Hey guys, first post though I've been lurking for a while. These forums have been a massive help to me in regards to self improvement, and realising some huge downfalls in the way I interact and have relationships with women. Thank you! Anyway, I have a question I haven't seen posted.

When a girl is talking to you, and say she touches her lips, or even bites/ sucks her finger, is there a right or wrong thing to do regarding eye contact while she's doing these things?

If a girl does these things while I'm talking to her/ she's talking to me, I've always kept eye contact and continued on the interaction/ conversation like she hasn't done anything, and am unnaffected by her suggestive actions. For some reason I almost feel like I should give these sort of actions any attention. I'm wondering if it would be better to look down at their lips/ mouth while they're doing it, and give a little seductive smile, or even just look at what they're doing for a couple seconds then back to eye contact just to acknowledge it? Is there anything else that's good to do in response to this type of thing?

This is a game of mimics (from your part). When such things happen to me, I just do whatever feels right. I let my emotions and impulses control my mimics (but I may also control and stop my impulses if they are inappropriate). So, without avoiding your question any further... What is appropriate to do?

If a girls starts licking her finger, biting her lips or whatever, it is an obvious IOI. If it's early on in the interaction, it is even too obvious IMHO! She is giving herself away too easily, which would turn me off. I would probably look at her with slight disgust. That can either spoil everything and the game is lost, or (depending on how desperate she is) she would start chasing me even more, making me want to escape and take the first taxi home. In either case, I don't get the girl. The "right" thing to do (if you still want the girl, despite her obvious IOIs), would probably be to tell her "take it easy girl, not so fast, you have to be patient". But it depends on where you are in your interaction...

If you are standing up (not sitting at a table) and you feel the heat between you two, you can indeed start looking at her lips. That is the "sign" that you want to kiss her. Look back up in her eyes and keep talking almost as if nothing happened. Without changing the subject, you start to pull her closer to you and lower your voice to a more sensual tone. When you are done talking (after a couple of seconds hopefully), you just kiss her and make out.

If you are sitting at a table in front of each other, the situation is a bit more tricky. I would make something up as a reason to stand up. "Would you rather go to the bar and talk?" for instance. If you sit next to each other, it's almost as if you were standing up - just lean forward a bit and read her reaction, try to find out whether she is ready for a kiss.