to go to a gig in London and texted her;

"I'm off to London. Tried to find you and **** to say bye, but didn't see you. Have a good night. We'll hit Brighton next week."

To this she hasn't replied, I know her phone will have been dead at the festival however she was home Sunday morning but didn't reply still.

I was planning on phoning her tomorrow and organising going to Brighton, then whilst there suggesting we stay over and hopefully F-closing.

Do you think I should not contact her at all now since Saturday? Or just phone and organise something definite?

We have this flirting thing where we basically take the piss out of eachother and I think we need to move into the comfort stage somehow to initiate sex (that sounds so robotic). How do I transition into this?

All help is much appreciated guys.