In some scenarios she asks 'shouldn't you also be thinking oh shit, H will be pissed'?

I'm not sure if it stems from a crazy high amount of self esteem, but it's in the way she speaks and does things. Let's call her H.

In some scenarios she asks 'shouldn't you also be thinking oh shit, H will be pissed'?

She asks me to scold my friends when they do things that offend her. Furthermore, she mandates that I belong to the same religion as her. I don't mind because my family belongs to that religion as well, but it annoys my inner man meter at the thought that she's controlling more than she should. I'm not sure why either..

I don't feel like moving on just yet. How does one deal with a girl who constantly pushes to exert dominance in a relationship?

In some scenarios she asks 'shouldn't you also be thinking oh shit, H will be pissed'?

She asks me to scold my friends when they do things that offend her.

Furthermore, she mandates that I belong to the same religion as her.

This I can see as controlling, but again, more details. If she is saying she can only be with a Christian/Muslim/Catholic man and you're saying I can change into that, that's not really her.

From what you've decribed, I dont really know if she is hyper dominant or if you just are trying to please her and butt hurt over it.

More like massive insecurity masquerading as high-self esteem.

Context? details?

Yeah that's precisely what it is. It happened very early on in the relationship (aha, there's my problem isn't it?). It always bothered me a little internally but I never put any stock into it.
I don't deny being beta but I have no clue how to exert dominance. i was brought up in a family where obedience was key, leading to a very meek personality which I feel I would do better without. However I feel both ends of that statement are true-that she is dominant, and that I am supplicating and butthurt about it.

That's why I am attempting to do things differently.
I don't quite understand how this is possible. I've heard of it before, but never understood. Please tell me more.

I should correct the template of the statement that irks me, it's actually along the lines of 'in X situation, shouldn't you be doing Y for H?'

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There are two examples.

First was when I specifically asked to speak to her about my beef with her looking at this other guy with doe eyes all the time.

She crumbled into a mess of sobs and physically attempted to press her body hard against me (i suspect this was meant to supplicate me, but I cannot be sure). I stood my ground and insisted that this was a problem, and that crying would get her nowhere. She admitted to crushing on him before, and we got a deal for her to help me look as good as him.

Right after that she collapsed in a conscious faint. My gut doubts the legitimacy of it, but I always put safety over other things so I arm carried her back to her girlfriends and went to meet my friend because we'd prearranged a meeting (I had no idea how this would blow up in such a manner).

A few days later she comes back to me and complains 'you know, when your girlfriend is sick you should actually send her back rather than let her stay with her friends, who probably cannot physically support her'. I kept quiet because I was still undecided as to the legitimacy of the fainting.

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Second situation. My friends recently booted a post of mine from 3 years back to the top of my timeline. Inside I jokingly express a desire to marry a foreign girl due to facial similarities. It's embarrassing but it's years ago and way before I even got together with her.

My friends (15-20 of them) couldn't stop commenting on or liking it, so it was practically at the top of the news feed for a whole day. I know that reacting to it in the initial stages will generally make the shitstorm even bigger. So I keep my cool and jab them back in the comments.

She says I should discipline my friends for misbehaving.

And also, 'when that post resurfaced, shouldn't you also be thinking oh shit, H will be pissed? It's as if I do not exist to your friends.' After that she complains about me having low maturity.

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There's your context.

Yeah that's precisely what it is. It happened very early on in the relationship (aha, there's my problem isn't it?). It always bothered me a little internally but I never put any stock into it.
I don't deny being beta but I have no clue how to exert dominance. i was brought up in a family where obedience was key, leading to a very meek personality which I feel I would do better without. However I feel both ends of that statement are true-that she is dominant, and that I am supplicating and butthurt about it.

That's why I am attempting to do things differently.

It sounds very much to me that you have difficult drawing a distinction between assertiveness and aggression; operating from an obedience frame your whole life can make the distinction very murky, and as a result engaging in any assertive behavior will feel unnatural. Learning what healthy boundaries look like would be a good place for you to start. I hear good things about this book from my colleague/friend http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/boundar ... 0310494812
I don't quite understand how this is possible. I've heard of it before, but never understood. Please tell me more.

I should correct the template of the statement that irks me, it's actually along the lines of 'in X situation, shouldn't you be doing Y for H?'

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There are two examples.

First was when I specifically asked to speak to her about my beef with her looking at this other guy with doe eyes all the time.

She crumbled into a mess of sobs and physically attempted to press her body hard against me (i suspect this was meant to supplicate me, but I cannot be sure). I stood my ground and insisted that this was a problem, and that crying would get her nowhere. She admitted to crushing on him before, and we got a deal for her to help me look as good as him.

Right after that she collapsed in a conscious faint. My gut doubts the legitimacy of it, but I always put safety over other things so I arm carried her back to her girlfriends and went to meet my friend because we'd prearranged a meeting (I had no idea how this would blow up in such a manner).

I can speculate on her intentions, but I won't as that is fruitless. Her behavior, however (e.g. fainting) is mellow dramatic, may be a bit on the histrionic side

A few days later she comes back to me and complains 'you know, when your girlfriend is sick you should actually send her back rather than let her stay with her friends, who probably cannot physically support her'. I kept quiet because I was still undecided as to the legitimacy of the fainting.

Drama.

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Second situation. My friends recently booted a post of mine from 3 years back to the top of my timeline. Inside I jokingly express a desire to marry a foreign girl due to facial similarities. It's embarrassing but it's years ago and way before I even got together with her.

Why rock the boat with that comment. Anyone with at least half a brain would know it'd be incendiary, so my question is WHY?

My friends (15-20 of them) couldn't stop commenting on or liking it, so it was practically at the top of the news feed for a whole day. I know that reacting to it in the initial stages will generally make the shitstorm even bigger. So I keep my cool and jab them back in the comments.

She says I should discipline my friends for misbehaving.

What she's saying is you should know how to set proper boundaries with your friends. Your "jab" at their comments in and of itself wasn't evidence of that in her mind. Are you afraid to assert yourself with your friends, or did you just not see the harm on this post?

And also, 'when that post resurfaced, shouldn't you also be thinking oh shit, H will be pissed? It's as if I do not exist to your friends.' After that she complains about me having low maturity.

"Low maturity" - she feels irrelevant, or at least did so with the way you'd responded to that post. She has needsto be respected and valued, both weren't met by how you dealt with the post IMHO.

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There's your context.